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You are not alone. The more you read on this site you'll see that. Our journeys are all different but we share many themes. How you go through your grief will be unique to you and no matter what remember: It is your normal. There is no right or wrong way to do it. Don't expect much of yourself. Just be gentle, take your time, get the support you need and do the work as it comes. I think feeling nothing is actually perfectly normal. It's part of the initial shock. I felt very similar at first. And then out of the blue the pain would come in like a wave of the most raw gut-wrenching pain that is unimaginable. No rhyme or reason either. And I would cry and break down and wish the world would end. And then go back to feeling nothing. Looking back at it now I think it was my body dosing me with the pain slowly over time. Allowing my brain to take it in bite-size pieces and then giving me a vacation from it so that I could recover for the next round. Because I think in reality if we took it in all at once it would probably kill us. But again, that is my take on my journey. Don't be afraid to reach out on here. It can be comforting to know you are not alone. KK

The first few weeks and months can be overwhelming. But it can be comforting to know that you are not alone and there is a place to find some comfort from other that have been where you are now.

As for books that might help you, that is an individual thing. When this new board started, I brought over a list of posts from the old board of suggested readings. You can find it as the first post in the “Books and Quotes” section. There is a lot of info packed in there so try not to get overwhelmed. At least it will give you titles and authors you can check into.  And you can pick and choose anything that my sound helpful to you or worth your time. Hopefully more people will post their own recommendations for you.

Unfortunately there doesn’t  seem to be any quick fixes to grief and it usually takes time to find a way through it. But there is hope and support here. Take care of yourself.

I really enjoyed ‘I’m Grieving as Fast as I Can’ by Linda Feinberg.

I second the book Serpico recommends. A local widow who sort of mentored me a bit after I lost my husband was my email convo buddy and gave me that book. It really helped my perspective and helped me sort out the thoughts in my head.


--- Quote from: Leadfeather on December 22, 2017, 12:53:06 PM ---C.S. Lewis "A Grief Observed"

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This was one of the only grief books that didn't bother me.  It surprised me, because it's religious and I'm not, and it still was the best one in my opinion.  It's short and easy, but has gems in it that make you think, "Yes!  Exactly!"  It's his journals in the time just after his wife died (she died of cancer, so not sudden, but I lost DH in a completely unexpected accident, and it still resonated).  Extremely relatable. 


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