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Jess

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Wedding Dress
« on: June 01, 2015, 11:19:28 AM »
Ladies with no children- what are you going to do or have you done with your wedding dress if you kept it from your wedding? I kept mine because the plans were to have kids, but now I just don't know what to do with it. I have been considering donating it, but I just don't know. Anyone make any dress decisions?
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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #1 on: June 01, 2015, 11:25:00 AM »
Jess...I still have mine from my first wedding, and I never planned to have kids.  For my second wedding in Hawaii, I wore a Hawaiian dress and John wore a matching shirt.  I've got them put away, too.  It's the memories I can't seem to part with.

Maybe some day, I'll be able to let go of them.  Donating the dress sounds like a lovely idea, especially to an organization who will see that it gets to someone who can't afford to have a nice dress.

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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #2 on: June 01, 2015, 01:10:44 PM »
I sold mine. I don't have kids either, and I knew I didn't want to wear it again. I have pictures, so I didn't feel the need to keep the dress hanging in my closet. I'm trying to be of the mindset that "it's just stuff" and not hold on to so many things, though, and I know that isn't right for everyone.

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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #3 on: June 01, 2015, 01:29:41 PM »
such a good question , mine is still at my Mom's house but I should go and get it
its a simple short white dress , married in the backyard very casual
so not really in the same category as wedding dress
maybe a local church might know of a place that you could donate to
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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #4 on: June 01, 2015, 02:26:37 PM »
That's a really good question, and one that until you brought it up I had never thought of.

Mine is kind of a family heirloom - I actually wore my mother's gown (can you tell we're related?  :P), and I imagine had Tim and I had a daughter I would have wanted to pass it along to her as well.  Right now it's at my parents' house, still boxed up from how we got in back from the cleaners 6 years ago. 

I don't honestly see myself ever getting to a place where I could part with it because of the sentimental value it holds from BOTH of our weddings.  Plus, it was a gift from my mother.  One that I'm sure I'll be grateful to have once she's gone too.  So I'm guessing I'll likely hold on to it forever, probably keeping it with my parents until they sell their house, at which point I'll hopefully have a house of my own in which to tuck it away for safe keeping.  Who knows, I might still have a daughter, and they might end up wanting to use their Nana's dress one day.  The dress I've picked as the likely one for my wedding next summer will be short and summery and more casual - the one from my mother is much fancier and far more ornate. 

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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #5 on: June 01, 2015, 07:57:33 PM »
There's an organization that accepts donated wedding dresses and makes burial gowns for babies.  I know there are a couple organizations that do this.  Can't remember the name of the one I first heard about but I googled it and here is the link to one - www.littleangelgowns.org
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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #6 on: June 02, 2015, 09:28:46 AM »
I've been mulling this over as well - just because I'm in a mood to get rid of "stuff."  Stuff is weighing me down. I think that donating it has a better ring than selling it.  I love the dress, loved that day, and to be able to give that gift to someone else.... it just feels better in the feelers.


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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #7 on: June 04, 2015, 09:07:36 AM »
First, thank you everyone for sharing. My initial instinct was to donate the gown to someone that can use it and cannot afford one, but then as usual I started getting wrapped up in my own head and thinking silly things like what if the dress is cursed? I don't even believe in curses.

There's an organization that accepts donated wedding dresses and makes burial gowns for babies.  I know there are a couple organizations that do this.  Can't remember the name of the one I first heard about but I googled it and here is the link to one - www.littleangelgowns.org

This is beautiful and heart breaking. At first, the suggestion seemed strange to me but over the past couple days I have really been thinking about it. I have never lost a child, but have been through a miscarriage and even that experience was so emotionally difficult we decided to wait before trying again. Obviously, we waited too long. This feels like a way to give a gift to someone that is experiencing profound grief that I cannot even begin to comprehend and to pay back some of the debt I owe for the support I get to keep going in dealing with my own grief. When I am ready, this may be just what I do. Thank you, ManutesGirl. Sincerely.
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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #8 on: June 04, 2015, 05:50:20 PM »
If I don't get remarried again and have children before I die, I'd like to be buried in my wedding dress. 

My original plan was to use the lace from my wedding dress to make a christening gown for my babies. That can still potentially happen, so that's why I'm holding onto mine.
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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #9 on: June 05, 2015, 06:18:27 PM »
Widow bestie and I hatched a plan last week. We are going to do a joint trash the dress photo shoot!
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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #10 on: June 08, 2015, 11:41:38 PM »
Hey Jess
To me having a miscarriage is losing a child. I'm sorry you had to go through that agony. I hope you find a way to share your gift of a beautiful wedding dress.  Hugs to you Jess
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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #11 on: June 14, 2015, 08:07:32 AM »
Just came across this thread, thanks for starting it as this is something I have been trying to figure out for a while now....I have thought of asking my niece if she would want to wear it (there are 2 nieces from that sister-one my size and one her mothers size so sis could still have a daughter wear her dress) but I don't want her to feel obligated...like Jess I also worry
but then as usual I started getting wrapped up in my own head and thinking silly things like what if the dress is cursed? I don't even believe in curses.

I don't know if I believe in curses...but I believe in "energy"...does the dress hold the energy of the beautiful day? or for what eventually came after? 
Niece lives out of state and is coming to visit this summer...I will just ask her and if she says "No thank you" I will come up with plan B.  I too have been purging and releasing.  I feel like it is time to let the dress go... Please let me know what you ultimately do with yours.
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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #12 on: June 27, 2015, 10:58:40 AM »
Before my husband died, I had planned on selling it, just cause I thought it was stupid to have a big dress around that I was never going to wear.  But now in my widowhood, I love that I still have it, it serves as a great reminder that I was once happy and its really pretty to look at.  So I'll keep it for now.

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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #13 on: July 01, 2015, 06:45:35 PM »
I'm going to be buried in mine. I left instructions for it.
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Re: Wedding Dress
« Reply #14 on: July 19, 2015, 07:26:28 AM »
I love that idea of being buried in it
should go take a look at it and bring it home (its at my mom's house)
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