Author Topic: And now I'm older than he got to be.  (Read 146 times)

Mrskro

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And now I'm older than he got to be.
« on: November 03, 2017, 05:48:53 PM »
And I don't know why this one is so much harder.

 Our birthdays are 4 days apart.  So really on his last birthday I was already on this planet longer than he was.  But now I"m officially older than he got to be.  How is that even possible? And even worse...and I get it...how others don't see why this is a thing...but it's a thing...a huge thing to me.

I shouldn't be older than he got to be.

BrokenHeart2

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Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
« Reply #1 on: November 03, 2017, 06:51:36 PM »
MK they don't get it if they haven't been through this.  I get it.  It was huge to me when I became older than DH a couple of yrs ago.  It just was surreal to me.
Hugs.
I don't want it to be his legacy that his death destroyed me.
I need to honour his life by rebuilding my life.

daysofelijah

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Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
« Reply #2 on: November 04, 2017, 08:36:13 AM »
It is a weird feeling. I was three years younger than DH, now I'm three years older than he ever got to be. He'll forever be 39.
Amy, mom to four (14,13,9,5)

Bunny

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Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
« Reply #3 on: November 04, 2017, 10:31:10 AM »
I guess this is one widow thing I get to skip, since I married someone younger than me. When he died, he was 18 months younger. Now, he's 7 years younger than me. Death math is so discombobulating sometimes!

It is a fearful thing to love what Death can touch.

First Widow

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Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
« Reply #4 on: November 04, 2017, 10:44:29 AM »
I was only 11 months younger than my husband and it was hard.  Even this year being 2 years older was bittersweet.  (((hugs)))
"But slowly he stole my broken heart and put the pieces back together while I wasn’t looking…and I love him."

sojourner

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Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
« Reply #5 on: November 04, 2017, 11:41:30 AM »
I get it, Mrskro; will there soon, myself. :(

Lmsmdm

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Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
« Reply #6 on: November 05, 2017, 07:52:20 PM »
December of 2016. It was brutal. I so get this.
You hate me don't you? Yup, so much I married you twice! :)