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Congratulations!  You can do this! 

My brother, a professor, left his tenured position for a small college that was more tuned to his research and teaching philosophies.  No regrets!

I left my secure job of 19 yrs. with benefits.  Not a state job but state retirement from a long ago agreement.  My other brother told me I was stupid.  One more yr. and I would have had health care for life paid.  I still have my retirement setting and get 75% of my health care paid as long as the state doesn’t belly up.  But I wouldn’t change the last 3 yrs. I have had with my now teen son.  The time was worth it for me. 

Good luck with the freedom!  It will take bit to get used to it.  Life is too short to be miserable. 

Congrats! Logged in today after weeks off and saw this, found it ironic that my last day at my job was the 9th. I'm having a hard time believing that I finally had the nerve to do it and wondering if my new  job with its promised 20 hours and possibility more is really a good idea.  Oh but the relief, never thought I would change careers at 50.

imissdow!  You did it!  So proud of you.  You know, Scott died and I thought I had to be this fierce feminist Mommy and "do it all, all of the time."  I turned out to be a grumpy, exhausted Mommy who did nothing well and who complained constantly about her job.  That wasn't the ultimate catalyst for my resignation (that is a whole other story) but it sure did become a factor.  If I want to raise a healthy, happy young woman, I need to be one myself (well, maybe not the young part anymore).  I had to take some control.  xoxoxox

I read something recently from an older woman's perspective that said something like "we fought for the generations after us to be able to have it all, but we never meant for you to have it all at the same time"... I too walked away from a career and dream position 22 months ago and don't regret it at all. This time of healing and enjoying my kids has been worth it, even though I do miss my career at times and still haven't figured out what I want to be next.

Twin_mom, thank you for your comment.  I should have done this 22 months ago!  But I am a child of the 70s. The messages were conflicted.  I was taught to soldier on no matter what.  I did that but it dod not work.  Its been a month since I resigned.  I love being able to be here for my weird hormonal 5th grader.  She got the short shrift a lot of the time during my husband's illness and after his death and then when I got psycho about moving up the ladder at my job.  I'm glad I can be there for her in these dicey times.  Its astonishing how little I worry about not knowing what's next or how little I miss going to that place I've gone to almost every day for the last 15 years.  Sometimes, I do feel like I was sold a bill of goods.  Be ambitious but not too ambitious.  Be your own person but keep it within some sort of unstated cultural/social norms.  I'm still sorting a lot of that stuff out, trying to make sure I don't pass those mixed messages on to my daughter. 


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