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Trying

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"This is Us"
« on: February 05, 2018, 08:40:28 AM »
Watching this show last night after the super bowl was a bad idea, it brought the pain of 4 1/2 years ago right back.  I cried all night and am a big puffy mess this morning. We always had a big Super Bowl party.  So little in my life is the same as it was back then and for the most part I have accepted that but last night I really missed him and I missed us.
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« Reply #1 on: February 05, 2018, 08:47:22 AM »
hugs.
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« Reply #2 on: February 05, 2018, 10:13:37 AM »
Yup.  All these folks are watching it and commenting on FB, and I am like, "been there , get it."  Made me remember telling my son his dad had died.  I had not thought of that memory in several years.  It is all in the brain, somewhere.

I saw how the mom had her rituals for the day, and I was like, "Spot on."  Folks will get it someday, likely, but it is real for many of us.

Hope all are faring well with it all. 

I spent the night watching the Superbowl with NG with his group of friends.  DH and I always had a party and then went to parties. We had one the last time Justin Timberlake was on, actually.  My old group posted FB pics.  It is just so strange in so many ways; surreal doesn't quite touch it. 


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« Reply #3 on: February 05, 2018, 10:28:28 AM »
I have avoided this show as I've heard it's very emotional. I'm sorry yesterday/now is tough...We can move on but it's so hard to miss the past sometimes. Hugs

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« Reply #4 on: February 05, 2018, 11:02:10 AM »
His birthday is this week also and I think even though I didn’t realize it was weighing on me, it is adding to my extra emotional state.
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« Reply #5 on: February 05, 2018, 03:31:14 PM »
Sneaky, isn't it, this grief thing?  I guess I've learned to accept that a meltdown here and there is going to happen, often when I'm least expecting it.  I got mine out of the way during the first half of the Superbowl.....This journey is a long one.  Hugs, friend. 

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« Reply #6 on: February 05, 2018, 06:21:37 PM »
I had stopped watching that show awhile ago , was sad to watch when I knew her husband had died
But it some how popped up on my face book .. the actual scene in the hospital
Stupid me clicked on and the tears flowed

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« Reply #7 on: February 06, 2018, 07:24:23 AM »
Big fan of This Is Us, waited to watch this episode as I didn't want to go through it with BF at my side. Saw it last night, this opened up some emotions that I shut down the night he died and I hadn't opened up much since.  I was a crying mess too - some things are so difficult to revisit and this brought on some of the darkest days grief that I tend to tuck away on a shelf.  Big big hugs Trying

edited to add - Is anybody planning to watch tonight?  Supposed to another emotional episode ....
« Last Edit: February 06, 2018, 07:35:59 AM by trying2breathe »
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« Reply #8 on: February 06, 2018, 09:36:08 AM »
I hate grief porn.
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tybec

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« Reply #9 on: February 06, 2018, 01:07:22 PM »
My dh would tell me I had crybaby shows, ones that I just would cry and that was it.  Well this is my new one.  But a whole new experience peering out from my own.  I am sorry it is so difficult for so many.  I weep but then I know that is okay. I loved and loved well.  The fact that a tv show can somehow show a little of that humanness is ok for me.

I would not watch it if it triggers trauma reactions. Or you just don’t need that in your life.  We all are so different in this journey, yes? 

I am sorry it hurts so deeply, trying. 

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« Reply #10 on: February 07, 2018, 07:51:48 AM »
I really love this show. Yes, there are some very tough, very real moments, but it’s just such a beautifully done show (that touches on other important stuff besides grief); so I soldier through those harder bits. Sometimes watching stuff like this can give me a really good cry that I didn’t even know I needed and can release the built-up pressure inside- free therapy!

Generally speaking- I had NO IDEA just how prevalent young widowhood was in movies and TV shows until it happened to me. It’s kind of turned into a joke now with me and my bf- when one shows up in whatever we’re watching; ‘yup, there they are!’

Sorry it hit you so hard, the lead-up to the birthday anniversary is always a hard one for me.
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Trying

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« Reply #11 on: February 07, 2018, 08:32:30 AM »
Bunny I think you hit it for me.  Sometimes I really need a good cry and this show gives me the excuse and the trigger to let it go.  I watched last nights episode too and the tears were much less but still there.  I don't give myself much time anymore to reflect on my loss and the scars it has left.  The kids and I talk about him and something brings him to mind every day but I don't often let the pain and sadness in.  When I watch a TV show or movie or hear a real life story about someone losing a spouse too young, my empathy for the widow/er is stronger than the walls I have built up.  At least this show gives me a chance to feel it in private and at a time I'm prepared for it.
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trying2breathe

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« Reply #12 on: February 07, 2018, 09:49:56 AM »
I watched last night too, interesting that I know it will hurt and yet decide to go there anyway.  It is like therapy to cry hard and let it go, and I hadn't done this for a long time.  It helps to be able to compartmentalize and tuck it away again though.
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« Reply #13 on: February 09, 2018, 08:37:28 AM »
Generally speaking- I had NO IDEA just how prevalent young widowhood was in movies and TV shows until it happened to me.

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« Reply #14 on: February 11, 2018, 05:41:46 PM »
I understand how you feel. This morning when I woke up I sobbed like I haven't in a couple years all because of a dream. I haven't stopped crying 8 hours later. It just comes and goes, but never really goes away. Hugs to you.