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Young Widow Forum => General Discussion => Topic started by: Wheelerswife on July 23, 2017, 07:49:26 PM

Title: It is NOT a Facebook moment - Update
Post by: Wheelerswife on July 23, 2017, 07:49:26 PM
Tonight is my last night in my house. Tomorrow morning, the movers come and before the day is out, I will be on the road and driving east. Where am I going?  Good question. My property is going into storage and I'm moving into a different level of limbo. I made the commitment to be out of my house by the end of July. I'm renting my house for at least the next year to a young couple who are considering buying it.

But I have not yet landed a job in my new profession and that has been very disappointing. I have options on where to stay and I am pretty adept at living out of a suitcase, but I just want a job and a place to start the next real chapter in my life. I feel like I am between episodes in a made-for-TV series that has gotten pretty stale.

I am just so over being in a rut. But I'm still in it!

So...I'm moving - leaving my home and the world I came to love with my second husband, but I can't announce anything to the world because I haven't managed to complete the next transition. Sigh.

Maureen
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: BrokenHeart2 on July 23, 2017, 08:03:50 PM
Wow Maureen.  That is huge and such a state of flux!!  I'm sorry to hear it hasn't fallen into place yet but I'm sure it will in good time. Doesn't sound to me like that TV series is getting stale, can't wait for the next episode to air.  But in all seriousness, you must feel so out of sorts being in limbo and I hope your path is clear for you soon.  You are one brave lady taking all this on!  Good on you!  I will say I don't think I would have the nerve to do it and you inspire me!!
Safe travels dear Lady!!
Hugs.
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: Julester3 on July 23, 2017, 09:29:14 PM
You are brave and moving forward. Positive vibes you find a working situation so you can make more concrete plans! Hugs for moving day tomorrow!
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: RyanAmysMom on July 23, 2017, 11:16:10 PM
I'm having an anxiety attack just reading this.  I think you're living out a scenario I'd love to live if I had the courage.  Good luck to you - where ever you land!
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: Trying on July 24, 2017, 06:04:16 AM
Fingers and toes crossed that you find that great job soon so you can start your new chapter.  You have gone through so much to get to this point and it sounds like you are really ready to take this step.  I can only imagine the mix of emotions as you say your final goodbye to the home and life you shared with John.  Tight hugs and best wishes!
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: sojourner on July 24, 2017, 08:56:10 AM
My last night in our old home was heartbreaking- remembering all the hope and all the promise of our future together when we moved in, thinking it was the home we'd live in for the rest of our lives. And thinking of how it did turn out to be the rest of his life for him, but can't be for me now. Nothing like moving to drive home the finality of that future dying with him.

But I knew my own future was no longer there. I feel like where I am now is a stop-over, and that's fine for now. It's my base while my kids finish up school, and then I know I'll be looking elsewhere again, for someplace more where I actually want to be. It is what it is.

Feeling for you, and blessings on your journey into your new future. Hoping a nice job where you want to be opens up for you soon!
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: MR on July 24, 2017, 10:59:06 AM
Such a huge step. Hang in there and things will start shaping up. Best wishes.
Hugs
Manoj
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: trying2breathe on July 24, 2017, 01:52:02 PM
Best wishes on moving and the next stage, you've got options and as you say are adept at this.  No doubt there's a bit of anxiety to not know what the direct future holds.  Thinking of you and sending big hugs ~
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: calimom on July 24, 2017, 06:52:18 PM
Wishing you well on your journey, Maureen. The physical one as well as the metaphorical one. I really admire your attitude in the face of everything life has thrown at you.

Big hugs from the west coast.
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: Adley on July 25, 2017, 11:55:01 AM
You got this! You've got a plan and you're seeing it through, despite the hiccups. You can do this, you are doing it!
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: Captains wife on July 25, 2017, 08:48:57 PM
All the best - such a lot of life transitions for you. It has to be really hard leaving your current place. I know you will land a job in your field...sometimes it takes a while especially with career shifts. I look forward to seeing you again when u r out east.
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: Blue14 on July 25, 2017, 08:55:41 PM
You are brave and strong. You can do this.
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment
Post by: TooSoon on July 26, 2017, 09:24:44 AM
You are brave and strong. You can do this.

Just remember, you've got friends (me, Adp and Blue14 among others) in our neck (or more accurately, valley) of the northeast.   :)  Thinking of you, pulling for you always.  xo
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment - Update
Post by: Wheelerswife on July 31, 2017, 08:24:19 AM
Well, a week ago I moved out of my house and hit the road heading east.  Like many milestones and anniversaries we face, the anticipation was worse than the actual day itself and I have definitely felt some relief that I have let this door close behind me.  I am temporarily at my parents' home, awaiting arrival of my property, which I will sort again and place in storage here.  That will take just over another week.  I'm continuing the job search, hoping that my Plan A will come to fruition.  In the mean time, I'm trying to wait things out here.  I feel like I have chaperones and I'm trying to negotiate how to live under these circumstances.  I'm hoping to get a call about an interview in the next couple of days.  If not, I will hit the road and travel a bit.

I can't sit still.  I just wish the right job would appear and I could move into my own place and I could get back in the game.

Maureen
Title: Re: It is NOT a Facebook moment - Update
Post by: Julester3 on July 31, 2017, 09:55:58 AM
Hugs Maureen! I hope someone follows up with you soon!