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lcoxwell

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One of my very favorite topics from YWBB was the "Say Their Name" thread. I don't remember who started it, but it was always one of my very favorites, because there was so much love poured out in the comments. On my really bad days, I could go there, read that thread, and find comfort.

From those of you who remember, or if the originator of that post just happens to be around, please, please correct me, if I get this wrong, as I would like to honor the purpose of the original post. As best as I can remember, the thread was started, because the people in our lives, for various reasons, avoid saying their names and seem uncomfortable when we do. There is such significance in saying our loved ones' names. So much of who they were, so much of our memories, so much of what we lost is connected to their names. There is a personal connection, that sometimes we just need to feel.

So now, once again, I would like to provide a place, where we can go to say their names.
"The highest tribute to the dead is not grief but gratitude." - Thornton Wilder

Thank you, my dearest Kenneth, for loving me and for giving me the best 13 years of my life.

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Re: Say Their Names (Resurrecting a favorite topic from the old board)
« Reply #1 on: April 10, 2015, 11:09:07 PM »
His name is Dan. Danny. B. shoe. Fists. Moobear.

His name is Dan and he is still my husband, and I am still his wife.
You are the Bear of my heart dear,
And nothing can take that away.

lcoxwell

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Re: Say Their Names (Resurrecting a favorite topic from the old board)
« Reply #2 on: April 10, 2015, 11:18:32 PM »
His name was Kenneth, and he was my whole world. He felt things deeper and more profoundly, than any other man I have ever known. When he was angry, everyone knew to steer clear; and when he was happy, he could make the whole world smile with him. His laughter was infectious and drew people to him. He was course, irreverent, and cursed more than just about anyone I have ever met. He could tell a dirty joke or make up inappropriate lyrics to songs at the drop of the hat. At the same time, he could lay on the charm and engage just about anyone in conversation on just about any topic you would care to bring up.

When I met him, I was feeling adrift in a harsh world, and he saved me. He believed in me, more than I believed in myself. He encouraged me to pursue my dream of teaching, and he taught me that I could achieve anything, if I just set my mind to it and worked for it. He also taught me what it means to truly love and to be loved. He loved me with his whole heart, until his dying breath, and he loved my children as if they were his own. My life was better, because of him, and for that, I will be forever grateful.
"The highest tribute to the dead is not grief but gratitude." - Thornton Wilder

Thank you, my dearest Kenneth, for loving me and for giving me the best 13 years of my life.

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Re: Say Their Names (Resurrecting a favorite topic from the old board)
« Reply #3 on: April 11, 2015, 08:24:11 AM »
My first love was Barry.  He was the weakest yet most resilient man I'd ever met.



My second love was John, my polarbear.  Affectionate, brilliant, a humble teacher.  His impact was long beyond what he realized.

Life is short.  Love with all you've got. 

Barry 11/29/55-9/22/09       John  1/16/57-1/11/14

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Re: Say Their Names (Resurrecting a favorite topic from the old board)
« Reply #4 on: April 11, 2015, 04:14:40 PM »
His name was Shawn..Shawny..Shawnaboo..Sweetie..
He was the strongest person I ever knew.
He was blunt and honest, sarcastic and stubborn. He also had the kindest heart, was patient, loving, sincere, hardworking, smart and loved with all of his heart.
He was the type of guy who would help anyone, with anything, sometimes to the point where I would resent all the time he spent helping people out.
He wasn't perfect, but we were perfect together!
I miss him, I will always miss him...

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Re: Say Their Names (Resurrecting a favorite topic from the old board)
« Reply #5 on: April 11, 2015, 07:57:23 PM »
This made me cry  I loved this one too!
His name was Gord ( saying this makes me cry) and he rocked my world. We just connected in so many ways. We had our troubles like all couples do but I can remember, he'd walk into a room and would catch his eye I'd just get that oh so feeling. Oh gosh I miss his love, gaze, smile and mutual sarcasm.  I just so much miss him so much in every way it hurts.
I don't want it to be his legacy that his death destroyed me.
I need to honour his life by rebuilding my life.

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« Reply #6 on: April 11, 2015, 08:52:19 PM »
Leo. It seemed so unusual to me the night we met. I had never known anyone with that name. He was the kindest person I have ever known. Truly. Such quick wit and quiet humor. We adored each other. Every time I walked through or into a room where he was, he lit up. No person has ever looked at me with such love. Sigh to people dying so young. Leo.

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Re: Say Their Names (Resurrecting a favorite topic from the old board)
« Reply #7 on: April 11, 2015, 10:26:57 PM »
His name was MIKE.
He should still be here.
His name was Dad
He should still be here.

we loved him.
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« Reply #8 on: April 12, 2015, 01:11:31 AM »
His name is Brooks. Fiercely loyal to the ones he loved, a hard worker, quietly talented and intelligent--not one to boast or have a wish to be put on display. He had a deeply ingrained sense of fairness, of right and wrong. Inherent teaching aptitude--loved nothing more than teaching his nephews the mechanics of how something worked, patient as they learned. He wasn't overtly religious, but his faith was most assuredly his anchor. Idiosyncratically, the man had temper, and flares would often result in a litany of expletives!

On the less serious side, he was verbose, and had a propensity to chat up folks he'd only just met; just really interested in the world around him and the people that inhabit it. He loved to laugh, and was quick to smile no matter what he endured. He wasn't one to fret and worry. A clever mimic, he would crack me up with his impressions and sound effects that he'd punctuate his stories with. I called him Brooks Bear, and he dubbed me " Sugar Machine".

He was a family man. A good man. He was a well-suited husband to me, my matching bookend. After my divorce, Brooks had came along, and he restored my trust, and was a balm on my raw and tattered heart. He righted all the wrongs of my life, and I felt redeemed, in a sense.

How can you ever thank someone for a thing like that? I'm not sure I ever did do justice to the gratitude I felt for this wondrous creature that came passing through my life, renovating all aspects of it in his short while with me.

But, I unabashedly and breathlessly loved him. I'll love him until my heart fades from beating.

Baylee
Though lovers be lost, love shall not, and death shall have no dominion--Dylan Thomas

lcoxwell

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Re: Say Their Names (Resurrecting a favorite topic from the old board)
« Reply #9 on: April 12, 2015, 04:27:38 PM »
He righted all the wrongs of my life, and I felt redeemed, in a sense.

How can you ever thank someone for a thing like that? I'm not sure I ever did do justice to the gratitude I felt for this wondrous creature that came passing through my life, renovating all aspects of it in his short while with me.

But, I unabashedly and breathlessly loved him. I'll love him until my heart fades from beating.

Baylee

Beautifully stated, Baylee. I could have said this very same thing about my Kenneth. I think our two men would have liked each other, had they ever met.
"The highest tribute to the dead is not grief but gratitude." - Thornton Wilder

Thank you, my dearest Kenneth, for loving me and for giving me the best 13 years of my life.

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Re: Say Their Names (Resurrecting a favorite topic from the old board)
« Reply #10 on: April 12, 2015, 06:17:31 PM »
Daisy. Her name was Daisy.
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Re: Say Their Names (Resurrecting a favorite topic from the old board)
« Reply #11 on: April 13, 2015, 06:21:08 PM »
His name was Dan..Danny..Butch..Dad and, in August, would have been known as Grandpa.  A sweet and loving soul who was known for his smile, incredibly wide circle of friends, amazing ability to fix anything and a great attitude about living life to its fullest.  He loved me so much he married me twice and I struggle each and every day to wrap my mind around the fact that I will never see/touch him or share memories with him again.  He was my soulmate, life partner and absolute best friend forever.

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« Reply #12 on: April 13, 2015, 07:04:00 PM »
Her name is Debbie  Deborah nana sweety.  She was my rock my filter and warden. She had a knack of dealing the idiots of the world and touched so many people in a positive way. I can only hope to be more loving caring and understanding like she was. She set the bar high and I'm trying to measure up

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« Reply #13 on: April 13, 2015, 07:58:26 PM »
His name was Phil. It's hard for me to express everything he was, because he was my everything. Everyone that was interviewed after his death said they would always remember his 'infectious laughter.'
Jen

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Re: Say Their Names (Resurrecting a favorite topic from the old board)
« Reply #14 on: April 13, 2015, 10:41:46 PM »
Alan.  His name is Alan.
Every day was a gift.