Author Topic: Purging  (Read 348 times)

Elle

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Purging
« on: April 10, 2018, 12:18:05 PM »
There have been several discussions on this topic and many reactions to what to do with what is left behind.  So far I am doing okay in reorganizing the things my DH left behind.  Some of his things I've thrown out and some I'm keeping.  Some given to my son and grandson.

 One thing I have a hard time deciding on is what to do is all his old MEDICAL RECORDS?  There are a lot of them!  I see no reason to keep them.  I don’t think it is necessary.  Any thoughts on this?  I am about ready to take them to the shredder.

sudnlysngl

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Re: Purging
« Reply #1 on: April 10, 2018, 12:29:24 PM »
Unless you know that you need any of them, shred them. They are of no use to you, only a reminder now.

trying2breathe

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Re: Purging
« Reply #2 on: April 10, 2018, 12:45:47 PM »
Hi Elle -  I've kept some of DH's medical records because of our children.  DH had heart issues, and I think that his med records might be of some help to my children some day.
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Julester3

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Re: Purging
« Reply #3 on: April 10, 2018, 01:12:10 PM »
I recommend scanning them and then shredding the hard copies. Easier to retrieve them on a flash drive than digging through paperwork.

Portside

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Re: Purging
« Reply #4 on: April 11, 2018, 08:55:57 AM »
I got rid of everything medical related.

They are of no use to anyone at this point. Any potential medical condition our children may have as a result of a genetic disposition will require a full work up by the appropriate specialist anyway. Our kids do need to be told about any such medical history but other than that, all new tests, observations, etc. will need to be administered, if needed.

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sudnlysngl

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Re: Purging
« Reply #5 on: April 11, 2018, 10:27:03 AM »
I got rid of everything medical related.

They are of no use to anyone at this point. Any potential medical condition our children may have as a result of a genetic disposition will require a full work up by the appropriate specialist anyway. Our kids do need to be told about any such medical history but other than that, all new tests, observations, etc. will need to be administered, if needed.

Good luck - Mike

Toosoon2.0

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Re: Purging
« Reply #6 on: April 11, 2018, 01:39:15 PM »
I got rid of it all.  Every page, every MRI print out, EVERYTHING.  I never wanted to be reminded of brain cancer ever again more than I knew I'd be reminded of brain cancer every day for the rest of my life already.  Burn it.  Shred it.  Make papier mache out of it.  I didn't even bother to do that - I just tossed it all in the recycling.  Seriously though, I've never needed any of it in five plus years.  Hugs.

Trying

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Re: Purging
« Reply #7 on: April 11, 2018, 08:21:26 PM »
I think it depends on the type of medical issue.

My son who has Crohn's disease like his his Dad is transitioning from a pediatric GI to adult and will be seeing his Dad's doctor so I don't need to keep those records.  The cancer he had is rare and has not been specifically tied to Crohn's or genetics yet but his siblings and my oldest have already had baseline colonoscopies before the standard age of 50.  My middle son has one every year and my youngest will have one at age 20.

For some reason I haven't been able to throw out the diary/written records I kept during his illness but I haven't looked at them since the time between the one year anniversary of his diagnosis and death.  I know I should but I feel like remembering those horrible 4 months is a way to show respect for the way he handled that time so admirably.
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faye

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Re: Purging
« Reply #8 on: April 16, 2018, 04:13:19 PM »
Because so many screenings are recommended now, hereditary conditions may not be as important as they once were.  My paternal grandmother died before I was born. She had cancer, but no one now knows what kind it started out as.  So, I've had regular mammograms and this year, a colonoscopy.  Those would be recommended whether or not we knew Grammy's history.

I started out with boxes and envelopes to send to this relative of Late Husband's or that one.  You know what?  All that stuff is mine now.  I no longer feel compelled to get it back to his relatives. I've thrown out a lot. My mom made a quilted throw from some of his clothes.