Author Topic: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?  (Read 77881 times)

jgib

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #465 on: August 26, 2017, 10:29:19 AM »
Jen, I don't think an apology is needed.  I happen to like when people express themselves without the filters that I seem to put on myself...... I admire it.....
Let judges, judge, but don't let them change you.  Shrug your shoulders and move on.  That is what seems to work for me......

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #466 on: August 26, 2017, 11:49:44 AM »
Hi everyone,

I can see that things got a little iffy on this post lately and I wanted to share a couple of thoughts.

This thread has a long history, both here on widda and previously on YWBB, of providing a safe place for our members to share what is on their mind regarding sex, intimacy, skin hunger etc. As such, it can get risqué.

The other thought is that if a particular post is of concern to you, there is always the opportunity to report the post to a moderator. This happens on an intermittent basis and the moderating team do our best to ensure that our guidelines for the board are met, and if not, the poster is advised (privately) that an alternative approach is needed.

Thanks so much! Bluebird.
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #467 on: August 26, 2017, 01:01:27 PM »
Jen, I also didn't see anything wrong with what you posted.  I have to admit I had a problem with the comment about widdowbagos not happening enough (not made by you).  I certainly do not want anyone thinking they are get together's for anything other than support and friendship.  Especially for the newbies since this is not a known term.  Plus they/we are vulnerable enough as it is which could turn people off checking out a bago some time.
Hugs to all.
« Last Edit: August 29, 2017, 09:13:50 PM by BrokenHeart2 »
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #468 on: August 26, 2017, 01:50:54 PM »
Thank you, Maureen. And seriously, Christopher and Jen, take it offline or get a room. Something. Jeez.

More like Calimoderator  ::)
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BrokenHeart2

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #469 on: August 26, 2017, 03:02:44 PM »
That is uncalled for serpico.
I don't want it to be his legacy that his death destroyed me.
I need to honour his life by rebuilding my life.

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #470 on: August 26, 2017, 10:45:19 PM »
Lighten up folks! This is a thread that goes from somewhat serious talk of needs and desires to the light hearted fun and raunchy. If you don't like the playful nature of the posts skip it and read another thread.  Many people here are raw and vulnerable on the subject of loss of physical intimacy in widowhood. No one should feel bad about expressing that seriously or jokingly.

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calimom

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #471 on: August 27, 2017, 01:01:03 AM »
Jen, hope you're ok, sounds like you're going through a rough patch.

I do appreciate a good conversation here, i't helpful when different viewpoints can be discussed. Glad you all thought everything was aboveboard. Its true, this is an anything goes thread. While one or two of us found a few things off base, not everyone did, and that's what makes us all unique. I'm certainly no prude and not interested in being a hall monito.  I greatly appreciate the efforts of the moderators here.  And Serpico and Trying, absolutely love that both of you are ducking into this particular forum! That's really fun!
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #472 on: August 27, 2017, 03:30:07 PM »
And Serpico and Trying, absolutely love that both of you are ducking into this particular forum! That's really fun!

Calimom,

Was this necessary? No matter how I interpret your comment, it seems passive aggressive.

abl

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #473 on: August 28, 2017, 12:17:44 AM »
It seems like so many of us are terribly sexually frustrated. There's only one sure way to fix that with the assurance that we won't have that need again (unless we are widowed once more).

I personally am deeply interested in finding someone new to love on. At this rate I may just have to go outside of the norm and cradle rob due to the lack of interested parties my own age.

Life just happens. Deal with it or don't, it will keep on happening. If you don't deal with it, it makes an unholy mess that you won't like cleaning up. If you do deal with it, great job!
Keep moving forward. Some days it seems like you can't, but you find that even though you are numb with ... well, numb with everything, that you indeed can move forward. Make sure that "forward" isn't dangerous first. You can make this judgment call quite effortlessly. Stop doubting yourself.

I find that fear is typically the largest barrier to your own living of life. Take your time.

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #474 on: August 28, 2017, 01:15:50 PM »
I agree...no filtering, no judgement.  We should feel comfortable expressing our feelings here with others we know understand. That's why we joined Widda.
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #475 on: August 29, 2017, 05:43:11 PM »
I haven't been on these boards for a while.
Taking a break for a bit. I guess maybe it was a good thing.

I have to say, I'm really disappointed at this last exchange.
Jen said nothing inappropriate for this thread, in any way, shape, or form.

If you feel the need to pass judgement, try and resist and scroll on by. I would hope no one will ever be this judgemental on anything you may post.


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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #476 on: August 29, 2017, 06:19:18 PM »
Just in case anyone took my post incorrectly, it's purpose was to clarify what bagos are about. I should have been more careful with the quote I used, because it had nothing to do with Jen's post.

I have already personally apologized to Jen for my error. I will be more careful in the future.

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Christopher

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #477 on: August 30, 2017, 11:06:28 PM »
I felt heavily judged for expressing myself. I felt alienated and like I did something wrong by following the thread's context, content and purpose.

I had hope for this site. I was incorrect.

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #478 on: September 02, 2017, 01:48:54 PM »
Christopher, you did nothing wrong and nothing out of context for this thread. I'm sorry. 

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #479 on: September 03, 2017, 05:26:31 PM »
Hey guys, everything's cool. Let's just chalk it up to the weather and the eclipse. Much love for all of you!
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