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6 Months and 2 things I remembered today

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Hit the 6 month mark yesterday. (What a strange and painful set of words to type...) Someone told me today that it seems like I'm "healing well," but all I heard was "you're getting very good at acting like a normal person in public." Anyway, I guess I belong in this time frame now. "Shock Wears Off, Reality Sets In" doesn't seem quite right yet.

Now for some randomness from the amazing life I had before. Here are two small things that I remembered today for the first time (I think). 
1. There was a tall weed near the drive that we shared with my in-laws. When you were driving up the lane at night, and your headlights hit it a certain way, it looked like a deer about to run into the road. DW and I came up with the clever name "deer plant." Every single time that girl would pull into the driveway at night, she would tap on the brakes a bit hard and mumble "stupid deer plant."

2. There are lots of oak trees where I live, so naturally there plenty of acorns on the ground as fall approaches. One time, I told her that I liked the way it felt/ sounded when I stepped on the green ones (weird, I know). She thought it was hilarious. It became one of our inside jokes that every time one of us saw a green acorn we would go out of our way to step on it.

 I miss her so much.

As hard as it may be, I'm glad you had these memories. They can be gifts. They made my heart smile just a bit with trying to imagine these simple but actually intimate interactions between you and your wife.



Yes it is nice to remember those little things just between the 2 of you.  I remember early out when I remembered those little moments it hurt like hell.  It's different for me now and it makes me smile.  Now and again it hits.
I remember at about 4 months being told by a "friend" that I'm getting better.  I wanted to say "Um ok, I don't have a cold don't ya know"
I get when you say "strange and painful set of words"  It is so unbelievable isn't it.
Hugs to you Bromans

Thanks for sharing broman.  Beautiful memories for you. 
I didn't let beautiful memories creep in for a long time, I thought they would be too painful.  I now wish I would have let them come to me sooner. 
I hope the familiarity of your beautiful memories give you some comfort.

Little details you shared with your partner are precious when you can remember them. It reminds you of the beauty of small inconsequential thing to the normal person but we see a greater thing in that moment. Thank you for sharing.

As for looking like you are feeling better, again no one realizes we are just faking it as best as we can. It's tiring being as miserable as we feel every single day and no one can see or know that part unless we want to share that fact. Hugs for you today.


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