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Wheelerswife

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Summer road trip
« on: June 01, 2015, 09:14:59 AM »
I suppose we all have our drug or drugs of choice for coping with our losses.  Since John died 16+ months ago, tearing my heart out of my chest, I've coped mostly with school and travel.  I don't know how I would have maintained any ability to focus if it were not for university classes that I went back to just a week and a half after John died.  But breaks from school leave me with too much time on my hands for ruminating, which hasn't felt particularly helpful.  So...I resort to traveling.  Last summer I spent many weeks on the road on a 25 state 7500 mile road trip.  This summer is probably my last summer to have the freedom to travel again.  Next summer I'll need to be working an internship and eventually I will finish my master's and I'll have to get a real job and start supporting myself fully again.

Tomorrow, I will hit the road from the center of the country heading east.  This trip will be different from last year in that I will head to the east coast, where my parents, siblings, first in-laws and my "home" widow crew live, but then in a couple of weeks, I am picking up my 14-year old niece and we will head west.  We will venture into places we've never been and try to see national parks and the beauty the geography has to offer.  I'll catch some widow friends along the way, but this trip will be more about places than people, and the opportunity to spend time with my niece.  Last year, I had my trip planned down, sometimes to the day and hour.  This trip will be more open ended.  I also plan to inter half of my second husband's ashes along side his late wife...on a bluff over the beach in far northern California.  I was last there with him about 2 1/2 weeks before he suddenly died...and we talked about how lovely the setting was that he chose for her...and that some day, half of him would be there, too.  It will be about 18 months since he died that I finally get his ashes there, but I'm going to do it.

I'll be checking in frequently here...as I've done for over 5 1/2 years.  Looking forward to seeing some good folks along the way.

Maureen
« Last Edit: June 01, 2015, 09:31:16 AM by Wheelerswife »
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DonnaP

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #1 on: June 01, 2015, 09:28:36 AM »
Safe travels. I will be looking forward to seeing you when you get to Connecticut :)
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #2 on: June 01, 2015, 09:53:53 AM »
Safe travels, I look forward to hearing about all of your adventures!
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #3 on: June 01, 2015, 10:05:54 AM »
Safe travels my friend...
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #4 on: June 01, 2015, 10:34:57 AM »
You know where I live. :)

Captains wife

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #5 on: June 01, 2015, 01:21:18 PM »
Travel is good for the soul - see you on the East Coast I hope : ) Sounds like a fab trip for both of you

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #6 on: June 01, 2015, 04:15:14 PM »
Travelling is what has kept me alive for most of my life!  Have fun. 

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #7 on: June 01, 2015, 04:46:54 PM »
Safe travels!  Hope to see you when you're on the east coast!
I miss how happy I was with you.

swilson

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #8 on: June 01, 2015, 08:24:54 PM »
Enjoy the ride, I'll be in touch. Happy Trails!
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #9 on: June 01, 2015, 09:58:02 PM »
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #10 on: June 02, 2015, 09:45:08 AM »
I'm looking forward to seeing you on your journey, Maureen!

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #11 on: June 03, 2015, 09:24:16 PM »
Safe travels, dear lady! May you and your niece have a wonderful trip, making beautiful memories to cherish in the future.
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Wheelerswife

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #12 on: June 03, 2015, 10:50:10 PM »
It was a good day on the road today...not too much driving, but breakfast with Photojunkie and dinner with swilson.  It was such an honor to spend time with you two.  Thanks to both of you for sharing stories and listening to mine! 

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Maureen
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #13 on: June 03, 2015, 11:24:32 PM »
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #14 on: June 04, 2015, 12:31:57 AM »
Safe travels,  sounds like a nice  balance.
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