Author Topic: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?  (Read 82061 times)

gretchen437

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #30 on: March 21, 2015, 06:12:07 PM »
I think I am in desperate need of some action. I haven't started dating because between school, kids, work, and bar prep I just haven't had the time. it is starting to seriously affect my dreams though. I had the most wonderful (and graphic) dream about a lovely woman last night.  ;)

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #31 on: April 01, 2015, 01:01:30 PM »
Casual sex isn't as awful, awkward, or empty as I thought it would be. Maybe I'm more at ease because he's a friend.  It's exactly what I need at the moment. I'm not ready to give myself completely to someone else.
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #32 on: April 02, 2015, 07:29:12 AM »
Virgo, I'm doing the same thing myself.  It's a wonderful release and for that little bit of time, I feel better. There's a lot to be said about the release of endorphins I guess, lol.  I'm not ready for anything more either and we're just perfect the way we are. He's my best friend.
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #33 on: April 04, 2015, 03:52:32 PM »
I need action again. It's only been a week but the more I have, the more I want. Just give me another orgasm already.
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #34 on: April 04, 2015, 06:18:22 PM »
I was thinking today too that I wish our schedules were more open. :)
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #35 on: April 09, 2015, 05:05:38 PM »
Man I think about this a lot. I am not a sexual goddess but my husband and I just worked. He always said i was like a video game that he just got. He knew he could get me going so easily and we enjoyed sex....a lot.  I  hope I find someone who can make me feel this way again. Someone who can just make me hot and feel good, really, really good.

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #36 on: April 12, 2015, 01:08:12 AM »
tmwenger, I think that makes things even more difficult for us. Our spouses knew exactly what we enjoyed. Now we're back to the awkward beginning phase.

Things with my friend need to progress a bit or I'm going to lose interest. :)
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #37 on: April 22, 2015, 09:29:43 AM »
sexsexsexsexsexsex.  I just want really close, bodies touching, romping til exhausted sex.  Is that too much to ask?  Apparently so.
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #38 on: April 22, 2015, 12:36:57 PM »
I was used to sex on a whim.
2, 3, 7 times a day.
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #39 on: April 22, 2015, 01:22:53 PM »
I just want to turn it off and not think about it anymore. It hurts too much. :(
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #40 on: April 23, 2015, 06:33:53 PM »
Well, here's a laugh for you. My work will no longer allow me to access my blog from the office.

It is now being flagged as "pornographic". Who'd have thought a grief blog would be pornographic?!?! Well, turns out mine is, apparently.  But there's not even any naked pictures - just me complaining about lack of sex and talking about grief shit.

Also, it appears that I swear a shit load more than your average person, hence it being blocked by work 😳
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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #41 on: April 24, 2015, 10:37:19 AM »
Well, fuck me side-wise, Grace. That's a laugh!

look2thesky

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #42 on: April 24, 2015, 12:43:15 PM »
Is that not side..
Ways ?
; )

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #43 on: April 24, 2015, 01:12:35 PM »
I just want to turn it off and not think about it anymore. It hurts too much. :(

Have you tried meditation? Even simple mindfulness meditation ??

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Re: kagill's Real Sex, what are you needing?
« Reply #44 on: April 24, 2015, 03:40:33 PM »
Have you tried meditation? Even simple mindfulness meditation ??


Yes... I used to practice regularly, but I've lost the knack. I can't make my brain be still, it's like a hamster on crack. I can't even regulate my breathing anymore, and at one time I was pretty good at that. It's not even actual sex I'm wanting right now, it's more that I'm terrified that I'll never have sex again. No one will ever want me. I shouldn't admit that, I guess, but if I can't be candid in this thread, where can I? I'm 40 years old. My husband died; my libido didn't. I mean I am seriously, deeply afraid that I'm never going to be touched again. The idea that I might have to spend another 40 years celibate-- never any sex at all, let alone the kind I want-- is nearly as devastating to me as the fact of Jim's death. That probably makes me a terrible, jacked up person in need of professional help, but-- fuck it, I have to wear the mask everywhere else, I may as well lay it all out here. Hope no one will hold it against me. And if they do, well, I'm sorry. It's just where I am.
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I have love in me the likes of which you can scarcely imagine and rage the likes of which you would not believe. If I cannot satisfy the one, I will indulge the other. ~Mary Shelley, Frankenstein

"Dying is easy. Living is hard. ~George Washington, Hamilton