Author Topic: Feeling Unsettled.  (Read 5112 times)

Eeyore

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Re: Feeling Unsettled.
« Reply #15 on: March 09, 2015, 10:47:14 PM »
Hey there, Newbie Lost35, I'm Eeyore, and I'm pleased to make your acquaintance.  ;)

I've been spending part of my evenings archiving old posts from YWBB.  It never dawned on me that I would have to do so.  It sucks.  And I never thought I would ever again be a "Newbie."

Lost35

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Re: Feeling Unsettled.
« Reply #16 on: March 09, 2015, 11:00:53 PM »
Hello, Fellow Newbie Eeyore.  I was having a bit of a chuckle about all of us being "Newbies" earlier.  Does that mean I'm 35 again?  :)

I've opted out of re-reading anything from before as it will cause havoc with the days ahead.  I wish I could save things, but I know I can't ever go back and read them, so away they go.  I think I'm okay with that part.  It's having to think about it at all that is troublesome.

(Puts blinders back on and takes a sip of a giant martini, to steady her nerves.) 

:)

-L.

marian1953

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Re: Feeling Unsettled.
« Reply #17 on: March 10, 2015, 01:12:47 PM »
yeah you fellow newbies -I did the same thing "newbie"- early that day I went to ywbb and there was a pm that started "I know you're a vet?" and I was chuckling over that one?yeah, one more letting go. sigh.

hachi

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Re: Feeling Unsettled.
« Reply #18 on: March 10, 2015, 02:01:36 PM »
I, too, have been feeling very unsettled.  Had it been any other time, besides the final week leading up to the one year anniversary of Kenneth's death, I think I would have been able to adjust a little easier.  With the anniversary of his death looming, though, I truly needed you all.  I had created a post on Friday, during lunch.  When I returned to read updates after work, I saw the message that the forums were closed.  I thought I might have lost some of you forever, because I hadn't exchanged personal emails or phone numbers with others, and I live too far away to attend bagos.  It felt like my whole world was crumbling all over again, and I was reduced to some serious tears.

I cannot even put into words how incredibly grateful I am that our admins and moderators got to work so fast to set up a new place for us.  I am also beyond thankful for all the efforts to make certain I wasn't left behind.  Change can be hard, though, and it will take me a little time to adjust, I think.  I just hate leaving behind the history of my first year of widowhood, right on the verge of crossing the threshold of being one year out.
This is exactly what happened to me with W2Y about 2 years ago, I was approaching the 1st anniversary when the site shut down. Unfortunately, there was no warning, and no grace period to retrieve any posts. What was worse was we all scattered to the winds. A few of us continued to chat and email each other. A few (like me) found a place here. I won't lie, I felt very out of place at first, and it took me a while to feel I could post. I couldn't start over, and I couldn't just jump in. This time, I am thankful I could save a few things that are meaningful and helpful, and I am okay with letting the rest go. Also that  so many of us are here, and know each others stories. 
If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.      ~ A. Einstein

AaronP

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Re: Feeling Unsettled.
« Reply #19 on: March 10, 2015, 03:49:51 PM »
I wonder if instead of "Newbie" it can be re-titled "YWBB Refugee" or "YWBB Expat" or something along those lines!

JacklessSally

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Re: Feeling Unsettled.
« Reply #20 on: March 10, 2015, 04:00:08 PM »
I wonder if instead of "Newbie" it can be re-titled "YWBB Refugee" or "YWBB Expat" or something along those lines!

There should be a box you can click when registering, asking if you are migrating from YWBB.
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You will always be my Jack and I will always be your Sally. For we were simply meant to be.

lcoxwell

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Re: Feeling Unsettled.
« Reply #21 on: March 10, 2015, 05:43:15 PM »
This is exactly what happened to me with W2Y about 2 years ago, I was approaching the 1st anniversary when the site shut down. Unfortunately, there was no warning, and no grace period to retrieve any posts. What was worse was we all scattered to the winds. A few of us continued to chat and email each other. A few (like me) found a place here. I won't lie, I felt very out of place at first, and it took me a while to feel I could post. I couldn't start over, and I couldn't just jump in. This time, I am thankful I could save a few things that are meaningful and helpful, and I am okay with letting the rest go. Also that  so many of us are here, and know each others stories.

I am so very sorry that this happened to you, too.  I cannot imagine how difficult that must have been for you, since, thankfully, I was rescued and brought aboard our "new home".  Again, I am so thankful that I did not lose the connection this wonderful and amazing group of people.
"The highest tribute to the dead is not grief but gratitude." - Thornton Wilder

Thank you, my dearest Kenneth, for loving me and for giving me the best 13 years of my life.