Author Topic: Summer road trip  (Read 19104 times)

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #30 on: June 26, 2015, 08:50:55 AM »
Ive enjoyed following your travels.  I couldn't do that much time in a car though it does sound daring and adventurous! :)  I'm glad you got through the MIL experience virtually unscathed ... I don't talk to mine either so I totally understand that. looking forward to the next installment of your journey so I can live vicariously through someone who has the guts to do something I never could.
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #31 on: June 26, 2015, 09:02:44 AM »
Always a pleasure, Maureen!! Thank you for going out of your way to meet my brood. Eric was so glad to have met the woman who instigated the courage in me to take that leap of faith in the relationship between him and I. You're an amazing woman and can't wait to hear about your future endeavors across the country.

Much love  :)

Mari

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #32 on: June 27, 2015, 10:57:07 PM »
Spent the day in the Badlands and the Black Hills of South Dakota. Drove through some beautiful scenery. Most of what went through my head - John should be here!  I got teary several times but hid most of it from my niece. She is doing well, reading maps, choosing hotels, getting interested in the places we are going. She has been really good meeting people (such as a retired nun John and I met on our trips to Peru.). We are heading to Kansas for a couple of days after one more day here tomorrow. Then off to the desert Southwest.

Still, though, wishing that my nightmare would end and my polarbear would just come back. We had so much life left to live together.

Sigh.

Maureen
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #33 on: June 27, 2015, 11:12:48 PM »
((aww hugs Maureen))
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #34 on: June 28, 2015, 05:22:32 AM »
{{Hugs}} Maureen...much adventures and heartache mixed up all in one.  Your niece sounds like a gem though.  Must get that from her Aunt!   :)
I miss how happy I was with you.

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #35 on: June 29, 2015, 08:10:42 AM »
Heading home today for a mid-road trip intermission. I need to go through my mail, pay some bills, catch up with a few local supporters and gear up for the next 4 weeks. I'm in my usual funk that I find myself in every time I go back home after being away. He is supposed to be here, damn it!  I'm hiding most of my angst from my niece (who is currently in the shower and behind schedule for getting on the road this morning!).

I hope not to have a big breakdown when I get home.

Maureen
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #36 on: June 29, 2015, 09:11:48 AM »
{hug} Maureen. Dorothy's famous line, "There's no place like home" has a dampened feeling for some widdas.
~ she's gone to Heaven so I've got to be good, so I can see my baby when I leave this world ~

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #37 on: June 29, 2015, 09:35:55 AM »
He is supposed to be here, damn it! 
I hope not to have a big breakdown when I get home.

(((Maureen)))

I do understand how difficult it is having to "come home again" to one's reality. Meanwhile, I wish you much joy and peaceful moments as you embark on phase II of your big trip.


Be safe and well!

ATJ
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #38 on: June 29, 2015, 09:46:44 PM »
((( HUGS)))

Sending the biggest hug I can!!! 
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #39 on: July 01, 2015, 08:39:11 AM »
A virtual hug cannot compare to the real thing, but here's one from me anyway (((HUG)))

Love you! I hope having your niece along on the trip is providing a bit of a buffer between you and the grief monster. Good luck, and safe travels.

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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #40 on: July 01, 2015, 11:13:04 AM »
Hugs to you .... but I have to say I'm just so damned impressed and quite a bit jealous. I love reading your uupdates and imagining the unforgettable summer you are giving your niece.  I'm up for adoption btw ....
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #41 on: July 02, 2015, 02:29:39 PM »
Home has been okay.  I have my niece with me and that has added distraction from missing John.  I've been able to see some friends here and I took my niece to campus a couple of times to get the feel of a college of this size and to meet some staff and professors, too.  Last night we went to an outdoor concert of the band Parmalee.  My niece was in heaven...and we waited in line afterwards so she (and my dog Rosie) could get their pictures taken with the band.

Tomorrow we head into Colorado, then down to Santa Fe to spend a little time with an seasoned board widow and then on into Arizona to catch up with Jess!  Then it is on to San Diego to see my nephew, then up the southern California coast to catch a couple more people.  The scenery should be amazing.  That should take us through the next week or so!

Maureen
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #42 on: July 02, 2015, 02:53:40 PM »
It sounds amazing (and so brave), Maureen. I'm glad you have your niece to share these experiences with. How wonderful for you both.

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Carol
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #43 on: July 05, 2015, 07:09:39 PM »
Checking in from Santa Fe. We have been the guests of Ann E for a couple of nights and we've gotten a bit of a tour of Santa Fe.  Before that, we spent some time in southern Colorado - getting to see the Garden of the Gods and Pike's Peak in the Colorado Springs area and then and the Great Sand Dunes National Park.  Who knew there were amazing sand dunes in Colorado?  Santa Fe feels like it is an entirely different country - very different culture, very soft-spoke people, a very peace-filled place.  Tomorrow, it is on to Arizona.

Step by step, I am making my way toward northern California, where I will inter half of John's ashes beside his late wife Cheryl.  My chest tightens when I think about it.  I know they are "only" ashes, but I am letting go of the part of him that rightly belongs with his other love, as he wished.  I'm still sad, though.  I want him for myself...but I can't have him....that I know intellectually.  He is no longer here.  Emotionally, I'm still so sad that our life together came to such an abrupt end nearly 18 months ago.  I want him with me now, as I explore this country as we would have eventually if he was still alive. So many feelings and emotions.  I want to write something to say at his interment.  I've played some things over in my mind while I drive long miles.  How do I say goodbye?  How do I let go of half of him?  July 23.  That is the day.  Sigh.  Breathe.

Maureen
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Re: Summer road trip
« Reply #44 on: July 05, 2015, 09:38:53 PM »
I wish I had more. but... ((((((((HUGS)))))))))

I just got back from southwest Colorado, still my favorite place on the planet. I scattered some ashes at the highest point in Mesa Verde National Park-- a place I always wanted to take Jim, and never got to. It was hard... but I felt better once I'd done it. I hope your experience is similar, but I wish with all my heart that neither of us had to do it at all.

much love,

Jen
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