Young Widow Forum

Time Frame => Beyond Active Grieving => Topic started by: Mrskro on November 03, 2017, 05:48:53 PM

Title: And now I'm older than he got to be.
Post by: Mrskro on November 03, 2017, 05:48:53 PM
And I don't know why this one is so much harder.

 Our birthdays are 4 days apart.  So really on his last birthday I was already on this planet longer than he was.  But now I"m officially older than he got to be.  How is that even possible? And even worse...and I get it...how others don't see why this is a thing...but it's a thing...a huge thing to me.

I shouldn't be older than he got to be.
Title: Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
Post by: BrokenHeart2 on November 03, 2017, 06:51:36 PM
MK they don't get it if they haven't been through this.  I get it.  It was huge to me when I became older than DH a couple of yrs ago.  It just was surreal to me.
Hugs.
Title: Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
Post by: daysofelijah on November 04, 2017, 08:36:13 AM
It is a weird feeling. I was three years younger than DH, now I'm three years older than he ever got to be. He'll forever be 39.
Title: Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
Post by: Bunny on November 04, 2017, 10:31:10 AM
I guess this is one widow thing I get to skip, since I married someone younger than me. When he died, he was 18 months younger. Now, he's 7 years younger than me. Death math is so discombobulating sometimes!

Title: Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
Post by: First Widow on November 04, 2017, 10:44:29 AM
I was only 11 months younger than my husband and it was hard.  Even this year being 2 years older was bittersweet.  (((hugs)))
Title: Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
Post by: sojourner on November 04, 2017, 11:41:30 AM
I get it, Mrskro; will there soon, myself. :(
Title: Re: And now I'm older than he got to be.
Post by: Lmsmdm on November 05, 2017, 07:52:20 PM
December of 2016. It was brutal. I so get this.