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Encouragement => Books, Quotes, Poems, and Songs => Topic started by: swilson on March 08, 2015, 07:44:38 PM

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Post by: swilson on March 08, 2015, 07:44:38 PM
?In every heart there is an inner room, where we can hold our greatest treasures and our deepest pain.? ? Marianne Williamson
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Post by: canadiangirl on March 08, 2015, 11:45:13 PM
?Once you are real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.?

--Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit
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Post by: Mac on March 10, 2015, 12:19:44 AM
"Everyday, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts toward others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can."

--- The Dalai Lama
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Post by: canadiangirl on March 10, 2015, 06:54:59 AM
This was posted by former YWBB member Goodgirl715, who hasn't made her way here yet, at 9 years out:

Grief can destroy you -- or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for granted the love and laughter of each day, and didn't allow yourself to consider the sacredness of it. But when it's over and you're alone, you begin to see that it wasn't just a movie and a dinner together, not just watching sunsets together, not just scrubbing a floor or washing dishes together or worrying over a high electric bill. It was everything, it was the why of life, every event and precious moment of it. The answer to the mystery of existence is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly, and when the loss wakes you to the deeper beauty of it, to the sanctity of it, you can't get off your knees for a long time, you're driven to your knees not by the weight of the loss but by gratitude for what preceded the loss. And the ache is always there, but one day not the emptiness, because to nurture the emptiness, to take solace in it, is to disrespect the gift of life. ~Dean Koontz, Odd Hours
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Post by: Mac on March 15, 2015, 08:44:14 PM
You have a unique appreciation of life that can lead to amazing things.
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Post by: Mac on March 16, 2015, 10:54:11 PM
The foundation built from your love and kindness, makes this new life so much easier.
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Post by: swilson on March 17, 2015, 05:49:59 PM
Love knows not its depth until the hour of separation ~ Kahlil Gibran
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Post by: allan on March 18, 2015, 03:53:43 PM
Someone on the board qouted"Your opinion of me is none of my business" ,or was it a book I read who knows but I like it kinda of a polite two fingers.
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Post by: Gabzmom on March 23, 2015, 02:03:06 AM
This was posted by former YWBB member Goodgirl715, who hasn't made her way here yet, at 9 years out:

Grief can destroy you -- or focus you. You can decide a relationship was all for nothing if it had to end in death, and you alone. OR you can realize that every moment of it had more meaning than you dared to recognize at the time, so much meaning it scared you, so you just lived, just took for granted the love and laughter of each day, and didn't allow yourself to consider the sacredness of it. But when it's over and you're alone, you begin to see that it wasn't just a movie and a dinner together, not just watching sunsets together, not just scrubbing a floor or washing dishes together or worrying over a high electric bill. It was everything, it was the why of life, every event and precious moment of it. The answer to the mystery of existence is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly, and when the loss wakes you to the deeper beauty of it, to the sanctity of it, you can't get off your knees for a long time, you're driven to your knees not by the weight of the loss but by gratitude for what preceded the loss. And the ache is always there, but one day not the emptiness, because to nurture the emptiness, to take solace in it, is to disrespect the gift of life. ~Dean Koontz, Odd Hours

I had saved this from somewhere and pasted it into my journal.  Thank you for sharing. 
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Post by: Ginger on March 23, 2015, 07:03:30 PM
Posted by former YWBB member lilacbreeze:

"The Five People You Meet In Heaven"Book Quote:

"Lost love is still love, Eddie. It takes a different form, that's all. you can't see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it."

Posted by a former WYBB member:

An Eskimo Legend

"Perhaps they are not stars in the sky,
but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy."
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Post by: canadiangirl on March 24, 2015, 11:04:39 PM
This one is a bit triggering perhaps, but it is a powerful message from neurosurgeon Paul Kalinithi who died on March 9th at the age of 37 to his daughter Cady.  The first paragraph is a little bit of context, but it is the last paragraph that really moved me.  The full text of the article is at the link at the end.

"Yet one thing cannot be robbed of her futurity: my daughter, Cady. I hope I?ll live long enough that she has some memory of me. Words have a longevity I do not. I had thought I could leave her a series of letters -- but what would they really say? I don?t know what this girl will be like when she is 15; I don?t even know if she?ll take to the nickname we?ve given her. There is perhaps only one thing to say to this infant, who is all future, overlapping briefly with me, whose life, barring the improbable, is all but past.

That message is simple: When you come to one of the many moments in life when you must give an account of yourself, provide a ledger of what you have been, and done, and meant to the world, do not, I pray, discount that you filled a dying man?s days with a sated joy, a joy unknown to me in all my prior years, a joy that does not hunger for more and more, but rests, satisfied. In this time, right now, that is an enormous thing."

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/03/20/paul-kalanithi-dying-neurosurgeons-exquisite-message-to-daughter_n_6905234.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063
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Post by: patriciad on April 26, 2015, 06:36:38 AM
"We were talking the other evening about the phrases one uses when trying to comfort someone who is in distress.  I told him that in English we sometimes say "I've been there".  This was unclear to him at first-I've been where?  But I explained that deep grief sometimes is almost like a specific location, a coordinate on a map of time.  When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place.  But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope.
"So sadness is a place?" Giovanni asked.
"Sometimes people live there for years" I said

Elizabeth Gilbert- Eat, Pray, Love
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Post by: Wheelerswife on April 26, 2015, 08:21:07 AM
Ah, the power of metaphor...

Maureen
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Post by: Amor on May 08, 2015, 09:09:42 PM
I got this quote in my Love's email yesterday.  I was feeling down heart'd like I could not succeed at anything anymore.  I had a job interview that I thought I failed really bad. 
Success...
   ? Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. ?


― Thomas A. Edison
 ::)

Today i got a job offer.  My love was trying to tell me something special. 
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Post by: Ursula on July 31, 2015, 07:01:05 AM
This is my favourite , I would like to share it with you:


?You?ll get over it?? It?s the clich?s that cause the trouble. To lose someone you love is to alter your life for ever. You don?t get over it because ?it? is the person you loved. The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never closes. How could it? The particularness of someone who mattered enough to grieve over is not made anodyne by death. This hole in my heart is in the shape of you and no-one else can fit it. Why would I want them to??


― Jeanette Winterson, Written on the Body
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Post by: Bunny on August 05, 2015, 06:22:18 PM
'Sometimes your only available transportation is a leap of faith.'

- Margaret Shepard
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Post by: DansSoulmate on September 04, 2015, 08:49:58 AM
My absolute favorite quote right now:

There?s this place in me where your fingerprints still rest, your kisses still linger, and your whispers softly echo.  It?s the place where a part of you will forever be a part of me.
Gretchen Kemp
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Post by: marjoe on September 07, 2015, 03:29:10 PM
"Only in silence, the word
Only in dark, the light
Only in dying, life
Bright the hawk's flight on the empty sky.

"A Wizard of Earthsea"
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Post by: Amor on September 14, 2015, 11:56:32 AM
?Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.?


― Vicki Harrison
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Post by: Euf on September 14, 2015, 04:06:20 PM
?If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together... there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart... I'll always be with you.?
― A.A. Milne
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Post by: canadiangirl on January 03, 2016, 08:04:50 PM
"Implicit in poetry is the notion that we are deepened by heartbreaks, that we are not so much diminished as enlarged by grief, by our refusal to vanish--to let others vanish--without leaving a verbal record."

Edward Hirsch, American poet and critic

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Post by: Amor on January 17, 2016, 03:53:28 AM
To everyone here that has made it this far.

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of those depths.?


― Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Thank you for helping each other through this time.
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Post by: Bunny on January 27, 2016, 02:49:14 PM

In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer.

~ Albert Camus
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Post by: Bunny on October 04, 2016, 11:41:37 AM
"And I knew then- it was the end, and it was the beginning, of a whole new life for me."

Brenda Lenard, talking about the moment she was told that her baby had died.
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Post by: canadiangirl on October 13, 2016, 08:24:47 AM
Forget your perfect offering.

There is a crack
         A crack
    In everything
   That's how the       
    Light gets in...

Leonard Cohen, Anthem
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Post by: canadiangirl on October 31, 2016, 06:08:12 AM
You must go on.
           
            I can't go on.
 
            I'll go on.


-Samuel Beckett, last lines of The Unnamable, as cited in Paul Kalanithi, When Breath Becomes Air
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Post by: Euf on November 04, 2016, 07:18:37 PM
I love Leonard Cohen.

Quote
There is a crack
         A crack
    In everything
   That's how the       
    Light gets in...

This is one of the things that made so much sense to me from the beginning.  I was shattered, I was broken.  Broken enough to let the light in.
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Post by: Adley on December 16, 2016, 11:52:18 PM
'What if this is as good as it gets?'- Jack Nicholson, ' As Good As It Gets'
'Love's a terrible price to pay for company.' - Caleb Cobb
  'I thought y'all were gonna make it.' 'We did make it.'- conversation between me and a friend
   'I know what it's like to hate the Bluecoat.' - Gatewood to Davis, regarding Geronimo
  'I hear it takes a year to get over it.' - my Granny
      ' I know you lost someone too'- MIL
   You don't know about lonely
    Til it's written in stone
    'Bible and Sword!'- Captain Skull, and my wife's slogan, tatoo, and tshirt once we found out she had cancer.
   'Nothing is either right or wrong, only thinkin makes it so'- the Bard
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Post by: Amor on January 07, 2017, 02:56:38 PM
“If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them.”


― James O'Barr
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Post by: Bunny on March 19, 2017, 11:09:17 AM
 "She died at home with me and her parents holding her, hopefully having reach some last minute peace.  It's all very sad and surreal. So much is left unfinished for her. She was a firehose of brilliant ideas that never turned off. We loved her and everything is weird now. "

- Phil Elverum




Boy does this one speak to me...


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Post by: Amor on April 15, 2017, 02:35:14 PM
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”


― Washington Irving
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Post by: Bunny on August 02, 2017, 12:51:02 PM
Yup.
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Post by: jgib on August 02, 2017, 11:23:13 PM
"I used to believe in forever, but forever's too good to be true”
― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
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Post by: Bunny on August 15, 2017, 03:42:48 PM
Nick Cave sits in a Sydney hotel room, his chair facing the floor-to-ceiling windows, the city bathed in summer sun beyond and below. “Look,” he continues, patiently choosing his words, “not to just keep going on about this, but the whole grief thing, there's nothing good about it whatsoever. People will tell you other things, but it's like a fucking disease. A contagion that not only affects you but everybody around you. And it's cunning. And you can feel good and you can be getting on with things, and then it just comes up and sort of punches you in the back of the head and you're down and you're out for the count for a while. I don't just mean psychologically, I mean physically too. Grief and illness and tiredness feed off each other in a kind of feeding frenzy.'

- from an interview in GQ magazine
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Post by: Bunny on October 04, 2017, 10:25:04 AM
 Advice for a young man, but also works for a widow:


'So, sweetie, I don't know if we ever figure our lives out, and the people who help you, they might not be who you thought or wanted. They might just be the people who show up.'

Dorothea from 20th Century Women