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So my middle dd is headed off to college in a week. She's not going far, only a hour away.  She's excited, ready to move on. I however am turning into a weepy mess.  She's my first kid to leave.  She has been to Haiti, Africa, Mexico, and this year Poland and away for lots of weeks of camp over the years.  She is responicable , smart, talented, and had chosen a major that is perfect for her.
I kind of figured at this point in my journey I would have someone in my life.  I have dated. The last guy stuck around for 5 months. Told me wasn't "over" my lh and my kids weren't fond of him.  I knew he wasn't Mr right.  However he was fun. I get a decent amount of attention from guys, however I'm picky and I don't just want a warm body. 
I hate being single, loved being married. Not real fond of dating. My weepyness is not so much her leaving but the fact that here 6 years after lhs death it can hardly find someone I want to spend a evening with let alone have a relationship with.  This just really sucks. I'm now having a hard time meeting people because I've already done all the stuff one does to meet people. I have bunches of friends yet..

Captains wife:
I have been widowed 5.25 years. I thought I would re-couple relatively easily - I was completely wrong....While I am seeing someone now, I'm still very much in the dating phase. I think one thing I learned in this whole journey was that I could be on my own and be ok with it - it took some time but I am there now. I have made sure that I have a relatively active social life & hobbies, spend as much quality time with my son as I can (he is still young) and am better about keeping in touch with friends and family who are not near by - I have learned I am happy on my own, although I prefer to have someone in my life. Good that you are trying to get out there and re-establish a social life - it takes time and I had a lot of misses with it. In the end, it worked best when I joined groups where we had similar interests so keep trying ! From it, I have established close female friendships for which I am thankful as I feel a lot less alone compared to the beginning. And - although its tough - I found dating the only way to meet men..I tried to keep a good sense of humor about it and I also met some great male friends along the way. (Its also good to remain selective - I have been too...)

Wishing you all the best - and congrats on how well your DD is doing ! You must be proud although I can imagine its so tough to see her leave. 

Wishing you the best of luck. I'm also around 5 1/2 years out, and have had a lot of trouble with dating. I miss the companionship the most, but I've decided to give up on dating for the forseable future. I have a great support of friends and hobbies that keep me busy.

Yes, our youngest heads away to college soon, he's picked a campus further away than his siblings did.
I'm struggling with this like a cat in a wet paper sack

I miss my best friend so much, but admit I think I might be ready for a friend. But I am not up to dating, screening, just finding out I'm not cool enough for someone.

I can relate to a lot of what you said. I meet men fairly easily, but not the type I'm looking for.  I want something more than a warm body too. I loved being half of a couple. Dating lately has been disappointing and discouraging. February will be 4 years for me. I feel like I'm wasting my young years and I'll be forever alone. I do feel blessed to have found true love with my late husband though. I know some people never do.

Loneliness is a heartless bitch.  😔


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