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A Tout Jamais

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10-Year Reflections!
« on: June 03, 2015, 01:59:10 AM »

"You are no longer where you used to be,
But you are wherever I am!"

~~ Victor Hugo

' The Bench'

Perched on a small, wintry hill
Sits a lonely bench in the icy chill
It silently looks over the frozen sea
Of white desolation and nary a tree

It mourns alone in the howling wind
For the One whose death it cannot rescind
It's the sole reminder of the One who's gone
Who fought a fierce battle that couldn't be won

It stands with great courage and bravery
As merciless nature unleashes with glee
Its fury and wrath during day and night --
It's the somber marker of a battle
Once fought with great might

It bears His name like a solid proud shield
Remembering Him, who never would yield
Who lived with great honor and courage so high
That he bravely looked death straight into the eye
And defiantly said:
 *I* shall decide when I'm going to die!!

He took the grim reaper's triumph and glee
As he charted his Own Path and Destiny!

And when winter's harsh grip finally breaks
And new life springs forth
With sunny, warm rays
The lonely bench offers solace and peace
To a tired wand'rer who is ill at ease

To provide comfort and rest
And to get a fresh start
For those who are weary
Or heavy of heart

When I see this humble symbol
Of a once brilliant, great man
My mind travels and marvels
At the astonishing race he ran

His mind was strong and undeterred
No problem too great to be solved or deferred
He Loved Life and was always grateful and glad
With the adventurous spirit of a very young lad
He saw life's humor, and when he smiled
My heart jumped for joy, and I felt beguiled

I greatly miss Him!
It hurts my heart and my soul
Because He was the One
Who made me feel Whole

He's the One I carry wherever I go
During Life's ev'ry high and solitary low
The One to whom, on This solemn day
I send All my Love - far, far away
To the shores of infinity and beyond --
The One, with whom I have an unbreakable bond!


~~ À tout jamais - Forevermore ~~


10-Year Anniversary Reflections of an 'SOS' and long-time Caregiver

« Last Edit: May 20, 2016, 10:45:39 AM by A Tout Jamais »
"Tu n'es plus là où tu étais, mais tu es partout là où je suis."
~~ Victor Hugo

"Je me souviens de toi ... Je me souviens de nous  - Il était une fois -  Je me souviens de tout!"


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Re: 10-Year Reflections!
« Reply #1 on: June 03, 2015, 06:25:54 AM »
Dear ATJ,

Ten years is such a significant milestone! Sending you wishes of comfort and the best that loving memories can bring. Your poem is a stunning tribute to your husband and to his imprint on your soul.

Love and hugs, Bluebird
My First Love, Peace Be Thine


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Re: 10-Year Reflections!
« Reply #2 on: June 03, 2015, 08:07:53 AM »

Your journey has been such a long and difficult one. But as you have travelled it, you have shared with us so much wisdom and beauty, this touching poetic offering being among them. I wish for you a measure of peace on this melancholy day of reflection.

--- WifeLess


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Re: 10-Year Reflections!
« Reply #3 on: June 03, 2015, 11:07:55 AM »
Thinking of you today
"All the waves must reach the shore before the water calms"-Ray ♡


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Re: 10-Year Reflections!
« Reply #4 on: June 04, 2015, 02:11:51 PM »
I just wanted to say, I hope this day is an easier one than the last, in some small way.  You have helped me and so many others here with your thoughtful and heartfelt posts over the years...thank you for that.  You will never know the extent to which your kindness effects others and this board as a whole...

May you find a new kind of peaceful existence in Year Eleven, whatever that may be.



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Re: 10-Year Reflections!
« Reply #5 on: June 06, 2015, 08:53:33 PM »
(((Hugs)))) I am sorry this is late.  Love you and your posts.

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Re: 10-Year Reflections!
« Reply #6 on: June 08, 2015, 03:57:10 PM »
Thank You!

"The most called-upon prerequisite of a friend
 is an accessible ear."

~~ Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou was right, we ALL have the need to be heard at times, especially when our heart feels heavy!

Ten years after my husband's death it seems incredible that so much time has passed.  Meanwhile the current of life has taken me in a very different direction, and it often feels surreal, as if invisibly suspended between two worlds. So many significant changes to my life and my identity, and yet, still so many echoes from the past.

On this significant marker of time, I felt the need to pay tribute to my husband somewhere to let it be known that he once walked this earth, that he is not forgotten by at least ONE, that he was loved, and that he made his 'earthly dash' count.

Therefore, I deeply appreciate each one of you who 'heard me', and thus gave recognition to Him, by graciously taking the time to reach out with words of kindness and caring.

"Turn your face to the light,
 and the shadows will fall behind you."

~~  Maori

Tom Stoppard said:

"Every exit is an Entry to somewhere else."

And so I keep walking toward that 'Entry to Somewhere Else'.

ATJ  :)

« Last Edit: May 20, 2016, 10:34:13 AM by A Tout Jamais »
"Tu n'es plus là où tu étais, mais tu es partout là où je suis."
~~ Victor Hugo

"Je me souviens de toi ... Je me souviens de nous  - Il était une fois -  Je me souviens de tout!"


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Re: 10-Year Reflections!
« Reply #7 on: June 08, 2015, 05:28:50 PM »
Beautiful writing, ATJ.  Thank you for sharing- you are heard from here.


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Re: 10-Year Reflections!
« Reply #8 on: June 09, 2015, 07:11:02 AM »
I too heard you ATJ. Beautiful tribute to your DH.
I don't want it to be his legacy that his death destroyed me.
I need to honour his life by rebuilding my life.