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Time Frame => Newly Widowed (1 day to 6 months) => Topic started by: greeneyedshannon82 on September 24, 2016, 11:33:29 AM

Title: Weddings on the cusp of my anniversary
Post by: greeneyedshannon82 on September 24, 2016, 11:33:29 AM
Today I will go to the first of several weddings this fall. I would have celebrated my own anniversary 10/3. My husband and I were together a few years but only married last year. I will never get to celebrate our first anniversary and now all my single friends are getting married. And what kind of friend would I be if I didn't support them and witness their new happiness? But let me tell you it is not easy. I woke up this morning planning to just lay on my couch and eat my feelings. But the tiny part of me who isn't a wreck decided to get up and just do this. I don't know how I will handle it. A year ago I was so excited, planning my own forever after. But I have to just DO this....
Title: Re: Weddings on the cusp of my anniversary
Post by: Julester3 on September 24, 2016, 10:23:55 PM
I actually went to a wedding by myself for a good friend of mine in mid-June. Josh had passed 2 months prior. I was okay for it. I truly was but I couldn't honestly get myself to dance. I just happily sat, taking all the good spirits in. My husband and I used to love to dance at parties and events. We took ballroom dancing lessons when we got out of college just for the heck of it. I had a good time and didn't even feel the need to drink really. I had iced tea all night. I think the trick is to focus on the happiness around you and not to dwell on your own wedding memories - thus me avoiding participating in the dancing. I did have some amusement by trying to predict the music the DJ would play. I've been to so many weddings, it's almost too predictable.
Title: Re: Weddings on the cusp of my anniversary
Post by: twin_mom on September 26, 2016, 08:37:20 AM
I think we've all struggled with attendances at weddings... Sometimes you go and it's okay, sometimes you go and have to leave, sometimes you just can't get yourself to go no matter how much you may want to... And it's all okay. *HUG*