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Title: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: canadiangirl on June 28, 2015, 07:32:46 PM
Starting this thread in honour of Just Jen.  Today I showed my child a tiny snail on a rosebush.  The shell amazed us with how complex it was.  That snail is probably a garden pest but it was my one "little happy" today, and represents the pace of change/healing around here.  And that's all I got.  ((Just Jen))
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: MissingSquish on June 28, 2015, 09:43:12 PM
The little bit of happiness I had today was hearing my dog snoring on the bed. Makes my heart warm. :)
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on June 28, 2015, 09:53:26 PM
My in-laws are awesome! My father in-law came by to mow our lawn while my two older daughters helped me in the landscaping. While we were working in the yard my mother in-law was making us dinner. So nice!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: lcoxwell on June 28, 2015, 10:29:03 PM
I haven't been feeling well, so I took a nice, long nap today, and my Pit Bull, Boo, curled up beside me on the bed to cuddle. I love her cuddles.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: widowat33 on June 28, 2015, 10:30:35 PM
The timing of this post is eerie.
Today while shopping at Walmart we let a lady with one item ahead of us in line. She thanked us, paid and left. Then she returned and spoke with the cashier and informed us she was using her employee discount for our purchases! So my boys got to see first hand how random acts of kindness are appreciated! It's such an important lesson for them that although these acts aren't always returned it does feel good to be kind to others :)
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Baylee627 on June 28, 2015, 11:47:08 PM
Lil happies for today:

Purchased a whole host of cleaning products today with a gift card I'd had stashed away. I lurve me some cleaning products, and for free? Boom!

Father of the Bride parts 1 and 2 were showing today on this afternoon's cable line-up. Those movies are so benign, sweet, and innocent, and that lil classy Diane Keaton is my absolute favorite actress, ever!

Listening to my dog Pumpkin, snoring by my side. Her kind lil presence brings me such comfort.

Baylee
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Kealoha on June 29, 2015, 12:06:07 AM
Toddler snuggles into your neck and little hands patting your face as they get sleepy.  Best blues banisher ever.  I am so lucky to have this every day.  DD may never  fully know how much she helps me.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Jess on June 29, 2015, 09:35:30 AM
I finally decided on and ordered patio furniture for the new place. It is a small thing, but one more step to this new place being home and made me happy.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: A Tout Jamais on June 29, 2015, 10:00:53 AM
(http://www.trinity.edu/rjensen/tidbits/2009/PigKiss.jpg)


This made me smile!

Sometimes a smile is the only "little Happy" I can find!

Oh, how to be young and innocent again!

ATJ  :)
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: PhotoJunkie on June 29, 2015, 11:57:26 AM
mine is from last night as we are just getting to the start of our day (we slept in)  but I have been snuggling on the couch or in bed with my daughter on a regular basis.  We pick a movie to watch and we snuggle.  Full on touching, which has been something that has been severely missing in the last few years between us.  It doesn't matter what we have done that day, we snuggle in the evening.  I might make this an unofficial rule from now on.  It just fills my heart when we snuggle. 
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Jen on June 29, 2015, 01:44:40 PM
Starting this thread in honour of Just Jen.  Today I showed my child a tiny snail on a rosebush.  The shell amazed us with how complex it was.  That snail is probably a garden pest but it was my one "little happy" today, and represents the pace of change/healing around here.  And that's all I got.  ((Just Jen))

I adore you for starting this. Thank you. Seriously. Thank you. :*)

Hopefully I'll be able to add something soon.

(((((((HUGS)))))))))
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: ieh21 on June 29, 2015, 02:57:23 PM
I took a few minutes at work to plan a dinner party for this coming Wednesday. I hadn't looked at epicurious in a long time, never mind taken up the challenge of matching my menu to someone's allergies/intolerance list. Am very much looking forward to cooking!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Carey on June 29, 2015, 02:59:04 PM
Best friend bought me a Baja Mt Dew at lunch and just let me lay on his shoulder and be hugged. Hes a teddy bear of a man and gives the best hugs.  looking forward to the weekend at the beach, cause we have a military sponsor for this weekend and we can go back to OUR place, and  I love all things red white and blue
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: lcoxwell on June 29, 2015, 05:34:18 PM
I was sitting on the edge of my bed, going through a few things, when I looked up to find my son, with just his head sticking in the doorway. He never said a word, just grinned, and went on his merry way (after getting the dogs wound up, so that they came flopping over, right in the middle of the pile of papers, I was trying to organize). I am really going to miss that boy and those dogs, when we all move next month.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: MissingMyJon on June 29, 2015, 11:07:24 PM
I was able to send my youngest off to grandma and grandpa's, and take my two oldest kids to see Jurrasic World.  So hard to get time alone from my little kling-on.  Loved being with just my oldest two.  Thanks mom and dad!   :)
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: canadiangirl on June 30, 2015, 08:40:09 PM
My small one expressed the desire today to breakdance to "It Takes Two" by Rob Base and DJ EZ Rock.
I have the day off tomorrow for a national holiday.

Two little happies.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: MissingSquish on June 30, 2015, 08:53:19 PM
My dog gave me 2 wet sloppy kisses today after daycare. She isn't the kissing type usually, and it felt good to feel the love.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: lcoxwell on June 30, 2015, 10:02:19 PM
My "little happy" for today came in the form of a text from New Guy, who asked if I would like to go shopping with him for a new washing machine. Since the plan is to get married some time in the next year, this will be our first official purchase for what will one day be "our" house. I am so excited!

My other "little happy" came in the form of orange jello. Ever since I was in the hospital ICU, I seem to have developed an obsession with orange jello. To quote a favorite student of mine, "That stuff is the bomb diggity!"
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Baylee627 on June 30, 2015, 10:59:06 PM
Today's lil happies:

Yoga taught by my favorite instructor, who happens to be battling breast cancer. She's a freaking She-ra warrior princess, and she just radiates warmth and goodness.

Off from work today, so I languished in bed with my morning caffeine fix. Adore these kinds of mornings:)

Baylee
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on July 01, 2015, 12:28:36 AM
I felt pretty today. I was just out getting groceries, but I felt pretty. :) I ended up running into a few people I knew at the grocery store too. I guess everyone had the same idea.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Jess on July 01, 2015, 09:55:23 AM
Yesterday my work team went bowling. It was the first time I had bowled since a group of friends went with me on LH's birthday after he passed. I worried about being triggered but those fears we're unfounded. It was a good time.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: MissingMyJon on July 01, 2015, 02:01:16 PM
I woke up with morning with a big smile on my face, perky and happy all around!  It is the first day since Jon's death where although I think of Jon all the time, I am still feeling happy.  Trying to savor the feeling.  I remember once upon a time when I used to feel like this all the time.  It has felt like I would never wake up really happy.  It is good to know that I can still feel like that.   ;D
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: lcoxwell on July 01, 2015, 10:58:59 PM
While taking a shower this afternoon, Vinnie the Pug, was pawing at the shower door, prompting me to crack the door, just a touch. Silly Pug stuck his nose in, like he was checking to see that I was okay, then turned and walk away. Goofy dog made me laugh.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: momtokam on July 01, 2015, 11:19:49 PM
Fireworks with my kids!
Happy Canada Day!

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Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: IfIonlycould on July 02, 2015, 08:12:44 AM
Finding the right shrubs for the back proprety line at the garden center with "Promo $5.00" tags and getting to the register to find out they have been marked down to $3.75! Believe me I was plenty happy at $5.00 this was the added little happy bonus!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: lcoxwell on July 02, 2015, 12:45:23 PM
My "little happy' this morning was receiving a series of texts from my son that made me giggle. He should seriously be a comedian.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Jess on July 03, 2015, 12:38:55 AM
I supervise a team at work and they were given an agressive productivity goal to get to leave early for the long weekend. They hit goal three hours early. Days like that where everyone really pulls together make me feel fulfilled as a leader.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on July 03, 2015, 12:52:06 AM
I went out for dinner and to see Magic Mike with my crazy girlfriend. 
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: donswife on July 03, 2015, 07:18:08 AM
I was having a really hard time sleeping ...looking at my clock it said 3 am
my cat Edith , not known for ever being a cuddlier, came in and slept tucked in my arms
was very brave of her as my black lab was cuddling on the other side
but black lab just lifted her head and let Edith stay there
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: SoVerySad on July 03, 2015, 07:23:07 AM
I took the kids to see Inside Out last night. Lots of laughter which always feels so good.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on July 08, 2015, 04:11:57 PM
I got mail today!

Long story short...mailbox rotted and started to lean. They stopped delivering my mail. I had to replace it. It was an ordeal to say the least. Mailbox is up, but I still need to landscape around it. They delivered my mail to me today though!!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Carey on July 09, 2015, 07:41:37 AM
Remember me posting about my dead truck battery? It just so happened the person that used to do payroll at our office retired and the office manager took over, and found a mistake she had made and they actually owed me $163 :)  So I was able to get the new battery for the truck (Jumping a vehicle 4 times a day and bugging your friends to do so is no fun!) and even got some groceries :)
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Baylee627 on July 09, 2015, 11:07:21 PM
Unexpectedly invited out to dinner tonight by my SIL. We took my two nephews to Chuck E. Cheese. Yeah, my "lil happy" isn't about the food;)

I had an excellent time of adult conversation with my SIL, and my nephews are the little lights of my life. I could seriously gobble them up they are so deliciously beautiful lil human beings. It startles me how overcome with the love I have for them.

Baylee
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on July 10, 2015, 01:13:44 AM
Doing the Whip and NeeNee with my girls.  Belly laughs!!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Jess on July 10, 2015, 02:15:37 AM
I got positive feedback on an idea I submitted at work. I have a follow up meeting in the morning to present it. It feels good to be doing well!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: nonesuch on July 10, 2015, 07:30:41 AM
The only nice, expensive watch I've ever owned was lost for nine days when I misplaced it instead of taking it directly to the jeweler for a new battery. While gathering up the trash for garbage day, I picked up a pair of pants from the blanket chest to throw them away and heard a soft "thunk."  This time it did go directly to the jeweler.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: HvnBound on July 10, 2015, 07:47:03 AM
My first check deposited into the bank, I checked first thing this morning....what a relief! I can survive one more month, the check from this week will pay for next month, the next to pay some of me and BF's bills (yes, I moved in and am finally getting lots of rest and feel great), and the next to SAVE!!!  It has been hard, I have not told many of how hard it has been, but it has been an absolute struggle at times. I have had electricity and water turned off, had to borrow from 2 friends, my Dad paid my homeowner's insurance for over a year til I told him to stop last year, pay other family back too. I sold my furniture to get money during the baseball off season and worked two part time jobs.

I remember working at the retail store at Busch Stadium and having the thought that I should do this job the best I can so that things would work out so I would get the job I needed. I used to have this habit of drinking to go to sleep but after meeting this guy the need to do so left. Now I have to eat more to make up the difference, and that is another thing - I have an appetite again. Working helps. Got to go now to finish off the second week at my new job.

Don't give up, it gets better.














Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: momtokam on July 10, 2015, 08:28:51 AM
My older daughter's soccer team finally won last night and beat the second best team! She played amazing and kicked but at center defence!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on July 10, 2015, 03:30:53 PM
I got my first-ever pedicure today. My 16yo and 8yo did too. My 13yo got a manicure instead. All patriotic, all OPI. I enjoyed it, but my daughters didn't see too. They just liked getting their nails painted, not the whole process.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Guaruj on July 13, 2015, 07:46:14 PM
I got to be my "old self" again this weekend. Last year, my inline skating club had a big weekend event 1 week after Catherine died.  In fact, that event started on the day of her funeral. I was very flattered that so many people from the club came to either her wake or her funeral.

So, exactly one year later, I got to do the things I volunteered to do last year. These were things that I did before I met Catherine. I was outside, I was exercising and doing things that other people needed me to do. This was the best weekend I have had since she passed away.

Perhaps the best thing about it was that I was wearing Catherine's skates.  Yes, my wife and I had the same shoe size.  I needed a pair of skates that was broken-in but not broken-down, and hers fit that need perfectly. It made me happy to know that she was helping me do this one year after she died.

|+|  M a r k  |+|
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on July 14, 2015, 01:22:27 AM
I finally called Indiana University admissions office! After a brief conversation with them they redirected me to the admissions counselor in Health and Science. Unfortunately I got her answering service. I left a message and I'm looking forward to setting up an appointment to talk to her about taking some classes in the fall. I hope I'm financially able to now that I'm mentally ready. At least I think I am! I'm nervous, not going to lie. Big step.

During my brief conversation they told me that they aren't offering the degree that I want, but they will be by 2017. They're thinking I should be able to complete my general courses and other to go toward my degree in the meantime.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Jen on July 14, 2015, 11:50:58 AM
I'm finally posting here. :)

I've just about got my ducks lined up for Amsterdam. I've got almost all my packing done, my to do list sorted, and my school work all but finished. I've been anxious about it for awhile, but I realized last night that I'm actually EXCITED. This is happening! In less than 48 hours I'll be on my way to New York, then on to Amsterdam! W00T!! :D
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Justin on July 14, 2015, 01:28:54 PM
I had the pleasure of hosting fellow widower Melissa'sGypsy (you guys remember him!) at my home this past weekend, and we attended two days of a music festival together.

A lot of music + great conversation + too much sun = a fantastic weekend!

That man is one of the reasons I think I am doing relatively well, and I will always love that guy for being there for me in some very dark, early days.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: TooSoon on July 15, 2015, 08:29:31 PM
In an act of uncharacteristic abandon/irresponsibility (?)/self-indulgence, I just bought a plane ticket to go see my honey in England in August while my daughter is at sleepaway camp.  I am going to miss both the dreaded, contentious, and mandatory annual faculty "retreat" (yesssss) AND the first day of the fall semester (syllabus pass out day) so I can go meet his parents and (shhhh) secretly go camping for 4 days at a music festival in Wales.  Second adolescence?  Maybe.  Doing what's right for me for once?  Absolutely. 
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Trying on July 15, 2015, 08:50:47 PM
TooSoon, woo hoo for you!!  I am loving the uncharacteristic self indulgence idea, good for you!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Jess on July 15, 2015, 09:36:59 PM
This is a big happy! Good for you,  TooSoon!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Needytoo on July 17, 2015, 05:57:00 AM
My oldest son and I talk a lot about my husband, sharing memories ect.  My youngest on the other hand hasn't shared anything since his passing.  Yesterday he shared a memory of one time when he hit a kid at school and how his father disciplined him.  He remembered and acted out everything his father did.  My husband could be full of drama that is for sure.  Very nice that my son was finally able to open up and do this, it filled my heart. 
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: hachi on July 17, 2015, 06:18:14 AM
Some of you know my story with my son. Due to his behavior over the past few years, the relationship between him and my daughter has been a little rocky.  He called her last week and invited her to dinner (I go to visit him after work on every other Wednesday when I can)

It was the first time he had called her in years, and the first time she had ever been to his house. It was really wonderful to be together there, and truly a milestone in their relationship.

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Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Carey on July 17, 2015, 07:25:21 AM
I had the pleasure of hosting fellow widower Melissa'sGypsy (you guys remember him!)


I wondered where he had been and how he was doing.  Sounds like he's in a pretty good spot :) Glad you guys had a good time.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: ieh21 on July 17, 2015, 08:07:18 AM
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It was really wonderful to be together there, and truly a milestone in their relationship.
Hachi, as a mom, you must be so happy to see this small step unfold.

My own little happy is that I received my first pair of Tretorns in about 15 years. They were my favourite walking around shoes in my twenties and I stopped being able to buy them here. For whatever reason on Sunday I thought out of nowhere "hey, I can probably buy them online!". And lo and behold, they are adorning my feet this very morning. Sometimes, for short bursts of time, money really can buy you happiness.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Carey on July 17, 2015, 09:29:50 AM
oh man when I was in high school I had Tretorns and LOVED them. Now that you've mentioned it I will have to go look for some online.

My little happy for the day is TGIF ... and since I was here till after 9 last night, I get to leave work at noon today. I think I'm gonna find a good spot and just read. Im exhausted and 4 hours to myself sounds like heaven.  OH and I earned $150 last night "catering" our work event, so that will be a nice little bonus
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: lcoxwell on July 18, 2015, 04:29:37 PM
I just had a talk with my landlady. I have been renting this house for 11-1/2 years. I have a long history of paying the rent on time, up until this last year, since Kenneth died. This year, I had gotten behind a bit. I have been struggling and doing everything I can to try and catch up, but still owe about $1000. She just informed me that, if I can stick to the July 31st move out day, she will write off the other money I owe her. I cannot tell you what a relief it is to have this worry off of my shoulders.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: mmg19 on July 18, 2015, 06:14:50 PM
Posted out grown bikes and other sports equipment on local bulletin.  SOLD within 24 hours.  Boys founds used bikes and had enough money to get them from their sales.  3 happy people in this house tonight.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on July 28, 2015, 05:11:30 PM
Carpet in the basement was cleaned yesterday.  I can finally move everything back. We've been dealing with this since ithe basement flooded on July 3rd. The man cleaning the carpet was very nice. Attractive too :) He said he could come back and clean the other side of the family room once we get everything put back.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Jen on July 30, 2015, 05:06:31 PM
I'm happy today. Hard to believe, but true. It's over 100F outside, my yard is finally mowed, and I didn't do it! Ha! I finally sucked it up and hired a very nice man to come cut the grass. It sounds silly, but I'm proud of myself, and my lawn looks soooo much better. (I'd been hacking at it with a me-powered push mower until the heat defeated me!) Plus, I'm actually a little ahead on school work-- at least until the weekend. :)
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Needytoo on August 02, 2015, 08:37:58 AM
Went to a back yard party yesterday.  I was so nervous going to a party where you hardly know anyone and I had a fabulous time. Can't believe I stayed up to 2 am, that is a shocker as well. 
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: hachi on August 05, 2015, 07:41:07 AM
Rode my motorcycle to work this morning after finally getting it fixed. Beautiful morning, 18 mile putt. 35 mph the whole way. Perfect way to start the day.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on August 05, 2015, 10:18:26 PM
School registration for my daughters today. They're excited even if they won't admit it. Loved seeing their smiles!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Carey on August 06, 2015, 08:27:32 AM
I went to Virginia with friends a couple weeks ago and bought myself a charm bracelet. It was the first money I spent on myself in probably 3 years. I also got a little charm to go on it that's a English double decker bus with a union jack on top (I LOVE all things brittish, and England was my favorite part of Busch Gardens that weekend).  That little jingle on my wrist every day makes me so happy, I LOVE it.  Cant explain it, but I'm excited about getting other charms for it, etc. and I have a charm on it that is angel wings with a pearl, in honor of Chad and I rub it between my fingers like a touchstone sometimes.  Sill I know but sometimes it really is the little things. 
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Baylee627 on August 07, 2015, 12:38:37 AM
1. It's my MIL's birthday this weekend----cake!!!
2. I get to see my nephews--mah babies!!
3. Might go see that new Meryl Streep movie this weekend.

Baylee
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Max2507 on August 07, 2015, 02:13:04 PM
I had to pick up a few things at walgreens and being a bit bad got a coke. When I got back to my office I stuck it in the freezer for a bit so it would be really cold. Ahhh best way to enjoy a coke. After about half was gone I saw the name on the coke was my husband's. It said "share a coke with M" Gave me a smile. It was a nice surprise and coke was our favorite soda so we had shared a great number of them. I took a picture and thought I would post a look what I got on facebook but quickly realized no, that would only result in a phone call from my sister in the next few days asking if I am all right and no response from anyone else.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: nonesuch on August 09, 2015, 12:12:16 PM
New to-to-me exterior door purchased at the ReStore will soon be installed. and it was dirt cheap.  It replaces the old one which the crazy cat peed on and rusted out. Bonus, it is wider than the old one, so furniture will be able to go through a doorway that was previously too narrow.

Crazy cat hasn't peed anywhere but the litter box in weeks.

Flavor of the month steered me away form real wooden doors (including the one with an etched window)by whispering that they may be warped. *sigh* such a pretty door that didn't come home with me.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Jen on August 09, 2015, 05:18:39 PM
I ate two cookies. I didn't need one cookie, let alone two, but they're soft chocolate cookies-- almost brownies, and I'm a sucker for a brownie. I found an inexpensive substitute for the Starbucks iced cinnamon chai latte I've become addicted to, and it's been a quiet day at work-- so quiet that I've gotten all my homework done for today (round one of three for the week). So-- cookies. Yay me.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Guaruj on August 11, 2015, 07:43:05 PM
I just came back from the best weekend I've had since Catherine died. It was another inline skating club weekend, but this time it was in New York City. I still don't know how many miles I skated on the city streets, but it was something like 15 miles in Manhattan, 20 miles in Brooklyn, 8 miles on Staten Island and 8 miles in Williamsburg.  My legs are sore - in a good way.

The weather was beautiful. I traveled with a good buddy of mine who has persistently helped me re-establish my social life. I also had plenty of friends with me from my Boston skate club who knew Catherine and understand what happened to her.  There were also a lot of great people from NYC and other cities.

It's been 13 months since Catherine died.  It has been, by my own choice, the loneliest year of my life. I am so much happier now than I was this time last year.  In that one small respect, I consider myself lucky.

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Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Guaruj on August 13, 2015, 08:07:15 PM
Let me tell you all what happened at work today. I work for a big company that has several large facilities in my state.  Today I went to a meeting at a different location and saw several of my old co-workers. I followed one guy to his office and learned that his office mate is a woman I've known for years.  She's a real sweetheart, and we were both happy to see each other.

So we both hugged and kissed each other - at work, in her office. I asked her how her children were.  She told me that her daughter just had a baby. I was astounded.  She showed me a baby picture on her computer screen.  My eyes went back and forth between the picture and her.  I said to her "well, you're cutest grandmother I've ever seen!".  I don't think anybody expected to hear me say that after being widowed for 13 months.

I think I'll be ready to start dating again soon.

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Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on August 13, 2015, 10:03:33 PM
Being out on the soccer fields with my girls watching them play and co-coach was my 'happy' tonight. They were all smiling and having a great time. My 16yo offered to help our neighbor co-coach the boys middle school team. He enjoyed having her input, so he asked if she would also like to help co-coach his 3rd grade boys team. My 13yo helped by being the goalie during their scrimmage.

 My 8yo was on another field practicing with her team. I graduated high school with her husband/wife coaches and one of the other mom's. It was like a small class reunion. After her practice was over I worked one on one with her while we waited for the boys practice to be over. I love having individual time with my girls. It doesn't happen very often. Great evening!
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Trying on August 14, 2015, 04:16:47 AM
Being able to walk across the street and go out on my kayak or paddle board and be surrounded by the peace and beauty of the lake.  This is what makes all of the stress of the move worth it.  This is my new happy place.
Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Virgo on August 17, 2015, 07:34:29 PM
I really dislike grocery shopping. It is something that my husband and I always did together. We just made a day of it.  I felt like he was with me today in spirit. I have had smoothie straws on my list for a long time. I've just never been able to find them in the store. Anyway, I deleted them from my list today. Well as I went to grab a few bags of pretzels for my girls guess what is on the shelf right next to them? A package of smoothie straws. Ha! I said, "thanks Phil." I don't care if anyone heard me either.

Title: Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
Post by: Jess on August 17, 2015, 09:14:13 PM
As part of some dramatic and stressful work org changes, they are flattening out my department which means I am losing my direct reports. Luckily, it does not change my pay. So the bright side in this is one of my employees was told me I was the best manager he has ever had, which a year of those three years was post losing DH. I got warm fuzzies.