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gracelet

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #135 on: December 29, 2015, 06:42:41 AM »
1. Got a new tattoo after searching for the perfect artist for five years. It didn't hurt anywhere near as much as I remembered my first one hurting. Guess our pain thresholds as widows are extremely high!

2. Played my childhood piano into the wee hours last night. Many songs from musicals that make me happy.

3. Finally had the privacy for a good cry (after almost a week of being stuck with small children and family)
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Re: Three good things
« Reply #136 on: December 29, 2015, 07:39:01 AM »
1.  Shopping and lunch day with Mom, her sister, and friend.
2.  Boys day for Dad, uncle, and my boys.
3.  Slept soundly for 8 hrs. last night.  Feeling great today.

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #137 on: December 29, 2015, 07:30:19 PM »

1. Started the day at the gym, weights and then a swim, sauna and jacuzzi.

2. Got lots of recycling done. I am moving in May to a new home right in the middle of the city, it is being built just now and I am pretty excited about it but am taking the opportunity to get rid of lots of clutter. Today I managed to sort all the photos without crying. I also took lots of stuff to be recycled which always feels good.

It's going to look like this. I am leaving my large family house on the edge of the city for a gorgeous apartment right in the centre, huge move for me (as I am sure you all can understand) and life will be very different, but I hope in a good way.




3. Worked this evening (sad but true) and got lots of my planning done for next term as well as writing some social stories, finishing IEPs and printing child friendly target sheets, designing a form and completing a maths assessment exemplar for a course. I always work best when I have a clear list and focus on one job at a time and tonight I crossed loads off my list. Next term is going to be a busy one as I am leading some training sessions and need to get these all sorted too this week.

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #138 on: December 30, 2015, 09:57:43 AM »
1.  Boys finished their Christmas thank you notes with very little prompting this year.  In the mail.
2.  Minimalism is reaping benefits with amount of house cleaning.  Closets hold everything and clutter is gone.
3.  New Year's Eve buffet and family sports activities planned at church.  Happy kids - Happy Momma.

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #139 on: December 30, 2015, 06:12:34 PM »

Minimalism is on my agenda too mmg, for me the possessions have so little value now, I know for others the opposite is true.

1. I again spent a chunk of the day clearing out things. Since Graham died 3 and a half years ago now, a half eaten bar of his favourite chocolate has remained in his bedside cabinet. It was time to throw it out and it's now gone.

2. Headed into Edinburgh this evening for some Turkish food with friends, they did a mezze meal and the starter selection would have been enough without the mains. Wonderful food.

3. The same friends and I went to see some hip-hop improvisation after eating, the trio were genius.

Tomorrow is a huge day for me and I am facing the biggest of all of my demons. After so many years of hosting a Hogmanay party and always having a houseful of people I will be alone for 'the bells'. Being alone has been the thing I have found toughest of all as a widow, being alone on Hogmanay would be a huge deal for anyone Scottish. It will be a huge test of character. My survival record so far is impeccable, all passes with no fail and tomorrow is just another day to get through.

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #140 on: December 31, 2015, 11:05:26 AM »
1. My pre-schooler's broken leg is getting better day by day. He is crawling around the floor in his full leg cast now.

2. I actually have plans for NY's Eve.

3. I seem to be making a dent in all the work I have to catch up with.

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #141 on: December 31, 2015, 11:29:24 AM »
1. I only have to work a half day at work today and it is sloooooooooow.
2. It is looking probable that some time after the new year I will move into a new position within my department that takes me out of the daily grind and allows me to focus more on big picture development for the team, which I am more passionate about.
3. I went to the zoo yesterday with Justin and his DD. We had a great time. :)
On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good. - Unknown

Don't be concerned about being disloyal to your pain by being joyous. - Hazrat Inayat Khan

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #142 on: January 01, 2016, 08:22:48 AM »

1. I survived the evening alone. Didn't even cry that much, Netflix was pretty good company.

2. Slept very well in my new bed sheets, 500 thread count, Egyptian cotton, Italian weave, so soft.

3. I managed to rein it in and not said any of the things to friends and relatives I would like to have said.

Onwards and upwards.

mmg19

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #143 on: January 01, 2016, 08:40:17 AM »
1.  I managed to stay awake until 12 last night. 
2.  Great time at church NYE bash.  Kids and I had fun.
3.  Enjoyed meeting 2 new families last night and that's a good thing.

Helen

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #144 on: January 01, 2016, 06:03:58 PM »

1. I survived.

2. Did a tough yoga session this morning and loved it.

3. Watched TV this evening with child #5, she is great and we had a little cry together too. She is a joy.

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #145 on: January 02, 2016, 09:48:44 AM »
1. New girl's family like me and I got in so well with them. It was our first meet over new year. They talked comfortably about my widow status in a way that was comfortable for me too.

2. I got to play with their dog. I loved cuddling her.

3. My new tattoo is healing beautifully.
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Re: Three good things
« Reply #146 on: January 02, 2016, 04:50:01 PM »
1. Ordered a new dishwasher today

2. Didn't cry all day

3. Youngest has been at an indoor watermark with a friend all day so no guilt about not planning anything fun for him myself.
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Re: Three good things
« Reply #147 on: January 02, 2016, 07:22:31 PM »

1. Started the day with a TRX/swim session. The exercise is really helping my mood.

2. Got more sorting done, kinda chuffed at how much I managed to do this holiday.

3. Chatting to a nice guy on a dating site at the moment. A little flirtatious hope is always welcome.

Looking forward to seeing pictures of the tattoo Grace. Thanks to you too Trying for posting  =)

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #148 on: January 03, 2016, 02:05:23 PM »

1. Went to church with a friend, the journey was lovely but I could not stay today, too difficult. I am very grateful to my friends who support me when the going gets tough.

2. Took down the Christmas tree decorations, a friend came round and helped. All of the decorations are now packed away ready to move.

3. Yoga session this evening, I loved this.

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Re: Three good things
« Reply #149 on: January 04, 2016, 03:39:19 PM »

1. Started the day at Body Pump, a great way to wake up, releases loads of good hormones.

2. Made soup and spent lunch with a lovely friend.

3. Healthy and well and all my appliances are working!