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Time Frame => Shock Wears Off, Reality Sets In ( 6 to 12 months) => Topic started by: Jen on March 08, 2015, 05:48:03 PM

Title: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on March 08, 2015, 05:48:03 PM
Quote from: JustJen
Fuck the cold and heartless way we were cut loose without warning. But humongous hugs to everyone who found our new home-- and especially to Jezzy and Justin for putting it together so quickly and beautifully!

Quote from: Michael 797
Testing, testing... fuck one, fuck two - fuck me, fuck you....

Let's see if the smileys are working.   :D

Well, fuck being abandoned - but I coulda said that eight months ago. You never get used to it, but it seems that - with the right friends - you can deal. So there's that.

Quote from: widowat33
Lol, I was gonna say the same. Fuck the way we came together to share in our sadness, happiness and everything in between only to have it taken away. But now I'm happy once again, that we have this new place, and thankful to those who put it together so quickly!

Quote from: Stargazer74
Fuck Yeah! Fuck that the other board died suddenly, like my wife. Not fucking traumatizing in the least. But hey, I'm liking the new board and even have figured out that even though we can't post new stuff on the old board, we can EDIT our old posts, so we can spread the word that way.

Quote from: Gracelet
Fuck that new wids aren't easily going to be able to find a resource to help them. Fuck that I lose all my old posts.

Quote from: JaseBlade
Fuck the inquest I have to go to on Wednesday! And fuck the press that will be there- they have already caused enough grief for myself and my family, why should they be allowed there?!

Quote from: JacklessSally
Fuck starting over.

Quote from: Mangomom
Hey, how come you guys get this thread?  ;) I hope you don't mind a 2.5 year wid stopping by to let it fly occasionally!

Editorial comment: there is no time limit on grief or this thread. Everyone is welcome, any time, any reason!

Quote from: lcoxwell
I am not one to drop the "f bomb", nor do I even use the word, but it was an absolute favorite of my Kenneth's, and the last time I ever got to hear him say it was one year ago today.

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: markb74 on March 08, 2015, 07:15:03 PM
Fuck those who say they will be there for you, and to ask them for anything... then you never hear from then again.

Fuck social situations when someone says something dumb then they realize what they said was not appropriate.

Fuck people who think you can flip a switch and go back to being normal.

Fuck people who think they can help you by making you rush and get rid of stuff you have a reason to hold onto and they dont get it.

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: tk74 on March 08, 2015, 10:29:45 PM
I think I'm going to like it here.
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Post by: OSAAT on March 09, 2015, 12:45:56 AM
Haha!! So glad this made it over here!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: gracelet on March 09, 2015, 07:42:07 AM
Is there a possibility of moving this into General?  I still like saying FUCK even though I'm outside the 6-12 months category ;-) 

Not a problem if you can't.  I'll just invade anyway.

FUCK that my widow bestie has been upset by her in laws.  She deserves to be left to grieve in peace.
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Post by: JacklessSally on March 09, 2015, 08:34:49 AM
Fuck yet another thing to learn... oh well, gives me something to do I suppose..
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Post by: Jen on March 09, 2015, 08:37:10 AM
I just put it where I originally found it. If the general concensus is to move it, I'm fine with that. I admit, I find it convenient... ;)
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Post by: Trying on March 09, 2015, 04:41:10 PM
Fuck insomnia that leaves me exhausted all day. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mangomom on March 09, 2015, 11:18:02 PM
Fuck that my kid is hurting and I can't make it better.  I know, this would have happened even if Dad didn't die, but still... It fucking sucks.  What sucks. Most is that I don't have another adult who is equally invested to bounce ideas off of.  There, now it's about him dying.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on March 10, 2015, 12:29:48 PM
Big ol' DITTO here, Mangomom. My littlest guy was upset and crying a few nights ago-- he sobbed, "I wish I'd never been born! Then I wouldn't have stressed out Jim, and Jim wouldn't be dead!"  :'( :'( :'(

Fuck that we can't fix the grief for our babies, or for each other, or for ourselves. :(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: OSAAT on March 11, 2015, 01:14:03 AM
Fuck the insensitive prick who attacked me by saying I was dishonest because I still love J. (According to dickwaud of the fucking century) If I tell a new guy I am dating that I still love J, I am stirring the pot, and if I don't tell, I am dishonest. WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU?? FUCK YOU AND THE HORSE YOU RODE IN ON. FFS!!
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Post by: BrokenHeart2 on March 11, 2015, 07:35:11 AM
Fuck the people who have so much advice to give when they have no fucking idea what they are talking about.
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Post by: JacklessSally on March 11, 2015, 07:50:49 AM
Fuck the people who have so much advice to give when they have no fucking idea what they are talking about.

^ this.. 1000000 times this.

Fuck the people who compare the loss of my love to the loss of their distant relative or their pet. You do not know EXACTLY how I feel...
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: sphoc on March 13, 2015, 06:00:03 AM
Fuck thinking that things were going better. It looks like I won't be able to buy a house after all as I can't seem to get financing. Fuck my school for it's weird enrollment reporting. Fuck that it feels like every major decision I make in my life turns to crap. Just fuck.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on March 13, 2015, 09:19:16 PM
Fuck my feelings. Fuck this goddamn roller coaster from hell. I WANT OFF.
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Post by: Tweety76 on March 14, 2015, 01:10:38 AM
FUCK THIS SHIT!!!!!! Why the FUCK does it have to hit so hard that exactly now a year ago I heard his voice the last time! FUCK!!!!!!!!! MAKE IT STOP!!!! ENOUGH!!!!!
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Post by: patriciad on March 16, 2015, 06:00:26 PM
Fuck cancer!   And fuck chemo-the killer cure.

Pat
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Carey on March 18, 2015, 03:37:49 PM
Fuck. It. ALL.  Just all of it.  Low paying job I no longer love.  IRS/Student Loan/NC Dept of Revenue/Wayne County tax office please bend over.  Fuck the family that is no longer there ... the birth of the great-nephew next week that hasn't even been mentioned to me do I want to be there.  Fuck the kids who are being mean to my son causing him not to want to go to school. Fuck that idiot boy that I thought was finally out of my daughter's life who waltzed back in last weekend and asked for scrambled eggs like he owned the place. Fuck appliances that don't work. Fuck the cows in the field across the street.  Really no one wants me to keep going.  So yea, today? All of it.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: twistedmensa on March 18, 2015, 08:47:42 PM
My favorite thread!

Fuck is such a versatile word.  A noun, a verb, an exclamation.  What is not to love about such a useful tool?



oh....and fuck cancer.

And fuck the docs that wasted precious time treating him for bronchitis when every fiber of my being knew that the cancer was back.

And fuck being responsible for every fucking thing.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Kamcho on March 18, 2015, 08:59:14 PM
Have I dropped a "Fuck cancer" recently?

No? FUCK YOU, CANCER!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on March 18, 2015, 09:23:07 PM
And fuck being responsible for every fucking thing.


DITTO. Big time.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mangomom on March 18, 2015, 09:34:35 PM
And fuck being responsible for every fucking thing.


DITTO. Big time.
triple ditto.
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Post by: twistedmensa on March 18, 2015, 10:58:56 PM
And fuck those "Share if you're married to your best friend" posts on facebook that keep infiltrating my timeline!!
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Post by: BrokenHeart2 on March 19, 2015, 12:22:49 AM
Fuck Em all. I fucking hate cancer and I fucking hate those not there to help and support me.
 I love my wids here on Widda.org!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: gracelet on March 19, 2015, 07:33:18 AM
Fuck people who are perfectionists.  They've had nothing wrong in their lives that gives them a sense of perspective.  They are NOT WISE.

A colleague, who went back on a decision, just quoted Wilde at me: The well-bred contradict other people, the wise contradict themselves.

I just found this hilarious quote and wish I could respond with it:

?Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life, and it is the main obstacle between you and a shitty first draft. I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping-stone just right, you won't have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that a lot of people who aren't even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you, and have a lot more fun while they're doing it.?

― Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Carey on March 19, 2015, 08:49:25 AM
And fuck being responsible for every fucking thing.


DITTO. Big time.

Double dog ditto.
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Post by: SoVerySad on March 23, 2015, 10:51:34 PM
Fuck that after 731 nights of going to bed without him, it still sucks so much.
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Post by: Trying on March 25, 2015, 06:24:35 AM
Fuck having to yell and nag constantly to get my teens to do anything, fuck that there's no one else to take a turn yelling and nagging!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: 66etype on March 25, 2015, 08:35:39 AM
This is a great article... it has many good mantras!

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/01/25-powerful-mantras-for-not-giving-a-fck-adult-language/


Tracy
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Post by: JacklessSally on March 25, 2015, 08:58:40 AM
Fuck that he would have been 27 yesterday. He shouldn't have died at 20 years old. Fuck her for going on about her life like she did not have a hand in killing him.. Fuck that he and my love never got to meet...
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on March 25, 2015, 11:53:25 AM
Fuck the neighbour with their head up their a**that came by 5 months later because they just found out he died and said we thought he was on a business trip. 

Fuck the condolence cards my 12 yr old just brought home 5 months later.

Fuck me that I can't bring myself to put the headstone up.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: widowat33 on March 25, 2015, 11:34:31 PM
Fuck not being able to fucking sleep.
Fuck that despite being surrounded by people I feel so fucking alone.
Fuck the future that I won't have now and no fucking longer look forward to.
 I do like the word fuck, but don't use it very often, since I'm not saying it, I guess it's allright to write it!!  :)

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on March 26, 2015, 12:25:41 AM
Fuck not being able to fucking sleep.
Fuck that despite being surrounded by people I feel so fucking alone.
Fuck the future that I won't have now and no fucking longer look forward to.
 I do like the word fuck, but don't use it very often, since I'm not saying it, I guess it's allright to write it!!  :)



Other than the fact that I do say fuck quite often-- yeah, what she said. :(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mangomom on March 26, 2015, 05:45:48 AM
Fuck that despite being surrounded by people I feel so fucking alone.
This :(  Fuck this. (Well, all the other stuff on this thread, too.  But, right now?  THIS.)
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on March 26, 2015, 08:04:21 PM
Fuck still getting mail and magazines in his name and not being strong enough to change it
Fuck going to the grocery store and breaking down
Fuck just when you are getting through the day something always shows up to kick you in the gut
Fuck the town census where I had to put D after his name
Fuck that he would get the biggest kick out of me using the "f" word so many times
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: lcoxwell on March 26, 2015, 10:49:25 PM
I love this thread.  Every time I start missing my Kenneth, who dropped the "f bomb" just about every other word, I can come here and smile, thinking of all the things he would have added to this.
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Post by: Mr C on April 09, 2015, 08:40:55 PM
Fuck You soccer league for making mother's occupation a required field.  >:(
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Post by: MrsDan on April 16, 2015, 01:37:37 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2n14t7ybrDM (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2n14t7ybrDM)
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Post by: Jen on April 17, 2015, 07:27:35 AM
Fuck that my heart refuses to accept what is.
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Post by: Joey on April 19, 2015, 08:58:58 PM
Fuck people (This means YOU family, friends) who think I am the official spokesperson for DW.
You loved her, I did too. Feelin' griefy? I am too. Need to talk to someone? get a shrink. Because when you call me with your memories and cry... you're bringing me right back to the place I am trying to escape.

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Post by: Carey on April 21, 2015, 03:58:31 PM
:snort: .... ok I had to laugh, OMG... "feelin' griefy?"......... talk about a tee shirt in the making lol Joey I'm sure it wasn't your intention but you gave me the biggest laugh today, thank you for that.

P.S.
People are so oblivious and thoughtless at times, never thinking that they might move past the sad moment but they have now cast us down to a whole night of it, if not longer. I'm sorry honey. People suck.
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Post by: Jen on May 02, 2015, 01:03:20 PM
Fuck that I had the first good dream that I've had in months and promptly forgot it as soon as the alarm went off.
Fuck that the loneliness is killing me.
Fuck every single person who tells me I have to keep going, it gets better, because it DOES NOT and it NEVER, NEVER will.
Fuck my lousy defeatist attitude.
Fuck my empty, broken heart straight to hell-- oh, wait, already there. :(  :(  :(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: allan on May 04, 2015, 05:00:24 PM
Fuck it,fuck it all 21 months and my sleeping pattern is still all to shit I'm still on auto pilot.
Fuck it that I've mastered the art of making other's believe I'm ok ,I'm not I'm lost .
fuck you I'm bastard tired
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Post by: Carey on May 05, 2015, 03:00:42 PM
Fuck that I managed to keep my camera equipment out of the pawn shop a whole two weeks, has to go back today.  Fuck my daughter that thinks because her daddy is dead and her aunt is the principal that she is above the rules at school and I have my sister constantly on my ass because of it. Fuck that my baby girl is graduating in a few months and he won't be here. And to piggy back off Jen, Fuck my defeatist attitude :P  bah............
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Post by: twistedmensa on June 01, 2015, 02:48:03 AM
Fuck my HOA who seems to think I give a flying fuck about the "spurge" (it's a specific weed...yeah, I had to look it up) in my yard.
Fuck that I now know what spurge is. 
Fuck crying every day even after 13 glorious, fun-filled months.
Fuck that we don't have a "flip-off" emoticon.
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Post by: Jen on June 02, 2015, 09:45:29 PM
Fuck death. Fuck that I lost a dear friend today, and I never got to see him again. Fuck that there's a new member in our club. Fuck all this shit.
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Post by: maddalena on June 02, 2015, 09:56:27 PM
this is the best thread ever. The only place i ever used that word. with gusto!
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Post by: BrokenHeart2 on June 03, 2015, 09:49:36 PM
My motto for the past while... Fuck it.  That's all
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Post by: TooSoon on June 03, 2015, 09:59:20 PM
I find there is nothing more liberating than just saying, "Fuck it."  Yes I'll raise your grade.  Yes you can have another bowl of ice cream.  No I am not taking the trash out tonight.  Yes it is ok to eat cereal for dinner.  Paths of least resistance can be exceptionally empowering.  Being widowed taught me this.
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Post by: BrokenHeart2 on June 03, 2015, 10:29:56 PM
Oh TS. I get your path of least resistance. I didn't used to be that way but I am now. I wished I had learned it sooner the way DH got it. That kinda makes me sad.  I can't change that but I have changed. Fuck it is where I am.  Just how important is it?  Not really then... Fuck it.  I don't say it but I do think it :)
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Post by: lcoxwell on June 03, 2015, 10:42:48 PM
If ever I get to missing my foul-mouthed, one-legged, rough-around-the-edges hubby, I can pop in on this thread, and smile, just a little, knowing that he would have loved all the posts here (though the reasons people come here to post sometimes sadden me). My Kenneth sure did love dropping the f-bomb, and coming here, even though I do not use foul language personally, helps me feel closer to him, as odd as that may seem. Curse on, my widow/widower friends, curse on.
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Post by: BrokenHeart2 on June 04, 2015, 03:34:52 AM
Try it Icoxwell. It's liberating. Fuck it!  Lol
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Post by: Carey on June 04, 2015, 01:08:55 PM
Fuck the fact that my knee is still screwed and the rude ortho office won't even assist with getting an MRI ordered, been calling all week.  Fuck that my kid may be held back in the 9th grade due to absences and I'm inclined to let him (He did it to himself!), Fuck that my daughter ran back to a relationship with the useless boyfriend I thought we'd finally managed to ditch, fuck that my sunroof leaks horribly and I pretty much need an umbrella to ride IN my car,  fuck that no matter how much wrangling I do the finances stay fucked ..... fuck that I have so much to be irritated about today lol
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Post by: Baylee627 on June 04, 2015, 10:40:28 PM
Fuck the fact that that sketchy-ass, triflin', nickel-bitch ex-husband of mine still roams the earth inspirating oxygen while my beautiful husband takes a dirt nap six feet under sod. Seriously, Fuck him. I hope *it* breaks out into incurable, weeping blisters courtesy of one of his side-hooches.

Oh, and Fuck the fact that his new twenty-sumpin year old startlingly guileless wifey is preggo with a baby girl. (My husband desperately wanted to be a dad, and he was hoping for a daughter).

Life is unfair as fuck. Yes ma'am, it is.

Baylee

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on June 05, 2015, 09:02:06 AM
Fuck people's attitudes. If one more person is needlessly bitchy to me for no reason I am going to completely lose my shit.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Carey on June 05, 2015, 10:04:35 AM
saw a quote somewhere the other day ....... Hell hath no fury as a widow born :) Get em Mrs. Dan
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Post by: Jen on June 05, 2015, 02:04:26 PM
Fuck the fact that that sketchy-ass, triflin', nickel-bitch ex-husband of mine still roams the earth inspirating oxygen while my beautiful husband takes a dirt nap six feet under sod. ...

Life is unfair as fuck. Yes ma'am, it is.

Baylee

Ooooooh yes to this one. And fuck that the son of a bitch has the unmitigated gall to call me with unsolicited parenting advice when he abandoned his children without a moment's thought or hesitation over 5 years ago. He hasn't seen them or contributed to their upkeep in that time, he just calls periodically and upsets them. Rat bastard. Tell me, why does he get to go on living while my sweet Jim, who literally gave us EVERYTHING he had, dropped dead?
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Post by: MrsDan on June 05, 2015, 03:10:46 PM
I mean seriously, I cannot roll my eyes far enough. I'm so sick of stupid pettiness.
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Post by: Trying on June 09, 2015, 09:53:41 PM
Fuck my realtor who totally sucks, doesn't care and won't return a text, call or email for days on end then when I finally get through she goes on and on about how busy she is!  I don't give a flying fuck how busy you are, you shouldn't have tried to sell me the house if you don't have time to do the work!!!!
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Post by: klim on June 18, 2015, 10:17:27 PM
FUCK...FUCK...FUCK!

My younger son might have missed an electronic form he needed to fill out in order for his university acceptance to be completed.
 He was excited to have finally made a decision and now it might be screwed up.
I worry
FUCK

nobody to lean on
. FUCK


Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on June 19, 2015, 06:14:42 AM
Klim, just Fuck!  I hope it's not too late to get it in.  My guess is that if you e already put money down, they will take a form late.

Good luck! And Fuck that you've got no one to lean on!
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Post by: IfIonlycould on June 19, 2015, 10:00:29 AM
Fuck people who think just because they think of something a certain way THAT is the RIGHT way.....I am sick and fucking tired of people constantly interjecting their own viewpoints ...GREAT GOOD FOR YOU! THAT is good for your life, now kindly step aside and allow me to live MY life from my vantage point. FUCK and then you wonder why I want to be left alone. 
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Post by: BrokenHeart2 on June 23, 2015, 03:44:23 AM
IOOC, I don't wonder but feel the same. Fuck you until you've walked a mile in my shoes. Oh and don't compare your life to mine until you've lived it, then you can give advice if I ask for it.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on June 23, 2015, 06:40:19 AM
Fuck everyone who has to point out to my son repeatedly all he has lost and endured in 2 years and ask him about his plans for the future when he obviously is struggling with the present.  It goes like this:
"Wow 2 shoulder surgeries in 2 years, you can never swim in college again?"
"You missed second semester freshman year, how can you you catch up? You can't live with your friends because you dont have enough credits, that sucks"
" your Dad would want you to do. X, y, z"
"Is it hard to see everyone's posts about Fathers Day"
"You've lost a lot of weight, are you sick?"  His dad and 16 year old brother have Crohn's disease and dad had a neuroendocrine tumor in is colon, so no, he's not stressed already, really, we need you pointing it out.
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Post by: Wheelerswife on June 23, 2015, 07:54:35 AM
UGH, Trying!  Nope, didn't need that, eh? 

Sorry to have missed you when I was back east.  (I'm now north of Chicago!)

Maureen
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: IfIonlycould on June 23, 2015, 03:37:57 PM
Trying-   WHAT  THE  FUCK ?!?!?!  Who are these horrendous people saying these things to your son?  "Is it hard to see everyone's posts about fathers day?"   "Are you sick?"   Who in their right mind would even ask that??????  Gee whiz what a bunch of dumb fucks...I'm standing beside you saying fuck you!
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Post by: MrsDan on June 25, 2015, 07:32:18 PM
Not very original here, but fuck the fucking IRS.
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Post by: MrsDan on June 26, 2015, 08:59:21 PM
And while I'm on the subject of anagrams, fuck the DMV.
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Post by: Jen on June 29, 2015, 01:08:27 PM
Fuck that every time I think I'm seeing a little sunlight, it turns out to be a mirage. Fuck that this useless, stupid heart of mine won't take the hint and just die already. Fuck that it hurts and hurts and will. Not. Stop.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: gracelet on June 30, 2015, 08:07:52 AM
fuck you bank for not knowing what the fuck to do with the form i had to fill in. YOU asked me to come in. 'What's the reason behind your request?' err. SHE'S FUCKING DEAD

Fuck you in-laws. Just fuck fuck fuck fuck you for trying to take me for all i have left. You are fucking cruel and you should be disgusted by your behaviour. She loved ME more than anything in the world.

FUCK that i let this anger surface again.
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Post by: conflicted on July 24, 2015, 11:46:48 AM
Fuck the people who asked me at 4 months "so, how's your love life?"  Um...he's DEAD! 

Fuck the person who asked me if my DH "smelled" when I found his lifeless body on the floor after work (4 hrs too late)

Fuck the people who give me advice based off them losing someone not even close to them

Fuck the people who told me to "move on" after only 3 or 4 months of grieving

Fuck the people who think I'm back to normal just because I put up a great facade and keep up with my routine

Fuck the people who keep bringing up my DH's death without any consideration of my PTSD and that I DON'T WANT TO FUCKING TALK ABOUT HIS DEATH WHILE I'M EATING

Fuck the person who told me a few weeks out that I'm young and have my whole life ahead of me. My DH WAS my life asshole

Fuck the people who tell me how I should cope just because they have lost someone.  We all cope differently.  And we all experienced a loss differently

Fuck Halloween.  I hate seeing any more corpses...

Fuck those who do not honor my DH when he spent his moments alive trying to help them

Fuck these weird dreams I keep having about DH lately.  My dreams of him used to be so beautiful

Fuck my brain for constantly remembering bad images. I want to remember him ALIVE

Fuck tv and the media for being so OBSESSED with death and morbid forensic details

Fuck my DH's stepmom for being so petty and cold-hearted to me during his funeral and even months after. Btw, he hated you bitch!

Fuck the people who told me I looked great when I lost 50 lbs in 4 months from grieving

Fuck the people who act like I'm fat now because I'm finally eating and am at a healthy 120 lbs instead of 114 (when I was originally 160)

Fuck me for being such a wus and not visiting my DH's grave anymore  :'(  I just can't handle it



Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: widowat33 on July 25, 2015, 12:46:14 AM
((Conflicted))
Fuck 'em all!
Grr..people make me angry. I get people commenting out of concern, but some of THOSE comments are horrible, and not all based on concern but are rather thoughtless and rude.
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Post by: Jen on July 26, 2015, 09:45:48 PM


Fuck the people who told me I looked great when I lost 50 lbs in 4 months from grieving.

Ditto here. After a year-plus, I still have people gush, "Wow, you look great! What's your diet secret?"

I tell them, "You wouldn't like this plan. It's called the Bereavement Diet and it sucks shit."

That generally shuts them up pretty fast. :-/

(((hugs)))
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Captains wife on August 10, 2015, 11:28:34 AM
F*** all these people in my life who expect me to do all the running around and make life easy for THEM - while I am a full time single mother working, trying to take care of a 4year old and a house. Wow, things really change from year 1 to year 3. FYI - that felt good to get off my chest....
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on August 10, 2015, 12:30:10 PM
F*** the power company who turned off my electricity this morning and even though it was THEIR error, took 3 hours to turn it back on.

F*** the cable company who I waited for all morning to come turn on my house phone (the one they were supposed to turn on 10 days ago) and they didn't show because I didn't answer my house phone! Yes, the phone that they haven't hooked up, the reason they were coming, if I could answer the phone I WOULDN'T NEED THEM!!!! 
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Post by: DavidsKtBeth on August 14, 2015, 09:28:00 AM
FUCK my life.. This blows.
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Post by: Jen on August 15, 2015, 12:37:55 PM
This blows.

It both blows and sucks, which shouldn't even be possible. :(  (((HUGS))))

Now then... ahem...

Fuck every tactless twat who gushes at me, "You look GREAT, what's your diet secret???" I tell them they don't want to know, and still they press it. Fine. Step one: get a call telling you that your beloved spouse has basically dropped dead on the living room floor. Step two: stop eating for six months. Step three: gradually reintroduce food, but not food you particularly like, because nothing tastes great anymore, so you might as well eat chicken and bran flakes as anything else. Step four: walk. Walk endlessly, because your brain is so jacked up and your heart hurts so much that you can't sit still, you can't concentrate on movies or tv or books, so you walk because it's pretty much the only way to get from the alarm going off in the morning to the light being (finally!!) turned off at night.

Sound good? I call it the Bereavement Diet, and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Yeah, I've lost a chunk of weight and had to buy new clothes. I do not look "great." I look saggy, sad, and defeated, because-- guess what?-- I AM. :(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: BrokenHeart2 on August 17, 2015, 12:22:39 AM
Fuck Em all!  Stupid nonsense and stupid people! Fuck Em! Blows and sucks is right. Yup, I'm feeling a tad of anger right now. Thanks for letting me spew it.
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Post by: BrokenHeart2 on August 17, 2015, 12:27:56 AM
double post, not sure why, par for the course in my stupid ship try life I guess!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on August 17, 2015, 06:56:50 PM
yup just fuck this whole widowhood thing
not you guys.... but all the rest
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: canadiangirl on August 19, 2015, 08:22:36 PM
Fuuuuuuuck you to the people who offer help or say they can help when asked and then don't follow through or can't actually deliver.  And then there's the people who never offer assistance at all any more because of course everything is peachy keen here.  It's no wonder I hate asking for help so much- I put myself out there and am still left hanging. Is it really too much to ask for something to go right once in a while?  Haven't we had enough of this? FU, universe! 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: pammierae7363 on August 25, 2015, 10:25:30 PM
Fuck that his birthday is next week and I'm buying fucking flowers for his fucking grave instead of the cool new ham radio gadget or a new Steelers jersey or whatever else would make his eyes light up. Fuck that the birthday dinner will just be me and his mom and not a big party with friends and family. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: THATgurl on September 20, 2015, 04:21:07 AM
Fuck just everyone and a bunch of all it all?  :P

The more I progress the more I realize I need to just say "fuck all y'all.  wanna have coffee?"

 I do think that part of this young widow thing is being old before our time.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: biscuit on September 21, 2015, 02:44:09 PM
Fuck everyone who has an opinion about where we should be in our grief without having experienced it themselves

Fuck everyone who I see for the first time since Wayne's death who ask me how life is and what am I up to these days? (um..barely surviving and going crazy)

and finally fuck the blissful ignorance of all the happily engaged couples around me who just cant believe how lucky they are and make sure everyone knows it
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on October 03, 2015, 10:11:34 PM
Fuck all this shit. Fuck that fucking isn't in my fucking future. Fuck this empty bed. Fuck it all. :( :( :(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: BrokenHeart2 on October 03, 2015, 10:45:45 PM
Yup! Fuck it al!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Brenda on October 06, 2015, 02:52:13 AM
Fuck all this shit. Fuck that fucking isn't in my fucking future. Fuck this empty bed. Fuck it all. :( :( :(

Not sure anyone can beat that statement in terms of "high fuck content".

But yeah, I'll raise a glass to that.  And again and again until the whole bottle is gone, because there's no fucking in my future either.  Sucks, right?
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on October 07, 2015, 06:52:56 PM
Fuck that tomorrow would be his birthday
fuck that this is the first time in 27 years that I will not have him here to celebrate
Fuck that this time last year we were on vacation , one of the best ones we ever had
fuck that I am still baking his birthday cake tonight because if I didn't it would break my heart
 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on October 08, 2015, 12:00:47 PM
Fuck that tomorrow would be his birthday
fuck that this is the first time in 27 years that I will not have him here to celebrate
Fuck that this time last year we were on vacation , one of the best ones we ever had
fuck that I am still baking his birthday cake tonight because if I didn't it would break my heart

(((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: fern on October 08, 2015, 09:16:25 PM
OMG this. Old before our time. I feel like I've jumped right from early middle age to elderly. FUCK THAT

I do think that part of this young widow thing is being old before our time.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on October 11, 2015, 09:46:10 AM
Fuck this roller coaster. Fuck that I'm almost happy for about five minutes, then it all goes to hell again. Fuck that I have to keep visiting this thread. Fuck that I look every minute of my 41 years, and then some. Fuck that it doesn't fucking matter because no one will ever look at me again anyway. Fuck that I give and give and there is no one to take care of me. Fuck that I still need someone to take care of me, but every time I look for a rock it just crumbles.

FUCK. IT. ALL.

ETA: Is it just my morbid sense of humor, or is it strangely fitting that this is my 666th post? Fuck.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Catnip on October 20, 2015, 12:50:21 PM
Fuck that my hair is now turning gray. Fuck that I know why-it's this stressful widow journey I've been on for the last 8 years.
Fuck my hairdresser who's becoming fucking rich because of me. Or rather, bless her for at least trying to cover it up. Fuck her for never losing her job while I'm around. Fuck that I love and hate her all at the same time.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Catnip on October 20, 2015, 12:56:02 PM
Fuck the fall. Why do all those leaves have to fall in my yard? Why don't they go away and melt like the snow does? Oh fuck, winter is right around the corner.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on October 21, 2015, 06:59:11 AM
Fuck that I have already had to put the heat on and I forget how to work the timer thingy on the thermostat
Fuck that it is now getting dark so early
fuck that I will have to start getting everything ready for the winter which I am terrified is coming
Fuck that I am so fucking grouchy lately , I don't even like hanging out with myself sometimes

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Brenda on October 22, 2015, 04:10:27 AM
You know what?  Fuck me.  Fuck me for being thoroughly incapable of getting my shit together, finding a job, and not being such a complete loser.  I'm tired of blaming my wife's death on my current situation; it's my fault now.  So fuck me for being so pathetic and fucking everything up.  I fucking hate this.  I fucking hate myself.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on October 22, 2015, 08:21:09 PM
FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Fuck my job fuck this shit hole house that I paid way too much for fuck my car fuck this whole fucking state fuck me fuck ME for being a terrible mother and wife, fuck me for ever trusting anyone fuck this whole fucking ride called life that I've never been any good at I want off. I want off now.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: fern on October 22, 2015, 11:23:37 PM
Fuck that it is autumn and that means getting the woodstove going to heat the house in the morning and dealing with the wood and chopping kindling and my husband did all that. It's going to be an expensive space-heater-in-every-room kind of winter.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: canadiangirl on October 23, 2015, 03:32:33 AM
Fuck that it is now getting dark so early
fuck that I will have to start getting everything ready for the winter which I am terrified is coming

Seriously.  Game of Thrones has the whole "Winter is Coming".  I have that ominous voice in my head now all the time.  Winter is coming.  Fuuuucck. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: First Widow on October 23, 2015, 09:28:58 AM
Fuck that it is autumn and that means getting the woodstove going to heat the house in the morning and dealing with the wood and chopping kindling and my husband did all that. It's going to be an expensive space-heater-in-every-room kind of winter.

Seriously, fuck this!  I am so overwhelmed thinking about everything my husband did in the winter, FUCK winter!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on October 23, 2015, 09:44:25 PM
Fuck that tomorrow I have to put on a brave face and look happy while my pregnant sister marries a man with my dead husband's name. Fuck that she now gets to live the life that was supposed to be mine. Fuck that Jim's not here to hold my hand and make snarky comments about her and her groom just to make me laugh. He's supposed to be here. HE IS SUPPOSED TO FUCKING BE HERE FOR ALL THESE STUPID FUCKING MILESTONES. Instead, I'm going with my mother. At least my daughter has a date... :(

Oh, and fuck that NOT ONE PERSON IN MY FAMILY has apparently given a moment's thought to how hard this is for me. I know, I know, it's not about me, but goddammit-- !!!

We need a Mobile Wid Support Unit to show up and escort us to these events. Could someone make that happen, please?
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Bones on October 24, 2015, 12:34:09 PM
Yep, I have been lurking for the last three months. But leave it to me to join, and debut my grief here on the Fuck You thread.
Fuck you FIL who half heartedly offered to help in any way, until I apparently called your bluff.

Fuck you Frenemy with your nuggets of wisdom along the way. Like this, " You know how I am, I had to research J's cancer. Only 12 cases in modern history. It's bad, isn't it ?"

Fuck every so called friend that can't even take the time to send a text.

Fuck that I think about sex more than a teenaged boy- wth. Why just why??

Fuck, I've been strong enough haven't I ? Why can't someone let me be weak for one flipping hour. Please let me cry in a heap, hold me and tell me it will be okay. Just for one hour.

Fuck the next person who asks about the college tours we have been on. You are kidding me right? Because apparently cancer just has a beginning and an end.

Fuck all the self absorbed people who assume that someone is stepping up to be there so they are off the hook. Not a single one.

Fuck the grief diet that did not work for me. I followed it exactly- still a size 14 here.

Thank you that was felt fucking great.







Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: canadiangirl on October 24, 2015, 10:20:07 PM
Bones, sorry for the loss that got you here, but with respect to your post - I get it.  Eff it!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: mizjsea on October 25, 2015, 09:27:36 AM
Fuck that, after my husband taught me the simple but complete contentment of the coffee ritual together, I now sip my coffee alone with my heart hurting.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: JacklessSally on November 02, 2015, 07:33:19 AM
Fuck the fact that today we should have been getting married..
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Carey on November 02, 2015, 12:44:53 PM
oh honey .... no no no. I'm so sorry Sally... youre right ..fuck that :(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jess on November 02, 2015, 02:58:00 PM
Fuck the fact that today we should have been getting married..

So sorry. I cannot imagine. I am glad to see you check in and hope you are holding up okay.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Quixote on November 02, 2015, 05:29:21 PM
Nothing to say, Sally, other than utmost sympathies.  Hoping you have friends or family to hold on to today.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: twistedmensa on November 02, 2015, 08:12:27 PM
A great big FUCK YOU to all of the people that said they were coming to my son's 12th birthday yesterday and EVERY DAMN ONE (including my family), cancelled at the last moment or didn't call at all. NOBODY came for his birthday. He was devastated.

I usually do a big family gathering for Thanksgiving....fuck all that...chucked the original plan and made reservations at a local restaurant for my Mom, myself and my kids. They are the only family I need.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on November 02, 2015, 09:28:35 PM
Twisted Mensa that just plain sucks! I am so sorry for your son and for you.  I think your Thanksgiving plan sounds like a safe and good plan.

JacklessSally, I'm very sorry your wedding never happened, it really is so unfair.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Brenda on November 03, 2015, 03:55:49 PM
A great big FUCK YOU to all of the people that said they were coming to my son's 12th birthday yesterday and EVERY DAMN ONE (including my family), cancelled at the last moment or didn't call at all. NOBODY came for his birthday. He was devastated.

I'm going to add a big "fuck them" for such shitty behavior.  Sorry your son had to go through that.  People can be such total dicks and you're right not to put up with that ever again.

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Post by: canadiangirl on November 04, 2015, 06:03:29 PM
A great big FUCK YOU to all of the people that said they were coming to my son's 12th birthday yesterday and EVERY DAMN ONE (including my family), cancelled at the last moment or didn't call at all. NOBODY came for his birthday. He was devastated.

I usually do a big family gathering for Thanksgiving....fuck all that...chucked the original plan and made reservations at a local restaurant for my Mom, myself and my kids. They are the only family I need.

Echoing a big FUCKEM to those people who did not come to your son's birthday.  My child would be devastated too.  Like you don't have enough to bear.  ((twistedmensa))

Also ((JacklessSally)) such a tough day, hope you are okay.
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Post by: SoVerySad on November 05, 2015, 05:32:35 AM
Fuck that he can't just come back. I can't do this all on my own anymore.
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Post by: donswife on November 05, 2015, 07:18:07 AM
Fuck that he can't just come back. I can't do this all on my own anymore.
well said and I feel myself saying this more and more everyday ...
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on November 06, 2015, 08:53:09 AM
Fuck that on what would have been his birthday my phone and facebook are blowing up with so many messages of people "thinking of me".   WHERE THE FUCK HAVE YOU BEEN THE REST OF THE YEAR??
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on November 06, 2015, 09:04:28 AM
A great big FUCK YOU to all of the people that said they were coming to my son's 12th birthday yesterday and EVERY DAMN ONE (including my family), cancelled at the last moment or didn't call at all. NOBODY came for his birthday. He was devastated.

I usually do a big family gathering for Thanksgiving....fuck all that...chucked the original plan and made reservations at a local restaurant for my Mom, myself and my kids. They are the only family I need.

No words....hugs to you and your son  That is completely fucked up
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Post by: Jen on November 06, 2015, 05:51:41 PM
((((((((JS)))))))))) Ditto. Ditto, ditto, ditto. And while I'm on the subject... just fuck my life. Fuck it straight to hell. :(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: canadiangirl on November 08, 2015, 01:44:10 AM
This is a great short video posted in July on YouTube that you may like if you are posting in this thread.  Warning: language, not to be played aloud with kids in the room.  But so soothing!  Wish I could play it at work on a loop.  Starts to get good at 23s and 40s in, excellent by one minute...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92i5m3tV5XY (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92i5m3tV5XY)

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: jlp on November 08, 2015, 02:00:08 PM
Thanks for sharing, canadiangirl -- that was hilarious!  After doing pretty well for about a month, I've found myself to be quite weepy the last couple of days, for no apparent reason.  This was just what I needed!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: stuckwonderingwhy on November 09, 2015, 07:19:25 AM
So many thoughts here that I can relate to. I'll join you all as well.

Fuck my so called friends that can't be bothered to help me in my grief. Fuck the text messages.
Why the FUCK wouldn't they call?

Fuck my co-workers for treating me like a door mat. Fuck them for laughing at me while I
struggle.

Fuck everyone who has turned me away when I have asked for help. Fuck those who said they'd
always be there and are nowhere to be found a few weeks later.

Fuck me for feeling like I've been the one who's done something wrong to them. Fuck this feeling
that I'm worthless by myself.

And FUCK I wish it was easier to handle this on my own.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Carey on November 10, 2015, 08:01:25 AM
fuck that my 16 year old son had nearly get suspended from school yesterday before anyone would listen to him. WTF??? You gonna suspend a kid for CRYING over his dad?  He left the room to try to control his emotions cause he was embarrassed.  SO I went to war.  Needless to say, he is not suspended however I am still pissed.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: twistedmensa on November 10, 2015, 05:57:57 PM
So sorry, Carey. Sometimes I am amazed at the callousness of people. It shouldn't be that hard to ask a question or two instead of jumping to conclusions. I'm a big girl, I can take it...but don't fuck with my kids.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on November 12, 2015, 06:44:16 AM
Fuck that I don't have the guts to sit down , after a year , and figure out a budget
Fuck that I am avoiding this in case I will have to start making tough decisions
Fuck that I have to be a grown up ....alone
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: JacklessSally on November 14, 2015, 07:57:13 PM
Fuck November.
2 years ago you brought me the love of my life.
A year ago, you ripped him from me.
Fuck you November.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Carey on November 16, 2015, 09:40:33 AM
for sure fuck you November.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: JacklessSally on November 24, 2015, 12:11:02 PM
Fuck that tomorrow, he will have been dead longer than we were together....
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on November 25, 2015, 02:36:09 PM
((((((JS)))))))

These days, just... fuck my life. Fuck it all, straight to hell. :(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: canadiangirl on December 03, 2015, 01:49:26 PM
Fuck trying to juggle everything, keeping those balls in the air.  Fuck that those balls keep plonking down on my head. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: bonay on December 08, 2015, 12:31:04 PM
Fuck the holidays and all he advertisements of couples in love . Fuck that I can't see the joy in my wife's eyes when I placed the gifts under the tree when she told me that we weren't going to do gifts so that we could save. And then she comes out with a gift that was even bigger. Fuck all the slow music that brings back the loneliness and memories of smelling your perfume. And one final fuck you to all of those people that don't know how to treat your spouses properly for I would give everything in this world for 2 seconds just to see her smile and tell her that I love her.
(Thank you I have been holding this in for I hate this time of the years)
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: widowat33 on December 08, 2015, 12:55:59 PM
Fuck that I have to do this by myself.
Fuck the void he left in my life, our sons lives.
Fuck not having someone to hold me, tell me everything is going to be ok.
Fuck not having him here to make me laugh.
Fuck having to hold it all together, when all I want to do is sleep for the next fucking month.
Just fuck it all.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Dark Rose on December 09, 2015, 02:37:05 AM
Fuck that I am here without my soulmate
Fuck that I have to get up and leave my bed when he is not here, and I don't care anymore
Fuck that no one bloody understands
Fuck that he is all I wanted, and he isn't with me anymore
Fuck that I believed in fairy tales, and now I don't
Fuck that I can't wrap my head around this still, and people expect me to have moved on
Fuck everything!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on December 14, 2015, 09:57:21 AM
Fuck my brother who said he was too busy to watch my kids for 4 days so I could go to Vegas on a trip I had planned since April and then booked himself a trip to Vegas the same week when my father had a heart attack so couldn't watch my kids. 

Fuck my sister who had the nerve to complain that her "poor husband" was left alone for 1 night by himself to feed the kids, while we were at the hospital with my Dad; when my two teens were left alone to fend for themselves for 4 nights since no one else "could make time" to stay for his surgery.

WTF
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Carey on December 14, 2015, 10:05:51 AM
Fuck the fact that I have no Christmas tree up yet (the girl who used to have no less than 4 by Dec 1).  Fuck that the kids don't even seem to care.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on December 18, 2015, 12:21:58 PM
FUCK THIS USELESS FUCKING LIFE.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Dark Rose on December 18, 2015, 01:01:14 PM
Fuck this stupid life that means nothing without him and I have to ' live' it regardless
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: rae on December 18, 2015, 01:15:55 PM
Fuck that I am remarried but still unhappy.  Fuck that no matter how hard I try, the magic of a great marriage just isn't happening this time around.  Fuck that I can't stop wishing for what I used to have. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on December 18, 2015, 09:58:28 PM
Fuck that even on my third Christmas since my husband died, signing just the kids and my name on Christmas cards and gift tags without his still hurts like hell.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on December 20, 2015, 08:41:11 PM
fuck that the second Christmas since my don died is so much harder, because he really isn't coming back
fuck the feeling when you pull up to a gathering and you have to take a deep breath and get ready to walk in alone
fuck that you have to put on a happy face all the fucking time
fuck that I won't be getting a Christmas present from a man that put so much thought into every gift he ever gave me
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on December 22, 2015, 10:58:31 PM
Fuck that I'm just such a fucking idiot.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on December 23, 2015, 08:55:27 AM
Fuck that I'm just such a fucking idiot.

ME TOO.

((((hugs))))
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on December 24, 2015, 08:02:39 AM
Fuck that I drank too much at a Christmas party last night and all of the stress and anxiety I have been suppressing came out. And not in a good way. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: twistedmensa on December 25, 2015, 01:24:31 AM
And here's a great big fuck you to Santa. Where are you when I need you? I'm wrapping presents at midnight Christmas Eve....ALONE! Why, Santa, am I doing YOUR job? You are a slacker and maybe it's the Bailey's talking, but I would enjoy the hell out of kicking your jolly fat ass!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Torn on December 25, 2015, 01:59:49 AM
Fuck these holidays that amplifie my loneliness.
Fuck anyone who make each step of life a harder step forward.
Fuck anyone with out compassion ton understand.
Fuck each person that doesn't have the heart or spirit to help rather than condem
      Fuck each of the people that feel true loneliness and aren't offered comfort from another human.
  We are here to help one another & I'm happy for that.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Helena on December 29, 2015, 06:51:13 AM
Fuck that my husband can?t see his kids grow up into beautiful adults. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on December 31, 2015, 08:07:34 AM
Fuck single parenting! I am screwing up because I am not strict enough any more and am letting my 19 fuck his life up because I feel sorry for him and he manipulates me into being more scared for him than angry. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: gracelet on January 02, 2016, 10:49:10 AM
Fuck guilt. Fuck that even though I know I'm entitled and deserving of happiness, this guilt creeps in and makes me doubt my worth. Fuck that widowhood taints every new happy pivotal memory. Fuck that simultaneous feeling of happiness and sadness. Why can't I just be happy and guilt free?

Fuck that she died.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Brenda on January 05, 2016, 06:43:48 AM
Fuck that one year after she died, I'm unhappier than I've ever been before.  Fuck that I would rather now be watching her die from cancer like I was last year rather than being here today in a worse situation.  Fuck that nothing has got better, and instead has gotten only worse.  Fuck that I lost everything.  And fuck that I'm once again on the brink of killing myself because I'm a pathetic widow who can't handle something that countless other people manage to deal with.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: pammierae7363 on January 06, 2016, 08:31:16 PM
Fuck that I got a great new job and he's not here for me to tell him all about it.
Fuck that I am explaining the story again . . .
Fuck that the two year anniversary is two weeks away . . .
Fuck that I had to buy presents for the grandsons alone . . . he could spend hours in Toys R Us finding the perfect gift
Fuck that the grandsons will grow up not knowing Papaw . . . or how excited he was to have them in his life. 
shit damn hell fuck god damn mother fuck son of a bitch . . . (a combo of mine and his favorite curse words)
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TooSoon on January 08, 2016, 01:51:31 PM
Fuck that I cannot get my daughter's birthday present out of the car (a bicycle).  It is completely fucking stuck and she's going to be home in half an hour and there is, of course, no one here to help me.  Fuck that I might have to ask her to help me instead of getting to park it in the living room with a big bow to surprise her.  Fuck that she's NINE today.  When did that fucking happen? Fuck that she's now known her Dad sick or dead longer than she knew him alive.

ETA: I managed to get it out but ripped two fucking holes in the seat.  Fuck that too. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: canadiangirl on January 15, 2016, 07:12:46 PM
We've been over this terrain before, but F-----uuuucck you cancer. 
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Post by: lcoxwell on January 15, 2016, 09:03:05 PM
I am not one to curse or use the f-bomb, but can I just express my incredible indignation, irritation, and annoyance anyway? Maybe one of you can do the cursing for me.  ;D

Last month, I had to take a super important, 5-1/2 hour, 4 subtest examination to prove I have subject matter competency to teach my high school, special education English class (because, apparently, receiving advanced placement scores in high school that were high enough to completely test out of college level English classes; graduating with honors from both high school and college; receiving a bachelor's degree in special education with an additional 45+ semester hours of graduate level course work; over a thousand hours of inservice training; AND 15+ years of teaching experience - including being department chair, being on school/district leadership committees, serving as a mentor teacher, and receiving "exemplary" or "superior" status on 13 years' worth of teacher evaluations - is not enough to prove I am "highly qualified"). BUT, I digress....

Anyway, I chose to take the entire test on the same day, rather than taking each individual test one at a time. The registration information said that there would be a break provided, for people taking all subtests at one sitting. Let me also add that this was a timed test, so taking breaks at any point outside of the provided break counts against the time one has to complete the subtest.

So, on the day of testing, I completed the first two subtests and thought I would be given a break. I was not. After waiting for a while, with no sign of anyone giving me a break, I started the third subtest. When I started the third subtest, I was thinking that, at any point, someone would at least let me go to the bathroom. No. Such. Luck.

About halfway through the 3rd subtest, I still had not been given a break and I had reached critical status. My choice was to either take a nonscheduled break (counting against my time) or pee all over myself. You can probably guess which option I chose.

One would think that, as an adult, you could just get up and go to the bathroom, when needed. Oh no! Since this was a computerized test in a secured facility, I had to raise my hand and wait for someone to come and log me off. Then, I had to wait while the person SLOWLY verified I was leaving the testing area by taking my fingerprints and checking my picture ID (like I magically turned into someone else, while sitting at the computer, in plain sight). The fingerprint machine didn't work the first time, so I had to repeat the process. Next, I had to wait on someone to come from in back to give me a key to the bathroom (because God forbid one have access to bathrooms in a public building).

Upon returning from the bathroom, I had to wait on someone to come from the back, so I could return the precious bathroom key. I then had to wait on the original slow person to once again verify my identity by taking my fingerprint and checking my photo ID (just in case I traded places with someone in the few minutes it took to go to the bathroom). I also had to wait on the same said slow person to log me back on to the computer, so I could complete my assessment.

All of this ended up taking about 20 minutes (possibly longer) of my assessment time, which is a huge deal when one must read 3 passages and write two 800-1000 word essays (that show mastery of the subject matter) all within 1-1/2 hours of time. If they hadn't been so slow, I could have been there and back in less than 5 minutes, for God's sake! Thanks to the slow, incompetence of the workers and their failure to give me a break in the first place, I ran out of time to complete my second of the two essays, even though I knew the answers. Needless to say, that particular subtest is the only one I did not pass. Now, I have to pay additional registration fees and take more time out of my schedule to retake that one subtest. (I had top scores on all the other subtests). Grrrrr...... >:(

* Sorry this is so long, but I REALLY needed to vent!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on January 16, 2016, 10:46:32 AM
Fuck fucking strep throat.

Fuck that this means DD won't meet NG for another month.

Fuck people who hurt people I love.u

Fuck questioning myself.

Fuck OCD, which makes me unable to trust myself
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on January 16, 2016, 03:34:28 PM
Fuck insecurity. Fuck that I don't think I'll ever be able to fully trust anyone again.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on January 21, 2016, 01:14:58 PM
Fuck insecurity. Fuck that I don't think I'll ever be able to fully trust anyone again.

Ditto. Ditto, ditto, DITTO.  >:( :-\ :'(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on January 25, 2016, 09:54:31 AM
Fuck that my Dad just died and my siblings couldn't be bothered to step up and and help plan his funeral after I told them I couldn't do it alone again.  That I had just done this by myself and couldn't do it again.   And fuck that then they had the nerve to complain about the decisions I was forced to make and weren't to their liking.   

Fuck that now 18 months in I feel like day 1 again.  Lost in the fog of grief.

Fuck that his death brought me right back to my knees.

Fuck that I feel so weak.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on January 25, 2016, 11:39:13 AM
HUGS, HUGS, HUGS. I am so, so sorry.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on January 25, 2016, 03:48:40 PM
I came here to post about something else, but fuck Mrskro's siblings.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on January 25, 2016, 06:41:44 PM
Mrskro you deserve to stomp your feet and have a full on f*** you rant!  I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad and your insensitive siblings.  Take some time for yourself and ride out this tough wave of grief.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on January 27, 2016, 08:07:20 AM
Thank you ladies....MrsDan post away please, I like knowing I'm not alone needing this thread.  Trying; I thought about starting a thread and venting the extend of this but opted for a mini vent  :)
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: JacklessSally on January 27, 2016, 08:43:31 AM
Fuck Jan 26th... NationalSpouseDay... great reminder that my love and I couldnt get married before some asshole took his life.Thanks for reminding me i'm alone, and he is gone. Stupid made up calendar bullshit. 

(Sorry if that sounds terrible for all you lovely people who had the married life, I'm just bitter)
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on January 27, 2016, 02:06:51 PM
Fuck terrible, sad stuff that just keeps relentlessly happening and fuck that T isn't here to hold me and encourage me things will be okay.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: stolendance on January 28, 2016, 01:44:32 AM
Fuck loneliness. We didn't sign up for this and it sucks.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on January 28, 2016, 03:58:32 AM
Fuck insomnia
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Torn on January 28, 2016, 05:19:34 AM
Fuck ANY OPPORTUNIST that attempts to capitalize on the feelings of a widow,to profit or gain in any way.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on January 30, 2016, 02:03:34 PM
Fuck the universe. Fuck that I had made a promising connection, and he died too. Joke's on me again. Fuck my life.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on January 31, 2016, 08:52:35 AM
Fuck that I took a much needed vacation and got my first real rest since Mydon died
only to come home to a notice of cancelled health insurance , bill for broken furnace ,etc
Just Fuck reality always kicking me in the gut
Fuck that I opened the mail !

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: gracelet on February 01, 2016, 11:18:18 AM
Fuck depression and bipolar that clouds my brain and slows me down at work
Fuck the shit arse woman who trolled me on Facebook last week and triggered this episode
Fuck weight gain
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on February 02, 2016, 04:06:03 PM
Fuck people getting worked up about shit that does not matter. I am so sick of stupid cock blocking bullshit!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Rayspumpkin on February 02, 2016, 08:21:06 PM
FUCK people that think I'm "so strong" yet 5 minutes later tell me to get "over your pity party" FUCK THEM!!
Fuck being alone
Fuck being so *on* all the time that you think I'm doing okay
Fuck craving someone's love
Fuck him for dying
Fuck anger, and sadness, and lonliness, the only damn things I understand anymore.
Fuck the idea of "talk to a professional" I do not want a "professional" I want a real live human to give a shit & if you can't; get the fuck OUT!!
Fuck wanting to "move on" and "live"
Fuck not knowing what that even means.
Fuck being stuck in the hell that absolutely no one irl even understands.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on February 03, 2016, 07:56:43 AM

Fuck being stuck in the hell that absolutely no one irl even understands.

Rayspumpkin;   So much fuck to this,  just know you have lots of people here who unfortunately understand 

hugs
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on February 04, 2016, 11:21:59 AM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BrUFn-ZN6Go (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BrUFn-ZN6Go)
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Captains wife on February 04, 2016, 01:25:04 PM
F*** that I cant sleep again
F*** bad Chapter 2 relationships
F*** that I never get a break these days
F*** that my MIL is sick again
F*** grief in general 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: gracelet on February 17, 2016, 10:39:08 AM
Just to let you know, you can now find colouring books of swear words. I find it hugely therapeutic and it really helps turn the anger into something more manageable. Have a look on Amazon.

Cunt is not a word I use regularly, or lightly, but in this case it refers to a DGI who was disgusting to me by accusing me of driving my wife to kill herself, and then disgusting to several wids on this board who leaped to my defence

I can't figure out how to post the picture in the body without it being humongous so here's a link to my artwork. I'm working on 'fuck it all' today, the eighth anniversary of the day I met my wife.

https://eerilycheerily.files.wordpress.com/2016/02/img_0307.jpeg (https://eerilycheerily.files.wordpress.com/2016/02/img_0307.jpeg)
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on February 25, 2016, 01:52:05 PM
Fuck the winter storm. Fuck it!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on February 25, 2016, 07:16:53 PM
MrsDan - hope you made it through the storm
 
fuck that I have to buy tires for my car and it's like a different language when talking to tire salesman
fuck that mydon did this for me all our lives and I don't have a clue
fuck that brings back all the many reasons I miss him
 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Bunny on February 27, 2016, 05:32:56 AM
Winter is making me feel crazy. Stupid fucking winter. I really need to leave the Midwest.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TooSoon on March 01, 2016, 11:07:25 PM
Hi!  I've posted this before but I'm having trouble going to sleep tonight so I thought it might help if I just typed out the words again:  I HATE MY STUPID, EFFING JOB.  Thanks for that.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TormentedTwoStep on March 02, 2016, 08:29:57 AM
Eff all of the following-

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on March 02, 2016, 11:29:46 AM
Fuck it all. Just FUCK. IT. ALL.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on March 02, 2016, 01:26:56 PM
In a conversation with another widow yesterday, we were talking about anger & how widowhood takes us to places where you never thought you'd go. For me, swearing is one of those places. My husband would be completely shocked to hear me at times now, especially as I had never considered saying the F-word before his death. While I rarely do now, it runs thru my head frequently as I'm just so done with this experience. Someone posted this video on facebook the other day and I couldn't help to relate to the bird. Clearly I'm in the anger stage again....

WARNING: Not for listening to at work or with children around!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-5ZYmvx796s

Can anyone else relate?

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on March 02, 2016, 01:36:21 PM
BWAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SVS, you have no idea how badly I needed that today. Thank you. (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on March 02, 2016, 02:44:53 PM
FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mr C on March 04, 2016, 07:17:25 PM
FUCK! I hate Friday afternoons. Fuck! Fuck! Fuck! Fuckin hate it. Sorry, at a new client and had to let it out. They don't know that I am messed up yet. So I have been biting my tongue as the end of the week drew near. FUCK! FUCK! FUCK! FUCK! FUCK! Friday evenings fucking suck. :-\
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: lcoxwell on March 04, 2016, 09:47:31 PM
If my Kenneth were alive today, this would be his absolute favorite thread of all. When he was alive, he liked nothing more than swearing, and while I have always been too ladylike to curse, he absolutely loved dropping the f-bomb into conversation as often as possible. If I ever get to really missing him, I can always come here and imagine him reading these posts out loud, and it usually makes me smile. (Sorry you all have reasons to take out frustrations, but reading all your swearing is really therapeutic for me).
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Rayspumpkin on March 08, 2016, 02:31:11 PM
Fuck that my Dad is very sick suddenly and delusional. Fuck that he is in the hospital. Fuck siblings that don't understand me. Fuck being so damn alone after losing DH and Mom, and now terrified of losing Dad. Fuck wanting to just lie down & die instead of fighting anymore. FUCK Dad's new girlfriend!!!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TooSoon on March 11, 2016, 12:39:54 AM
OMG.  Here's a reminder to everyone not to be too careful.  Being too careful seems to have some prices.  WTF?  Where did I go wrong? 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Max2507 on March 11, 2016, 08:06:11 AM
Fuck you facebook, I do not want a memory from three years ago popping up in my news feed so I can think of the fun we were having just a month and a half before my husband died.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on March 11, 2016, 01:00:46 PM
Fuck that I feel like a failure as a mom, and fuck all of my friends with their perfect children that I am too humiliated to be around.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on March 12, 2016, 12:50:50 PM
Ditto that, Trying. Big time ditto from the mom of the 7th grader who was suspended from school yesterday for having-- AND USING-- pot on campus. Fuck my life. Just fuck it ALL.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mr C on March 12, 2016, 03:39:27 PM
The dog took my girl scout cookies. >:(

I could really use a cookie this morning and have no idea where the dog hid them; she doesn't eat 'em. No need to swear in here as I am at home and was able to let loose on a nice tirade.

In other news, my sports car continues its streak of bad luck. The first incident was that it rolled off a hill into a tree. In the exhaustion after a 100 hour work week I forgot to set the parking brake and put it in gear. I was so distraught that Mrs. C had to handle the details. It took nine weeks to repair, whereas I had only had it for seven weeks prior to the accident. A few weeks after my wife died, the car was hit by a Presbyterian center bus. This was after I had turned to religion. I remained composed that time and was actually consoling the bus driver. The latest was that a rat took up residency while I let it sit through the winter. Will find out more on the extent of the damage come Monday. More or less taking it in stride.

Fuck this life, where I now have perspective that damage to my nicest possession isn't that big of a deal; and where little things, such as not having a small comfort food, can push me over the edge.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: lcoxwell on March 12, 2016, 05:09:05 PM
Fuck this life, where I now have perspective that damage to my nicest possession isn't that big of a deal; and where little things, such as not having a small comfort food, can push me over the edge.

Mr C....You have just summed up my life perfectly. It is amazing how much I can relate to this one statement.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: lcoxwell on March 12, 2016, 05:38:22 PM
F*** the doctors, who ignored my medical problems for two years, claiming everything was caused by "anxiety"; because, everyone knows widows/widowers are too fragile to handle life, right? I even had a mild stroke, which some doctors claimed was just an anxiety attack, even though it left me with left side weakness, asymmetry in my facial muscles, and cognitive problems that I struggle with almost 10 months later.

Thankfully, I now have a really good neurologist and primarily care physician, who actually listen and both say that my problem is not anxiety. They also both verify that, yes, I did indeed have a stroke. It feels good to have the validation that I am not crazy; but it makes me so frustrated to know that, if doctors had listened to me in the first place, and not assumed my migraines and sleep issues were just anxiety, I might have received medical treatment sooner and not had the stroke in the first place.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TormentedTwoStep on March 12, 2016, 06:51:06 PM
F@ck that I had some happiness and love in this widowed life inky to have the rug pulled out from under me.
F@ck her and the promises of never breaking my heart.
F@ck having my heart shattered by someone that knew heartbreak and hated those that caused it.
F@ck me for not being able to let go and just get over it.
F@ck dreams that turn to nightmares.
F@ck being alone.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on March 12, 2016, 06:58:22 PM
lcoxwell, I can so relate to your post. I'm truly lucky to be here as my heart arrhythmia issue was assumed to be from anxiety and grief for months. One ER doctor had apparently even decided I was going to the ER for the attention from the doctors, likely from loneliness and anxiety per the doctor's notes. On my 3rd time having him at the ER, he told me that he couldn't find anything wrong, but gave me his exact work schedule for the weekend and told me to come back then if I had anymore issues. I thought that was completely strange until I learned from my PCP that he was testing to see if I came back to see him. Talk about full of himself.

On my 6th visit, after I was starting to believe that I really was losing my mind, they decided to keep me overnight for a stress test the next morning which identified the potentially fatal arrhythmia. Suddenly everyone flew into action around me, which had me bewildered because I'd been told for months nothing was wrong with me. I'm so thankful I had the stubbornness left in me to keep going back to try to find out what was really wrong.

I realize that some medical issues are hard to detect, but I resent them making an assumption it was just grief and anxiety making me needy. Yes, I was an emotional mess at the time, because I was so afraid of my kids becoming orphans and missing my husband. But I was clearly describing my symptoms.

I'm really glad you have MDs you feel you can count on now.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mr C on March 12, 2016, 10:02:02 PM
Fuck doctors who do not take women's health issues seriously, who just quickly dismiss symptoms to stress, migraines, anxiety, etc. Ooh, this has me truly boiling mad. It is ridiculous how many stories I have heard--and the life-threatening extent of them--of doctors ignoring women's heart health symptoms.

I am so glad you ladies finally found the medical attention you deserved and needed.


(Note that this is not my wife's story. Our heart health advocacy has been in large part to give back because of the great care she did receive.)
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on March 13, 2016, 05:32:26 PM
FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCKING COLD SORES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Fuck that I have had constant outbreaks despite being on suppressive meds. Fuck that I got hardly any out breaks for three fucking years but now that I am dating someone who makes his living with his mouth they will not go away!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Fuck that I have tried EVERYTHING and they will not go away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Fuck that these fucking cocksuckers put my daughter in the NICU the first week of her life. Fuck that I could loose the one thing that's helped lift me out of this hell, made me feel human again.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on March 14, 2016, 04:28:06 PM
Fuck trying to be positive and make a life for myself when every decision I make pisses off someone. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: BrokenHeart2 on March 14, 2016, 04:58:16 PM
Fuck that I'm prepping my beautiful home by myself and that I know it's best for me to move.  Fuck this crazy widda life!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on March 18, 2016, 12:27:31 AM
Efffff people that have no sense of compassion to someone in a difficult situation and effff me for feeling so guilty when I think to myself that maybe someday they might be in a similar situation and then they might understand (or allowing them to get to me in the first place).
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: widowat33 on March 18, 2016, 10:42:45 PM
Oh SVS, I came here to pretty much say the same thing.
Tonight I was talking about how my boys run me ragged, not intentionally of course, but they are kids and I'm essentially doing this on my own now. When my dh was alive we shared parenting duties, now it's all on me. Oblivious family member stated..just wait until they get older, as she has teenagers, but she also has a husband to help. I was pissed. I didn't say anything but on the tip of my tongue was "fuck you. You have fucking help with your kids." It was the condescending tone used by her more than even her words. I'm grateful for the help I do have, but why can't I complain once in awhile and just have an empathetic ear to listen to me instead of people who dismiss it? I know it could be worse, but goddamn it, I just need to bitch once and awhile and I don't do it often.
Same thing happens at work, I can't take extra shifts right now because of placement and my kids yet my coworkers don't seem to understand. One time I was saying about how the kids hate when I have a night shift because they have to spend the night at my parents, my coworker said "yeah I had to work nights when mine were younger, they get used to it" ummm, totally different situation, her kids stayed at home with their dad. Mine don't have that option. Fuck. Sorry for the rant, I'm usually not this bitchy!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TooSoon on March 19, 2016, 03:50:03 PM
I would like to send a very special eff off to the granting organization that emailed me 10 days ago to tell me my research project proposal was rejected but which then also felt the need to send a letter this week to reiterate that point.  Thanks, but I got it the first time, no reinforcement of message required. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TormentedTwoStep on March 19, 2016, 09:04:35 PM
Efff a getaway from the norm in wonderful Music City that's turned into a house full of people with a stomach bug-diarreha is imminent.
Efff so called "friends" that tell me I have to lower my standards when hoping for love-that I only want people out of my league.
Efff an ex that called off an impending engagement and still resides in my head every crappy day since.
Efff people that efff me over and go on to have a life full of all they wanted while I'm still undone and alone.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: LTSLforever on March 20, 2016, 04:19:36 AM
I am usually not an F word person but it suits my life very well.

F that my mom was diagnosed with leukemia a short time after my husband died.
F that the chemo to control the leukemia (not cure it) is destroying my mom's life and she has been hospitalized after each round of chemo.
F that mom fell in rehab (for physical/occupational therapy) just a few days before she was supposed to be discharged.
F the stem cell transplant/medications that basically killed my love.
F the fact that I am so WEAK and can barely function most days.
F the constant excruciating pain I feel every single day.   :'(
I can go on and on......... so I will just write FUCK EVERYTHING.
oh, I must add more
F the prednisone used to treat Steve's graft vs. host disease - it destroyed his body and caused unbearable pain - 9 compression fractures in his back and 1 in his sternum
F the fact that I am so depressed.
Fuck that Steve's only sibling died of brain cancer 3 years before Steve died.  One year after his brother's death, Steve was diagnosed with myelofibrosis.
Fuck Death - I HATE YOU SO MUCH!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Torn on March 20, 2016, 07:28:43 AM
Yeah.....lotsa pain..to much.
So FUCK anyone who is so fucking stupid than to concider the impact of their words to a person in pain.
  Fuck any idiot who assumes ANYTHING concerning the loss if a spouce the person you've spent more than half your life with..

  Fuck any person that feels they should try to change things inside my house within my 4 walls where my wife and I resided and I'm left here to reside and change as I can,when I fucking feel it's time.
    Fuck em all honestly,really I'm done
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: DavidsKtBeth on March 21, 2016, 08:11:09 PM
I went out with a group of about 20 people this weekend, we had a party bus.  One girl in the group was eyeing my brother-in-law all night.  You could tell she was into him.  I truly believe the only reason she didn't make a move is because her HUSBAND was with us.  They have been married less than 6 months.  Her husband totally noticed too.  At the end of the night he was making EVERYTHING a competition with my  BIL.  When I say everything I mean BIL was eating a bag of Nutter Butters and he kept making comments about the Nutter Butters so I tossed him a pack and he looked at BIL and says "Wana race" I mean it was hilarious but it makes me SOOO mad because here I am without my best friend and she is flirting with other guys right in front of her husband.  I was so upset at the bar about it I actually started crying.   Basically.. FUCK YOU for not taking your vows seriously and making your husband feel like he had to compete like that for your attention.  I guess I don't know anything about them or their relationship because I just met them that night.. but GRRRRRR!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: rifatheroffour on March 30, 2016, 07:48:22 AM
Fuck that I'm having an emotional morning for no apparent reason! 3+ years...enough already!
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Post by: Mrskro on March 30, 2016, 07:53:44 AM
Just this
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Post by: sphoc on March 30, 2016, 10:47:02 AM
Fuck the month of April.
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Post by: Jen on March 30, 2016, 11:02:58 AM
Fuck the month of April.

Yes. Precisely. Fuck April straight to hell.   >:( >:( >:(
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Post by: MrsT85 on March 30, 2016, 12:33:21 PM
I'll add my own "fuck you" to the month of April.  Tuesday sometime during the 6am hour will be 3 years since the last time I saw his wonderful face and told him that I loved him.  By 2am the next day he was gone  :'(
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Post by: TormentedTwoStep on March 30, 2016, 02:44:34 PM
Fuck it all.  Fuck my life.  I'm so over this.  I'm done.  There's nothing left.
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Post by: Mrskro on March 30, 2016, 03:15:30 PM
Fuck that they are renovating my grocery store and a 5 minute in and out trip for milk and chicken just took 1/2 hour  :(

Fuck that the grocery store is still a huge horrible place to go
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Post by: BrokenHeart2 on March 30, 2016, 03:25:43 PM
Im so fucking done with this mundane, empty, aweful feeling of not finding my way.  I'm trying to get the house ready to sell but I am so stuck.  I thinks its because as it gets closer to being done it will be time to sell and it's crushing me.  I know I have to move.  FFUUCCKK!!!
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Post by: TormentedTwoStep on March 31, 2016, 09:00:41 AM
Fuck other wids who toy with already fragile hearts and stomp them to bits.
Fuck her mother who hated me and worked to break us up because she thought I was too fat for her daughter.
Fuck me for still having feelings for someone who doesn't give a fuck about me.
Fuck me for not seeing red flags, but only a beautiful person to love.
Fuck that she's moved on, has a life and a love and I'm still alone.
Fuck that at 2.5 years out, it seems all I touch turns to a big pile of shit.
Fuck that I'm not strong enough that I can't grow and be a better man after my wife's death, and then being dumped.
Fuck that I feel like an insecure 8th grade girl instead of a strong man of kindness, love and integrity.
Fuck that I've lost my innocent view of the world an become miserable and angry.
Fuck that my life only means something to me if I have someone to love.
Fuck me that I let her hijack my mind and my heart and no matter how hard I try it seems I can't take it back.
Fuck that I won't find the love I crave and deserve until I work through this and get mentally well.
Fuck me that I'm so broken.
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Post by: Tatianakm on March 31, 2016, 09:17:36 PM
I might as well join this thread, although not really like to use profanities, but today was a trying day, so, here it goes:

Big F You to the Bank of America for not having their IT sh.. figured out and telling me that they do not support the type of the brouser I am using to finish my online transfer. Just about 75% of America is using Apple products and they do not support Safari. Idiots...after 50 min waiting on the phone all they can suggest is that i drive to the local branch and do a withdrawal there.

Big F U to my life without my husband and having to deal with so many issues i shouldn't have to without him.

And F the spring and everything in bloom, when all he wanted is for the weather to be warm and spend time outside with me and his newborn child, only to die on the last day of the winter.

I am sure i will have many more Fs to share...

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Post by: Jen on April 01, 2016, 10:48:31 AM
This is redundant, but... FUCK MY LIFE EXISTENCE.
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Post by: Tweety76 on April 06, 2016, 10:31:16 AM
@Jen Hugs!!!!

Fuck this shit! Why the fuck did my cat have to die just 6 days short of the second sadiversary of DH's death? Why the fuck does March has to be such a fucked up month in the 2010 decade? I used to love March because I have a birth day then. Why the fuck I'm tired and gloomy all the time? what the fuck is wrong with me? Why the fuck can't I have back the face I loved so much (yeah, looking at pics). AAAARGH! fuck this shit!
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Post by: MrsDan on April 07, 2016, 12:12:23 PM
A big ol' fuck you to all the people who think that I am their own personal bitch. Fuck you to everybody who has no problem dumping shit on me that they would never think of handling themselves. Fuck you to all the people who seem to think regularly, oh, let's just have Christine handle it. Fuck you to all the people who think I never get sick, or need a day to myself.
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Post by: TooSoon on April 07, 2016, 12:42:44 PM
oh, let's just have Christine handle it.

Story of my life, right down to the name.  I was talking to students yesterday and realized that with each topic that came up or each question they asked, I either said, "You can come to me because I am in charge of that." or "I'm the advisor for that organization." or "I'm the chair of that committee."  Honestly,  it was a bit absurd.  Must learn how to gracefully decline/avoid/back out of some of this crap that others could and should easily do.  They didn't teach me how to say no in graduate school.  Bleh.  So I send a fuck that on your behalf. 
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Post by: TormentedTwoStep on April 10, 2016, 07:17:40 PM
Fuck the fact that I had three dates this week that all seemed promising, yet nothing panned out right.
Fuck the fact I walked up to my front door for the millionth time knowing nothing and nobody that loves me would be on the other side of it.
Fuck my dad who saw my neighbors this week and told them, "My son's just not the same since his wife died.  He has serious problems."
Fuck the fact I don't have problems, I have trauma.  Problems are solvable.
Fuck the fact I watched my wife die, then watched my second love of a lifetime walk out of my life just two years later.
Fuck that she's married again and happy, and I'm still alone.
Fuck my and my shattered heart.  You bet I'm not the same you pathetic old man.  I never will be.
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Post by: fuchsiasky on April 10, 2016, 09:39:32 PM
Fuck friends that ignore you cause you're sad.   
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Post by: TooSoon on April 12, 2016, 09:02:01 AM
Fuck standardized testing for 3rd graders.  Fuck standardized testing altogether. 
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Post by: MissingMyJon on April 13, 2016, 11:33:16 AM
FUCK YOU DEATH!

Fuck you for taking the love of my life.  He was only 28 when he died.  How the fuck does that happen?
Fuck you for taking my past, my present, my future
Fuck you for taking my hopes, dreams, happiness, my joy in life
Fuck you for making April 30th a day I will forever remember
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Post by: LTSLforever on April 14, 2016, 02:21:30 AM
I really like this fucking thread. 

Fuck you myelofibrosis and leukemia.  You killed my husband and you will probably kill my mother.
Fuck you to the eating disordered part of my brain.  You have been with me for far too many years. Don't you fucking make me even more miserable than I already am.

On now something positive:
Steve - I love you more than anything or anybody in this whole world.  Please come back to me. I need you so much, baby.

I edited this to delete some of my FYs.  Trying to forgive a few people - not sure that is possible but maybe it is better that I don't put those situations in print.
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Post by: sphoc on April 14, 2016, 02:55:28 PM
Fuck April and its birthdays and sadiversaries.
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Post by: MrsDan on April 15, 2016, 01:04:05 PM
A big ol' fuck you to all the people who think that I am their own personal bitch. Fuck you to everybody who has no problem dumping shit on me that they would never think of handling themselves. Fuck you to all the people who seem to think regularly, oh, let's just have Christine handle it. Fuck you to all the people who think I never get sick, or need a day to myself.

I'm just going to just quote this, because it bears repeating. Man I hate my fucking job.
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Post by: pammierae7363 on April 19, 2016, 12:13:28 PM
And fuck being responsible for every fucking thing.


DITTO. Big time.
triple ditto.
Triple dog ditto
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Post by: LiveToRide on April 26, 2016, 07:37:59 PM
I'll jump, I love saying fuck.

Fuck old people that should not be driving. Fuck that old man for not paying attention to the road and causing the major accident that killed my soul mate. Fuck the state of Iowa for having fucked up laws. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.

Fuck.

That felt nice, thank you.
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Post by: twistedmensa on April 26, 2016, 09:57:37 PM
I'll jump, I love saying fuck.

Fuck old people that should not be driving. Fuck that old man for not paying attention to the road and causing the major accident that killed my soul mate. Fuck the state of Iowa for having fucked up laws. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.

Fuck.

That felt nice, thank you.

I enjoy the versatility of the work fuck as well!


As a fellow rider I will join you in saying, "Fuck you" to all the morons that don't pay attention to the road...bass turds!!
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Post by: LTSLforever on April 27, 2016, 01:36:45 AM
I can't take this fucking world!  Let me out of this fucking misery. 
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Post by: LiveToRide on April 27, 2016, 12:05:20 PM
Fuck in-laws, sister in-laws and anyone else that wants to tell me I'm a disappointment as a widow. Who the hell do they think they are??
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Post by: Mrskro on April 27, 2016, 12:11:15 PM
LivetoRide  ...  WTF is that?!?!  A big fuck you to them all.  So sorry to hear that.


Now the reason I came to the thread.  Fuck you to my brother and sister, who want to fight my father's will so his wife of 23 years gets nothing.
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Post by: Trying on April 27, 2016, 03:45:20 PM
Fuck delivery companies that say they will be here between 10:00-5:00 and call at 4:30 to say it will be after 5:00.  Fuck that I didn't clean my house or pay bills while stuck here all day.
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Post by: Tatianakm on April 27, 2016, 09:43:41 PM
F to the "well- meaning" colleagues, who tell me that they can imagine how hard it is to go through what I am going through.. but one day I will be able to look back and find good in it... WTF?. No, you have no clue until you are actually in my shoes and may you never find out. Can't you just say a polite f..n " sorry for your loss" and move on?
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Post by: LiveToRide on April 27, 2016, 10:28:29 PM
F to the "well- meaning" colleagues, who tell me that they can imagine how hard it is to go through what I am going through.. but one day I will be able to look back and find good in it... WTF?. No, you have no clue until you are actually in my shoes and may you never find out. Can't you just say a polite f..n " sorry for your loss" and move on?

That is ridiculous.
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Post by: Mrskro on April 29, 2016, 12:55:14 PM
Fuck you to the little box that asks marital status when I was checked into the hospital for sleep apnea/heart tests last night.  Why does my fucking marital status matter?!?!?!  and a big ole fuck you to the lovely attendant that says while reading it "wow, but you are so young, how did he die?" and "why is your emergency contact a friend?"  Because I don't know .... I'm a widow?  Because, yeah that's what I needed to talk about right then.
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Post by: SoVerySad on May 14, 2016, 04:35:07 PM
First, MrsKro, I have been in that same position and it completely sucks. Yes, I'm already scared, so why not remind me I'm alone while you're at it. I'm sorry you were subjected to it.

Next, Tatiana, I'm sorry you were subjected to having that trite line about someday finding the good in this all. There is nothing good about my spouse and childrens' father or yours' being taken away when we had a whole life of loving to finish. Nothing!! We will all hopefully someday have goodness in our lives again, but it will never be good to have lost our spouses. We will hopefully find good despite the tragedy. I had a friend who told me to think about how much character my children would build from this experience. WTF????

Now, fuck the complete, utter senselessness of this world where kind, loving, compassionate, loyal, caring, fair people who have kind, loving, compassionate, loyal, caring, and fair people who love and depend upon them are taken away too damn young, while mean, hate-filled, greedy, selfish people are left here to try to infect the rest of us with their despicableness. I seriously can't wrap my head around it, let alone try to begin to accept it.
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Post by: canadiangirl on May 15, 2016, 09:04:27 PM
Fuuuuuuck cybershaming.  So very tired of it.
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Post by: Max2507 on May 15, 2016, 11:43:05 PM

Now, fuck the complete, utter senselessness of this world where kind, loving, compassionate, loyal, caring, fair people who have kind, loving, compassionate, loyal, caring, and fair people who love and depend upon them are taken away too damn young, while mean, hate-filled, greedy, selfish people are left here to try to infect the rest of us with their despicableness. I seriously can't wrap my head around it, let alone try to begin to accept it.

I really fight being bitter about this. Bitter is not a good place but I will an additional fuck fuck fuck for all these people. I know some completely fucking waste of oxygen people that should in no way be alive
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Post by: TooSoon on May 16, 2016, 02:48:21 PM
I'll gladly add one.

F*ck my colleagues on the university promotion committee for not promoting me because my research project is digital and thus not "real" research.  It is not f*cking 1994.  And I'm f*cking in Rome right now with four brilliant and diligent students whose lives are going to be f*cking inexorably altered by this experience working in an archive by day and exploring this amazing metropolis by night.  F*ck my stupid little provincial antiquated narrow minded university.  F*ck them for not knowing what really matters.  F*ck them when I walk away from this stupid, stupid institution.  And f*ck it all because I knew all along this was going to play out this way because doing anything "new" or "original" is threatening and somehow not valid. Fourteen f*cking years of total devotion to this school and more importantly its students whom I love but f*ck all of this.  Who are they to judge my worth as an educator and scholar?  I'm incensed.  And my students are going to be, too, when they get back from whatever major museum or monument theyve visited or new experience they've had tonight.  If you're not an academic, this might not make any sense but it is f*ck-worthy.  No raise, no recognition, just humiliation again and again.  I f*cking compose my resignation letter in my head every f*cking day.   

Thanks.  I feel better now.     
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Post by: MrsDan on May 16, 2016, 03:05:35 PM
I'll gladly add one.

F*ck my colleagues on the university promotion committee for not promoting me because my research project is digital and thus not "real" research.  It is not f*cking 1994.  And I'm f*cking in Rome right now with four brilliant and diligent students whose lives are going to be f*cking inexorably altered by this experience working in an archive by day and exploring this amazing metropolis by night.  F*ck my stupid little provincial antiquated narrow minded university.  F*ck them for not knowing what really matters.  F*ck them when I walk away from this stupid, stupid institution.  And f*ck it all because I knew all along this was going to play out this way because doing anything "new" or "original" is threatening and somehow not valid. Fourteen f*cking years of total devotion to this school and more importantly its students whom I love but f*ck all of this.  Who are they to judge my worth as an educator and scholar?  I'm incensed.  And my students are going to be, too, when they get back from whatever major museum or monument theyve visited or new experience they've had tonight.  If you're not an academic, this might not make any sense but it is f*ck-worthy.  No raise, no recognition, just humiliation again and again.  I f*cking compose my resignation letter in my head every f*cking day.   

Thanks.  I feel better now.     

:( I'm sorry.
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Post by: Max2507 on May 16, 2016, 03:17:09 PM
Toosoon, its totally fuck worthy. I taught college 12 years and loved the students, hated the academic machine, that just kills your soul and doesn't really care what kind of teacher you are just who you know, play golf with or run with, its ridiculous
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Post by: klim on May 24, 2016, 12:19:45 AM
Fucking hate it. |Very very very  very ouchy!
 FUCKING HATE IT!
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Post by: Captains wife on May 25, 2016, 06:44:00 AM
Fuck the moods...fuck the May triggers and fuck that I am having trouble concentrating on work....I think I want to take up kick boxing again.
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Post by: sphoc on May 25, 2016, 08:22:37 AM
Fuck jet lag, fuck work, fuck that while I had a really great time seeing everyone in the UK, it's brought up lots of crap again emotionally.
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Post by: Jen on May 25, 2016, 10:36:01 AM
Fuck my stupid broken heart. I don't want to feel anything else, ever ever again. Thanks.
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Post by: MrsDan on May 29, 2016, 08:51:36 PM
Fuck the fact that this can never be simple.
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Post by: sandrine2279 on May 30, 2016, 02:19:45 AM
Fuck people complaining with false problems

now that I experience the worst grief ever .... I can't hear pepole complaining for nothing

For example, my best firend complained yesterday about her boyfriend not being able to drive to go on holiday next month.. come on!!!!  my beloved bear was only 32 and we also planned more importants stuff than holidays. he wanted a baby.  :'( :'( :'( :'(

fuck fuck fuck this shitty life
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Post by: TooSoon on May 30, 2016, 11:06:37 PM
Oh I've been here before about this but fuck my university.  I love my students and some of my colleagues but the price I pay with some of the others (colleagues) and the stupid general lack of vision at this institution committed to a time long since past.  What have I done with my career?!  OMG.  Going to bed writing my resignation letter in my head.  Again.  What the................
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Post by: SoVerySad on May 30, 2016, 11:47:14 PM
Fuck that while I am working really hard in my therapy and making a real effort to get more engaged in life again, I still end up going to bed all alone every night. There are no signs of that changing in the near future or ever really. So, all my hard work I do during the day and progress I feel I've made feels like it evaporates every night when it's time for bed and the same emptiness and missing T settles in again. Fuck trying to move forward when in reality you still just want to go back to the life you had already put together. I'm so weary of this all.
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Post by: Jen on June 05, 2016, 09:27:34 AM
Fuck that I don't know where I belong anymore... no matter where I am, I feel so lost. And I don't even have words to describe it. :(
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Post by: Jen on June 05, 2016, 11:06:51 AM
And fuck that the loneliness is fucking killing me.  :(  :(  :(
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Post by: TooSoon on June 06, 2016, 01:04:24 PM
Fuck that I don't know where I belong anymore... no matter where I am, I feel so lost. And I don't even have words to describe it. :(

Jen, I feel like a visitor in my life a lot of the time even now.  I never wanted to be here (geographically) in the first place but here I am.  I think it might be pretty normal after a trauma and transition like this to feel a bit cast away.  What made sense before no longer does.  I think that it's a sign of self-awareness and growth and a positive thing that you sense non-belonging.  It isn't easy, but I do believe it is healthy. This is the early stage of finding your new footing and that is the start of something new and positive.  I'm here.  xoxox
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Post by: Bunny on June 07, 2016, 08:34:33 AM
I really fucking HATE how my anxiety has come back, like my body is reminding me, just in case I might try to forget- 'it's June, bunny!' Yeah, I know. Almost four years.

Anxious. Anxious. Anxious. FUCK.
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Post by: MrsDan on June 14, 2016, 11:38:46 AM
Fuck that if I want anything taken care of, including myself, I have to do it myself. Fuck all the illusions I had about people. Fuck alcohol. Fuck me for repeatedly going down certain roads when by now, I should really know better.
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Post by: Kater on June 14, 2016, 05:38:30 PM
Yesterday was my first birthday without him.  The call I just got, "So......how was your birthday."  How the fuck do you think it was?  And my favourite comment on FB, "happy birthday.  Hope this is your year".  What the fuck?!?  My year to wonder what the hell the rest of my life is supposed to look like?  Ya, that will be it.

Fuuuuuck.
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Post by: Tatianakm on June 19, 2016, 10:17:30 PM
Fuck these holidays, here, I said it, FUCK! I don't want to feel like this; I want to function normally. I might as well be surrounded by aliens- it sure feels this way. I am moving, talking, making vacation plans, even laughing,- but it all feels as if I am witnessing someone else's life from the sidelines. Shit, can't even express myself that it makes any sense. Don't want any fucking holidays, let it be only workdays, that I can bury myself in my routine and don't let myself feel this empty, hollow, grim loneliness...
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Post by: Captains wife on June 21, 2016, 09:41:21 PM
Fuck these moods, fuck that no one seems to get how tough all of this is, fuck that I have to plaster a smile on my face and appease everyone all the time...for some reason today, I want to crawl into bed, watch bad tv and stay there for a few days...
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Post by: JeanGenie on June 22, 2016, 05:15:26 AM
Fuck these moods, fuck that no one seems to get how tough all of this is, fuck that I have to plaster a smile on my face and appease everyone all the time...for some reason today, I want to crawl into bed, watch bad tv and stay there for a few days...

Captain's Wife, I hear ya and couldn't agree more! Been feeling the same way...such bipolar moods lately.
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Post by: donswife on June 22, 2016, 11:44:24 AM
Captains wife and JeanGenie
I am doing just that today ...took the day off and watching crappy tv
Just needed it today so thanks for posting
"fuck these moods"  ditto 
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Post by: Trying on June 29, 2016, 09:26:24 PM
Fuck CANCER!!!! Fuck the threat of cancer hitting my family again.  Fuck that I know I am not strong enough to go through this again.  Fuck that I no longer believe in "the odds are this is nothing to worry about" because every time I've been told that the odds were not in our favor.  Fuck  Fuck Fuck!!
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Post by: TooSoon on June 29, 2016, 10:27:25 PM
Fuck CANCER!!!! Fuck the threat of cancer hitting my family again.  Fuck that I know I am not strong enough to go through this again.  Fuck that I no longer believe in "the odds are this is nothing to worry about" because every time I've been told that the odds were not in our favor.  Fuck  Fuck Fuck!!

Indeed.  Fuck cancer.  Thinking of you and hoping for the best!  xo
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Post by: sandrine2279 on June 30, 2016, 04:15:34 AM
fuck cancer.... just learnt my grand mother may have a cancer (again)... don't even know if she could go under a surgery being 86 years old. fuck
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Post by: SoVerySad on July 04, 2016, 01:19:33 PM
Fuck that every experience in my life since my T died, even happy and fun ones, pales so deeply in comparison to just spending time doing nothing with him. I'm working so hard to re-engage with life and consciously trying not to make comparisons, but it feels like my mind and body do it anyway.
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Post by: Guaruj on July 05, 2016, 08:49:02 PM
Please allow me to apologize, in advance, to anyone here who works or has worked in a call center. I don't enjoy receiving these phone calls. I'm nearly always polite if I understand the call to be for legitimate reasons. But if I detect a scam, or even just a nuisance, there will be no pleasantries from me. Those people really should go fuck themselves.

I was actually having a good day at work today. I started extra early and was happily writing code when my cell phone rang from an out-of-state number I didn't recognize. I answered the phone with a not-so-friendly "hello". I could hear the background chatter of a call center.

"Hello, may I speak with Catherine?" was the reply I got.

What? Two years and one day after she died, somebody seemed to be calling for my wife on my cellphone. They asked for "Catherine", not "Cathy" or "Kate".

"Catherine who?", I asked. It got even weirder from there.

"I'm live agent, but my software requires me to use scripted responses".

That didn't make much sense, so I said "Look, don't screw around with me! Who are you calling for?"

"Hello, may I speak with Catherine?"

"You already asked me that. You're obviously not a person if you can't carry on a conversation." I find myself making this accusation more and more often. Welcome to the future.

"I'm live agent, but my software requires me to use scripted responses".

"If you have to use scripted responses, then you're not a person". There I was, arguing on the phone with someone I presumed to be a machine (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Turing_test). I write software for a living, so I'm annoyed when someone uses such crappy software to meddle with me.

So I finished up by saying "By the way, Catherine is my wife, and she died two years ago".

"Oh. I'm sorry." Finally, the monkey stopped pushing buttons and actually spoke to me.

I didn't tell him to go fuck himself, but only because I was at work. It truly pissed me off. I had to go walk a few laps in the corridors just to clear my head.

|+|  M a r k  |+|
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Post by: linda5 on July 07, 2016, 09:57:57 PM
Fuck that I think I'm ready to go to a dating website, then come home and see his pictures, his stuff, and then I chicken out.  I want to date one minute, and the next I'm not so sure. Fuck.
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Post by: Needytoo on July 16, 2016, 09:01:25 AM
First time I have posted on this thread: 

To my friend that said I was moody after a 3 hour work out, do I ever put you down during one of your “bipolar” moments no I do not so you can fuck off. 

To my sister, thank you for texting me and asking why I am not at my Father’s.  The answer is the same every year dear sister. We were not invited so fuck off bringing it up.  Why don’t you and my dear brother bring up with your hosts? 

To my BIL, thank you for your 6 month phone call to check up on us, have to admit at least you are better than my family.  Thank you for telling me I should move on but it really isn’t your business so fuck off.
 
To contractors all of you can fuck off
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TooSoon on July 16, 2016, 09:13:36 PM
I just need to say fuck you to academia (I'd like to get more specific than that but it wouldn't be professional but then again maybe that doesn't really matter since I'm apparently not a professional equal to my peers or the administration - to be fair, my department, chair and dean supported me without equivocation).  Final rejection from our University president today on my promotion.  Fuck that one more time.  Such an antiquated, capricious, generally fucked up system. 

I might need to fuck this whole thing a few more times as I have to face the people who made this decision when the new semester begins and smile at them like nothing happened.  So, I'll just fuck that in advance.  Thanks.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on July 18, 2016, 09:18:06 AM
Fuck feeling guilty that I forgot to call my mother on her birthday yesterday when she did not call on my daughter's birthday the day before or my wedding anniversary two days before that. Fuck that I have no idea what our relationship is supposed to be nowadays. She's coming to DD's birthday party next week so maybe that's why she didn't call on her birthday but she has never acknowledged my anniversary since my husband's death. My MIL texted me, pretty much first thing that day. Dan's siblings texted me. My sister and a friend sent messages, another posted on Dan's wall. But not my mom. Did she just forget? Maybe, but it's two days before her granddaughter's birthday and on Bastille Day FFS.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Dianne34 on July 19, 2016, 04:37:54 AM
Fuck my life. Fuck how it's only been two weeks and the books and posts I read promise years and years of this miserable shit to come. I did NOT sign up for this shit and neither did my husband or our little girls. Fuck how the thought of the rest of my life makes me cry where just a moment ago it filled my heart with love and happy anticipation. Fuck how my husband was my best friend and he should be helping me through this. Fuck that we were building our dream house and I'm finishing it alone, so I can go sit in it and be miserable. Fuck how moving elsewhere is an equally depressing alternative. Fuck how I am mean to my parents who are trying their best to help. Fuck that I will have to go 'out there' to make new friends and build a network also for the girls, I was perfectly fine spending Tuesday nights on the couch with my husband. Fuck Tuesdays, and other days of the week as well for that matter. Fuck how the weather is great and everyone outside is happy. Fuck people that ask me 'how are you doing now?' Exactly as bad as last week thank you very much. It's fucking not fair. I miss him so much.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: ScorpioGirl on July 19, 2016, 04:55:07 AM
Fuck the stupid lights in the bathroom I can't fucking fix myself so I've been showering in the dark all week.
Fuck my so-called friends who don't even fucking care or ask how I am now - too busy living their fucking perfect lives.
Fuck my annoying MIL who rings me constantly for support, ring your other two children and leave me the fuck alone!
Fuck that telemarketer who rang here last night to speak to my husband - you can't he's fucking dead.
I should also tell myself off for being a terrible fucking mother who takes my crappy mood out on my kids. They didn't fucking ask for this shitty life either.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on July 22, 2016, 09:15:42 AM
Fuck Huffy. Fuck the fact that two people with Master's degrees could not get the pedals on, because they do not fucking fit and her party is tomorrow. Fuck the fact that when I contacted customer service, they instructed us to do exactly what we've been doing for two days. Fuck the fact that I have to be 100% on point all the time to keep this stupid house of cards I've had to construct together but everybody else gets to phone shit in and fuck shit up. Fuck looking crazy in front of BF when he offered to take it to a bike shop because I can't bring myself to rely on his help in that way. Fuck letting him anyway. 

Fuck the fact that I have avoided and or dreaded birthday celebrations for her because they are so painful and when I finally start looking forward to one, the big gift is a fail, and it's going to be a million fucking degrees out.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on July 22, 2016, 12:34:16 PM
UPDATE: The crank holes are supposed to be threaded but ours aren't! This makes me a huge crank hole. Boyfriend offered to exchange the bike and start all over. Awesome. Wasted an entire evening. FUCK YOU HUFFY!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TofinoMan on July 25, 2016, 12:30:07 AM
Do keep in mind to if you get another bike, that with many bikes one pedal has standard threads, and one backwards threads....in theory its so the pedals won't come loose while pedaling.
Not every bike has this....but most do.
Hope the next bike goes better.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SK on July 25, 2016, 08:11:36 PM
Fuck the people who say, "don't say anything about her husband, he just died a few months ago.  It might upset her" !  I WANT TO TALK ABOUT HIM!!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on July 25, 2016, 08:55:16 PM
Fuck my life and the growing list of things I can't accomplish in a day.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SemperFidelis on July 28, 2016, 12:40:55 PM
SK, right there with you....  I know people are just trying to be respectful, but it's really hard to have people just pretend like he never existed. I really appreciate those uncommon moments when people mention him. I start to lose my sanity when his name goes unspoken for so long.
..All I want to do is talk about him.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SK on July 28, 2016, 08:49:18 PM
After writing that, I've made a point of talking about Bruce more and saying his name more, instead of saying, "my husband".  I LOVE saying his name ... it makes him feel more....real. 
God, I MISS BRUCE!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: sandrine2279 on August 02, 2016, 05:44:13 AM
Fuck that I realised I have to live  Bridget Jones' life.... waiting for the love of her live and then losing him.. Yes, I discovered she is a widow in the third book but not in the new movie.
It would probably be too sad for the public when it's my reality....   
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TooSoon on August 02, 2016, 11:09:06 PM
Fuck that I realised I have to live  Bridget Jones' life.... waiting for the love of her live and the losing him.. Yes, I discovered she is a widow in the third book but not in the new movie.
It would probably be too sad for the public when it's my reality....

I could not believe they changed the story for the movie.  Huge fan since the books first came out when I was a broke, single, nearly thirty graduate student - oh, and deeply awkward just like Bridge.  Super disappointing. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: TofinoMan on August 05, 2016, 11:35:35 PM
Fuck that people think i need to move on.
Fuck that assholes want me to date.
Really fuck the insensitive jerks who says hurtful shit because they are so stupid.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on August 06, 2016, 09:27:55 AM
tofinoMan;

I second all your fucks.   I just don't get why people #1 think that you can just "move on" and #2 why I need to date in order to have a life and be happy.

Fuck them all
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: sandrine2279 on August 06, 2016, 10:43:54 AM
double fuck today

1) fuck my business partner keeping asking me why I moved the desk used my beloved teddy bear when he was waiting for me in my office.... seems he would like me to explain again and again it would be too painful to look at this empty chair while I have to receive my clients...

2) fuck my bear's step-father who is so stupid he seriously said that maybe my bear (32 years old) had already done such a good job on earth that  God decided he could die now and that's a reward

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on August 06, 2016, 12:07:35 PM
Fuck drunk drivers! Fuck PTSD which knocks me back down each time I try to make progress. I feel like I'm a mole in the Whack-A-Mole game. Every time I pop my head out of this cocoon I've been hiding in, something knocks me back down. Maybe the familiarity of just existing is better than trying to build a happier life. At least I know what to expect.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: greeneyedshannon82 on August 07, 2016, 12:07:57 PM
Fuck finding the purest happiness just to have it snatched away in the blink of an eye. Fuck people who don't know me but pretend to care so they can get all the gossip about what actually happened. And a big Amen to whoever  said FUCK the people who say they'll be there and then disappear.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: mo on August 07, 2016, 10:41:38 PM
fuck me for all the times in the last two years (pg, miscarriage, pg, 9 month old) that i rejected my husband when he came on to me
for all the times i turned away when he tried to kiss me, out of frustration, or irritation or just plain stupidity
and especially fuck me that he has been gone for three weeks and im sooooo fucking horny. its all just so fucked up
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Rayspumpkin on August 09, 2016, 02:06:40 PM
Fuck being widowed. Fuck that my friend Sarah is being cremated today. Fuck that her fiance now thinks I'll be a good mentor for him because everyone thinks I handled losing Daniel so well. Fuck being called bitter. Fuck people telling me to stay away from Sarah's fiance because it depresses me. Fuck people trying to control my grief for my husband, my Momma AND now my friend! Fuck that I'm sooooo very used to saying fuck these days. Fuck wanting to lay on Daniel's chest and cry until I feel better. Fuck being broke. Fuck being alone. Fuck that I can't even screw a random guy to feel better because I don't want ANYONE except my husband. FUCK that I'm almost 4 years out and this isn't getting ANY easier. Fuck my pity party.

LOVE all of you so, so, so much!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on August 11, 2016, 03:08:31 PM
Fuck that it is 2016 and I'm still dealing with this old boys club shit.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on August 13, 2016, 04:48:21 PM
Fuck that after thinking and reflecting and crying and considering all the angles I know exactly what I want in life... and fuck that I can't have it. Fuck that there's really nothing else for me. Just fuck it all.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Needytoo on August 17, 2016, 07:24:59 AM
Big hugs to you Jen and huge "Fuck You" to your situation. Unfortunately my crap is blocking any positive feedback for you.

First off I must start of to saying a big FUCK YOU to myself.  Why do I keep doubting my own intuition.  That good old gut feeling is there for a reason and because I have doubted it time and time again and now I hope I have learned my lesson. 

A huge FUCK YOU to the contractor that ripped me off but I stopped his further con work.  Watch out for these assholes.

Fuck you insomnia and couch paralysis.  I am responsible for not trusting my gut now deal with it.  (might need some Valium to help  :o).

Another Fuck you to myself.  Because of not trusting my gut it most likely caused a friendship to end.

Fuck you to my old passive self, time to play like a grown up and stand up for yourself and not just sit on the couch and eat away your troubles. 



Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on August 17, 2016, 10:26:01 AM
FUCK you to my brother and his whole family for treating my mother like a second class citizen for their whole lives. Fuck the fact that I found out his son is expecting a baby because his girlfriend of a few months posted it on Facebook and tagged him. Fuck that she did so before anyone bothered to tell my mother or my sister, and so all their douchey friends knew before his grandmother and aunt. Fuck the fact that it was news to my sister when I told her, and fuck the fact that I'm pretty sure my mom doesn't know. I don't care for myself; I haven't spoke to my brother or any member of his family for over two years and have no real plans to do so. But fuck them all for the disrespect they show my mother. Oh and fuck the fact that this girls gets to keep having kids and I'll never have another baby. And fuck me for getting upset about that, because I'm supposed to be okay with not having another one.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: canadiangirl on August 22, 2016, 08:42:09 PM
Fuck feeling overwhelmed so often and over such small things.  Fuuucck the things that sit on my to-do list for ever, fuck that things keep breaking so that list is ever growing, and fuck trying to manage that list yet still be a present parent.  Fuck that the handy person is gone so I am paying through the nose for contractors that I cannot afford, for those things that Google and I simply cannot tackle.  Fuck that I never seem to get to that magic formula of energy + time + motivation.  Fuck that my child could already be a basement hacker, electronics are so present in my house.  My social worker, who was once a divorced parent, said that someone once told her that "being a single parent means failing at everything - failing at housework, parenting, one's job, friends, etc."  Although not a defeatist by nature, and I don't feel that fits for everyone, FUUUCCK that that fits for me!  (right now) (again, there's that hope thing) (hopefully this will change).  Fuck.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: twistedmensa on August 22, 2016, 11:11:30 PM
Fuck feeling overwhelmed so often and over such small things.  Fuuucck the things that sit on my to-do list for ever, fuck that things keep breaking so that list is ever growing, and fuck trying to manage that list yet still be a present parent.  Fuck that the handy person is gone so I am paying through the nose for contractors that I cannot afford, for those things that Google and I simply cannot tackle.  Fuck that I never seem to get to that magic formula of energy + time + motivation.  Fuck that my child could already be a basement hacker, electronics are so present in my house.  My social worker, who was once a divorced parent, said that someone once told her that "being a single parent means failing at everything - failing at housework, parenting, one's job, friends, etc."  Although not a defeatist by nature, and I don't feel that fits for everyone, FUUUCCK that that fits for me!  (right now) (again, there's that hope thing) (hopefully this will change).  Fuck.



Fuck that I'm only allowed to hit "like" one time for this!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on August 23, 2016, 06:40:02 AM
Right there with you CanadianGirl.    I need that same formula energy+time+motivation.  I can somehow maybe manage 2 of the 3 but not all of them.    I don't think its failing.  I've decided its prioritizing.  So what if the dishes and dusting don't get done on a timely basis.  Fuck em.

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on August 23, 2016, 10:49:43 AM
Canadiangirl,

I so relate to your post. I'm so sorry you are feeling the same way. I don't feel like I do anything really well anymore. It is all just pieced together enough to get by. It is another dynamic of being widowed that I hate. My counselor is working with me to improve my self-esteem. I used to manage a 200+ healthcare facility with 200+ employees juggling about 30 balls at any one time. Now I get overwhelmed if I have a couple things competing for my attention at once. What is to feel good about myself about that? I'm so tired of this, really just so tired in general. Fuck my life.

Hugs to you all...
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on August 26, 2016, 12:34:57 PM
Fuck that this broken heart will never, never heal. I don't think it'll ever work right again. :-(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on August 31, 2016, 08:06:18 AM
Fuck !!today would have been our 25 th wedding anniversary
just fucking unfair
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on August 31, 2016, 03:33:38 PM
Tight hugs to you, donswife!! I am so very sorry he isn't here to celebrate with you. I wish I could absorb some of the hurt you are feeling right now, so it wouldn't hurt so much. It isn't fair. He should be here.

Sending love and more hugs...
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: canadiangirl on September 14, 2016, 12:55:01 AM
A repeat post, but FUCK CANCER.  Another person lost yesterday (a friend's dad), another widow, some reliving of sad moments.  Effity-eff to this effing disease. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Sirin on September 15, 2016, 09:27:44 AM
I'm so glad I found this forum.  I guess this will be my first post!

Fuck being a new member of this club.
Fuck people who tell me to "be strong" and "you will move on"
Fuck people who tell me that I'm "still young and there are so many interesting people in the world" & "maybe I will meet someone and remarry and have children"
Fuck people who said "call us if you need anything" and disappeared.
Fuck not being able to explain to my dogs where he is now.
Fuck house maintenance.
Fuck wondering what my future is supposed to be like now.
Fuck being exhausted all the time.
Fuck making a second cup of coffee and putting it by his photo every morning.
Fuck wanting to drink every night.


Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on September 16, 2016, 02:31:11 PM
Fuck doctors who make you wait for important medical test results! Fuck trying not to worry that your children might end up with neither parent while you wait.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Tatianakm on September 23, 2016, 08:14:07 PM
Fuck that the only place I feel peaceful at is at the cemetery,  near his tomb, close to him
Fuck that I feel out of place and that I don't belong anywhere else
Fuck that I can't find any connection to anything or anyone despite of how hard I push myself
Fuck that i tried so desperate to hold it together that now I am in physical pain from the constant pressure and tension
Fuck my stupid heart for still being so in love with him...and my mind for not grasping that he is never coming back...
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MFed420 on September 30, 2016, 06:40:03 AM
Fuck the wives who think you want their husbands. I'm grieving, not interested in your man.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on September 30, 2016, 08:34:47 AM
Fuck the wives who think you want their husbands. I'm grieving, not interested in your man.

Yes, what is with that? It is incredibly annoying. I'm sorry you are experiencing it as well.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: InOverMyHead on October 10, 2016, 02:25:59 PM
Fuck the multiple anxiety attacks everyday..
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on October 10, 2016, 05:02:09 PM
InOverMyHead, I'm sending you a tight hug. I experienced those anxiety attacks as well. I had no idea they could be so debilitating or would feel so awful. I hope you will find some relief from them.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Tjones on October 11, 2016, 08:04:44 PM
Fuck you Subaru commercial, he didn't survive!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: JustLola on October 12, 2016, 12:13:47 AM
Fuck people who ask me how I am then interrupt me when I try to tell them.
Fuck having to move back to a city I now hate because I couldn't stay in one I loved.
Fuck losing not only my husband and closest friend, but our dreams and hopes as a couple.
Fuck that he was taken from me just when I thought we finally got everything we wanted.
Fuck that he will never again be able to tell me what to do and how to do it, that I won't be irritated and then realize he was right.
Fuck seeing the picture I found today on his phone, a selfie taken late in his illness that was filled with so much pain and despair.
Fuck how sick he was at the end, more images that are had to get out of my head.
Fuck. this. shit.
 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: InOverMyHead on October 12, 2016, 12:46:17 PM
Fuck you Subaru commercial, he didn't survive!

Tjones that's how I feel about the PE Blood Clot Medication commericials.. with Chris Bosh and Arnold Palmer and everyone.. It sucks! Every time the commercial comes on I change the channel. #Itdidntwork
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: InOverMyHead on October 12, 2016, 12:47:39 PM
Fuck losing not only my husband and closest friend, but our dreams and hopes as a couple.
Fuck that he was taken from me just when I thought we finally got everything we wanted.

This.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on October 13, 2016, 08:04:49 AM
Those stupid PE commercials make me cringe and change channels too. Kevin Nealon can bite me. >:(

Fuck being miserable. I'm so fucking sick of it, but I don't know how not to be. Fuck loneliness, fuck being skin starved, fuck having no dreams anymore. Fuck knowing that the only person who can take care of me is me. Fuck being alone even when I'm with other people. Fuck it all.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on October 16, 2016, 06:30:28 AM
Fuck that despite my efforts to re-engage with the world again and meeting quite a few new people, I can sit at a table with 9 other lovely people listening to a musician who I love to hear sing and still feel so lonely for my husband.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on October 16, 2016, 03:51:01 PM
Fuck that all I want is brownies, but my first thought is, I can't have brownies, because fat, rapidly ageing widows need to try to maintain some semblance of self-control and at least attempt to be healthy and fit. And my second thought is, Fuck that, I can eat all the damn brownies I want because I am a fat, rapidly ageing widow, and nobody is ever, ever, ever going to want me anyway.  :'(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: klim on November 02, 2016, 04:31:19 PM
Jen totally want the same brownies!!!....and chocolate bars...and fries instead of salad!!~
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on November 02, 2016, 05:27:21 PM
Fuck that today I'm the same age as him instead of almost 3 years younger

Fuck the friend that said well not quite he was almost 44. Yeah by 37 days   Not the point

Fuck the friends that face timed me on vacation and said I could join them next year if I got a boyfriend.

Fuck birthdays
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: canadiangirl on November 03, 2016, 09:48:51 AM
Fuck the friend that said well not quite he was almost 44. Yeah by 37 days   Not the point

Fuck the friends that face timed me on vacation and said I could join them next year if I got a boyfriend.

So sorry Mrs Kro.  Fuck insensitive friends who say BS things.  I hope your birthday was okay, all things considered.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: kjs1989 on November 05, 2016, 12:15:58 AM
Fuck the electrician, plumber, carpenter, and mechanic buddies of my husband who said, "If you need anything call."

My husband left several small household fixes undone. I had a door that wouldn't latch, a leaky faucet,  a broken porch light, and a boat and lawn mower that needed winterized. I told these guys how much it would help me if they could get these things done for me. Well, never happened.

But, come  every October and November I hear from these guys because I have 200 acres of prime hunting ground rife with pheasants and ducks and they are itching to get out there. I have always been too much of a pushover to say no, but this year I said..."Umm...no...not this year."

I felt bad. I really did. But...I got over it.... because I  said yes to the neighbor who fixed my lawn mower,  the friend who closed my pool,  the friend who organized my garage, the friend who put up security lights for me, and the friend that fixed my car brake light.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: canadiangirl on November 09, 2016, 01:30:21 AM
Fuck ensuing market turmoil.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on November 09, 2016, 05:38:27 AM
Right there with you Canadiangirl.

Fuck! 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: SoVerySad on November 09, 2016, 01:24:08 PM
Fuck not having my husband here to wrap his arms around me and tell me we're going to be okay.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Portside on November 09, 2016, 05:18:10 PM
Fuck ensuing market turmoil.

Last I checked:

DJIA, S&p, NASDAQ all up big time now.

What a ride from down 7% to up 3% in 12 hours.

Always, always, always invest for the long term. Forget about short-term, and especially daily, volatility.

Mike
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on November 28, 2016, 09:06:24 AM
Fuck fuck fuck fuck fucking fibro. Fuck this pain that is so excruciating I cannot fucking stand it. Fuck looking like a hundred years old when I try to walk. Fuck this this fucking hurts!!!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: mbanyard on December 07, 2016, 12:11:32 AM
I am so glad I found this thread today.....deep breath.

Fuck all those people who said they were there for me and to ask for anything t all, anytime, because they clearly meant just up to the point of the funeral.

Fuck the so called friends who never call, never check up and never have time to spend time together, for they think I'm so strong I can do it alone.

Fuck the family members on my side, who think liking a post on Facebook means they are being supportive.

Fuck the family members on his side,  for leaving me completely alone because visiting is "too hard for them|

Fuck the car lease people, who made me spend my hard earned money to prove to them that my DH had nothing to his name, with which to pay out their fucking lease.

Fuck all the neighbours who could not be bothered to even express their condolence on my loss, even though my DH did all kinds of thing to help them.

Fuck the asshole boss of my, now former job, who thought it was acceptable to yell and scream at a bereaved widow because I could not focus 110% two weeks after losing my husband.

Fuck those people who flirt with you, and make you think that you might actually not end up alone for the rest of your life, only to find out that you were being used to make the person they really wanted to date jealous.

Fuck not having the one person in the world who understands you still by your side.

and

Fuck the roller coaster of emotions, the lack of drive, the lack of future plan, and the fucking insomnia that has me up at 1:15 a.m. (again).

Ah...that feels better.......great thread all! Thank you.

MB

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Post by: kjs1989 on December 07, 2016, 08:42:51 AM
I am so sorry, mbanyard.   Right there with you,  I drift along and then it all builds up, like the shit going on in my life right now, which is so completely overwhelming I can't even post about it right now.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: mbanyard on December 07, 2016, 01:42:07 PM
Thanks! Today is a little better, but yesterday just needed a complete re-do.

MB
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: barney_12 on December 12, 2016, 03:36:45 PM
This could be long....I haven't really gotten any fuck you's out yet....

Fuck that after finally healing after a divorce caused by my cheating ex husband, I finally found the man I was supposed to have found 20 years ago and then love the rest of my life to have him die 3 months into our amazingly healthy loving relationship.

Fuck that his cheating ex- wife decided to take on the martyrd widow role even though they had been separated for 6 mths by then and she still had the boyfriend she had cheated with.

Fuck his family for allowing that bullshit and writing her as his wife in the obituary causing confusion and gossip in this shitty little town. Potentially tarmishing his reputation and playing into the " good Christian family image facade".

Fuck the so called fake friends who had nothing but terrible things to say about the cheating ex wife but are now best friends with her, now that he's gone. So much for loyalty.

Fuck people telling me to have compassion for her with what she's going through. Fuck that. She would have had my compassion and respect if she had done the right thing when he died. Instead of milking all the attention and sympathy because now instead of the town hating her for betraying him , they now feel for her and use their kids as excuses.

Fuck a lot people not understanding my grief. Minimizing and not validating it.

Fuck her for saying things about him while he's not here to defend himself. Like he neglected her etc that's why she had an affair instead of just leaving.

Fuck that our future plans won't ever happen. Fuck us sharing our future grandchildren together. Me dying at 101 and him at 87 so we wouldn't be alone without the other.

Fuck that I will never marry him. I will never move in with him. I won't grow old with him.

Fuck that we were in the middle of being in love and it was ripped away.

Fuck that Sunday morning I had a boyfriend and by 5pm I no longer had one.

Fuck that once again I have to start over when I have no desire to but don't want to be alone the rest of my life either.

Fuck that i have already lost my mom, my stepdad, my favourite grandma, my marriage, my in-laws ( since they chose to picks sides) and then him....my chance of having a family again.

Fuck that once again I'll be spending Christmas alone.

Fuck that my tree has been up for 2 weeks with only lights on it and I can't decide if I'm going to decorate the fucking thing or just take it down.

Fuck that he was the most amazing beautiful sexy loving faithful honest respectful man I had ever met and in one fucking split moment he crossed the yellow line on his motorbike and hit another car.

Fuck that he only had a broken leg and a lacerated liver but died because they couldnt get a helicopter or plane to fly him to a better equipped hospital because another accident had happened and they were flying " non life threatening " injuries to a different city.

Fuck me for saying this and feeling terrible but fuck him for dying on me and leaving me here to deal with all of this shit and have to once again start over.

Just fuck. Fuck fuckity fuck.....
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Post by: klim on December 20, 2016, 06:32:09 PM
Fuck the world!!!!

Ok maybe a little extreme but I'm moody right now!!!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MR on December 22, 2016, 10:29:11 AM
Fuck the pain as it keeps growing some days.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: mbanyard on December 25, 2016, 01:12:08 PM
I am in need of this today....thanks in advance, and bear with you:

 - Fuck people who always want you to reach out to them for help and support, for they should know by now that I am not able to ask for the help;
- Fuck people for being liars, users, and cheats (those who just want to see me for what they get that was my husbands, or for money they think I'm going to lend them);
- Fuck those so called friends who have left me completely alone during this holiday season, continuously making ....and then cancelling, plans;
- Fuck the family on both sides, who have bonded with me on the outside and left me completely alone....would it kill any of you to say Merry Christmas, or how about "how are you doing";
- Fuck those people who say they want to support and then don't even reply when you make a comment about being lonely, not being able to function, etc;
- Fuck those people who invite you to sing places, as a pro musician, and then don't even use you once you've taken the time to drive there.


A lot of FKN winners in my world right now and they all need to go to hell. I am so past being the patient, eloquent, gentle person. I have moved on to angry, bitter and jaded and think I will hang out here all along for the foreseeable future.


Fuck them all!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: geminigirl on December 27, 2016, 08:38:31 AM
Fuck my in laws for not mentioning my husband's name once on Christmas!

Fuck my mom for telling me “it's Christmas, you should try to be happy." Are you fucking kidding me?

Fuck my friend for telling me on Christmas Eve when I was balling my eyes out that “God doesn't give us more than we can handle." Fuck you don't talk to me about God. If there is a God he's fucking cruel, I can't handle this much longer!

Fuck everyone on Facebook for their family pictures!

Fuck my husband's boss for sending my daughter a gift card to Build a Bear. Great so every time I look at that damn bear I can think of how my husband died working for him. It's the dead daddy doll.

Fuck my friend for judging me for dating. Of course she would never date so soon. Fuck you, your husband isn't dead you have no fucking idea what you would do and you have no idea how much pain I'm in and how lonely I am. Don't treat me like I'm a slut, again you have no fucking clue!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: InOverMyHead on December 27, 2016, 07:35:45 PM
Fuck missing him so much I forget how to breathe.
Fuck the fact that when I close my eyes I'm back at our house and open them and I am back in this nightmare.
Fuck the fact that I can't wait to die so I can be with him again.

FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: LTSLforever on December 28, 2016, 09:30:45 AM
It is over 13 months and I am still in so much fucking pain.
Anytime I take a step forward, I take 10 fucking steps backwards.
Fuck my sister.  I am too embarrassed to write about how fucking cruel my own blood can be.
If it wasn't for my mom and feline children, there would be no reason for me to live.
I HATE THIS FUCKING LIFE!  Maybe it is time for me to be with Steve.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: LeahRoot84 on January 02, 2017, 02:50:44 AM
Fuck mental illness! And fuck, fucked up people who know that they pushed a person to their grave, but continue to blame the innocent!!! Fuck it all!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: RyanAmysMom on January 13, 2017, 11:54:05 PM
Oh, mbanyard, you nailed it........ it's like you're reading my mind.........

"Fuck all those people who said they were there for me and to ask for anything at all, anytime, because they clearly meant just up to the point of the funeral.

Fuck the so called friends who never call, never check up and never have time to spend time together, for they think I'm so strong I can do it alone.

Fuck not having the one person in the world who understands you still by your side.    and

Fuck the roller coaster of emotions, the lack of drive, the lack of future plan, and the fucking insomnia that has me up all night"

And mostly, for me, FUCK the loneliness.......  I'm so freaking lonely I can't do anything but sit and cry and feel sorry for myself. 
And Fuck that I can't be honest with anyone about how lonely I feel. 

18 months ago right now.....  my hubby collapsed.... and I wasn't there....
Fuck the guilt and pain.....   
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: HCE on January 20, 2017, 09:47:55 PM
This thread is fantastic! Here I go:


FUCK cancer, which made my beautiful young wife afraid and sad and sore, and then killed her.

FUCK being haunted by the ghosts of our unborn children.

FUCK my wife's cousins, for whom a terminal prognosis wasn't reason enough to visit, send flowers, or even telephone.

FUCK my wife's cousins again, who were nowhere to be seen at the funeral. Honestly, fuck you people.

FUCK those 'friends' who disappeared.

FUCK those people who loftily proclaim (sometimes through a third party!) that I have their permission to get in touch. I can see them in the my mind's eye, graciously waiting for my call with serene detachment, enshrouded in an aura of goodness. Fuck off.

FUCK people who pretend I'm invisible.

FUCK horrific dreams of illness, death and putrefaction.

FUCK the simple things in life, which aren't fun anymore without her around to share them with.

FUCK talking aloud to myself like an idiot.

FUCK tea for one.

FUCK the miserable, dreary wasteland of the rest of my life.


There, that's better! Thanks for listening.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on January 23, 2017, 01:46:58 PM
Fuck people who can't send even send a fucking email in a nice tone. Fuck people who simply have to be mean. Fuck toxic workplaces. Fuck this shit.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: RobFTC on January 23, 2017, 11:24:12 PM
Fuck my unstable and now-blocked niece, who spent the early part of Sunday apologizing for some over-the-line comments in chat from a few days ago - and then lost her shit that night and cussed me out again after I failed to respond - because I was up a mountain skiing and oddly enough not responding!  And fuck her trying to get me involved in a fight with her brother!

Take care,
Rob T
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: kjs1989 on January 24, 2017, 09:06:51 AM
I apologize to those who may be offended by this post, but here goes. Ef the Catholic church to which my husband gave way beyond a generous amount of money and time every year. I am not a member, but I made sure my kids attended religious ed classes every week and participated in their volunteer programs. After he died, I did not receive one call from the priest, the deacon, or even a lay minister from the church to see how I was doing. It has been four years. BUT, I have received letter after letter saying I need to step up my tithing  since it has  fallen off from where it was when D was alive. $150.00 from my checking account goes directly to them every month. I will continue to do that in honor of D, but I do not have the income I had when my husband was alive and I have explained that, but yesterday I received a message on my cell phone from someone at the church who wants to "visit" with me. Perfect.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: beth_krkswidow on January 24, 2017, 09:12:50 AM
KJS,  Holy crap.  Unbelievable.  So so sorry.  Really, I wish we all had our own state or something that only we could inhabit.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Needytoo on January 29, 2017, 01:12:54 PM
Here I go,

Fuck the slime ball contractor who I am suing.  I am tired of being angry at you and having to go back into therapy.  You have no fucking right. See you in court. 

Fuck my friend who said she would be there for me, you are a liar and for the last time fuck you.

To my children, especially my oldest. You are 22 years old and have a good job and refuse to pay me $400/month for rent.  No, I am not paying your cell bill, dentist bill, take you to the movies, pay for your gym bill or do your laundry. I am tired of hearing you bitch and bitch. I know how much money you have in the bank and I am proud of you but I am tired of supporting you.  Fuck you son, time to start acting like an adult. 

I am tired of doing everything. Fuck you chores.

I am tired of the loneliness.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on January 30, 2017, 09:29:03 PM
Fuck being alone and having to prioritize my kids.   How the hell do you decide which one comes first when you are alone ?

Fuck the jackass that said I have to go on the once in a lifetime, first international tournament with the boy and leave the girl alone on her birthday and then tell me two weeks later she shouldn't be alone on her birthday.    Well no shit Sherlock.   

Fuck this.  All of it.  Where it seems like someone is always being short changed. 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on February 02, 2017, 02:34:36 PM
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on February 02, 2017, 02:37:26 PM
Sorry that was excessive but I am so tired of dealing with so many fucking assholes.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Julester3 on February 02, 2017, 03:37:34 PM
Fuck the Valentines crap everywhere: at the stores, on my Facebook feed, on the radio, on tv and my freaking emails. I fucking know it's coming and I'm fucking aware I don't have a husband for gratuitous Valentine's Day sex and festivities!!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Adley on February 03, 2017, 06:09:56 PM
Gotta go to a very close friend from high school's wake tonight. We camped all weekend nearly every weekend for years. He was shot in the heart 2 nights ago. I am a pall bearer tomorrow. First funeral since my wife's. F this.
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Post by: beth_krkswidow on February 03, 2017, 07:54:04 PM
Oh, Adley, I'm so sorry.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Adley on February 03, 2017, 11:23:24 PM
 Thanks Beth. Me too. Small community. We all know each other and everybody involved. Oh man.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MR on February 06, 2017, 10:10:56 AM
Sorry to hear Adley.
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Post by: KrypticKat on February 06, 2017, 11:42:26 AM
Fuck the people that say they are thinking of you and then scatter like roaches the moment you show some vulnerability. I'm not fucking Meryl Streep and I'm not getting any awards for Best performance for being normal in front of you.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: kjs1989 on February 06, 2017, 12:01:00 PM
KrypticKat,

I get this. One of my best friends and I were talking about another widow's situation. I mentioned that she is a really nice person. My friend agreed, but added that she tended to avoid her because she always seemed so sad. I told her, "Well yeah, losing the love of your life tends to do that to a person."

Just made me think I better keep putting the happy mask on every morning, even for my best friends.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KrypticKat on February 06, 2017, 08:48:24 PM
Kjs1989

It's terrible right? I remember early on balling on the phone to my father telling him I was afraid everyone else would abandon me because I was crying too much and his advice was that it is tiring for people to see me sad all the time and if they can't enjoy themselves around me once in a while they will push away. Because they don't have that pain and they don't want to experience it. It was brutal and I'm still bothers me he said it. Only shitty people will abandon you or people that cant handle the new you. But there is a certain sad truth to his aweful words. Many people are selfish that way...
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: geminigirl on February 10, 2017, 07:39:13 AM
Fuck diarrhea!!! Seriously, my toddler won't stop shitting and it's ruining my life right now. I can't send her to daycare, I can't leave the damn house, I'm trapped!! I just want this kid to stop pooping!! She cries non-stop and I'm losing my mind.

Fuck being a single parent!! I need help, I need my husband, my daughter needs her father!! This shit is hard and I'm exhausted!

Fuck the dishes! Fuck the laundry! Fuck the the sticky floors! Fuck these damn Legos all over the sticky floors! Fuck these Goldfish smashed into my carpet! Fuck dinner! I'm tired! I need to get out of here before I lose my mind!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: geminigirl on February 17, 2017, 06:50:06 PM
I'm back and even angrier this week. I feel like life is kicking my ass right now.

Fuck this sinus infection that I have!
Fuck this pain I'm in!
Fuck spending $200 at the Walk-In Clinic!
Fuck $105 in overdraft fees!
Fuck the asshole adjuster at Worker's comp for sending my check out late and fucking up everything for me!
Fuck Presidents Day! (another day I have to wait on my check)
Fuck my first Valentine's Day without my husband!
Fuck my entire life right now!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KrypticKat on February 21, 2017, 06:41:07 PM
Fuck his family members that accuse me of just giving his stuff away when all I did was return some personal items to them. Would it hurt them to just be thankful they have some of his things to hold onto? Gossipy bitches.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: kjs1989 on February 21, 2017, 09:21:12 PM
KrypticKat, gotta love people, especially inlaws, second-guessing and gossiping about every decision you make while you are in the throes of grief. I had that going on, too.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mrskro on February 24, 2017, 09:31:22 AM
Fuck being a single parent, this sucks!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KrypticKat on February 28, 2017, 08:16:23 PM
Fuck my friend for buying the exact same car (make, model, number or doors and color) as my husband's car 3 months after he died in a car crash. Now everytime I look at it I see my sweet husband dead inside like the car crash pictures. And she wonders why I avoid driving with her. Why are some people so freaking ignorant?
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: beth_krkswidow on February 28, 2017, 09:05:20 PM
OMG, KK, I am so sorry.  People are idiots.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: PeaceLoveLinny on April 05, 2017, 09:09:29 AM
Fuck other people's opinions of the choices I make as I learn to move forward.  Fuck your passive aggressive "digs" on social media, your judging glances, and your inability to even fathom what I'm going through. 
Fuck you for your comments you make to my children, as if I'm not keeping the memory of their father alive for them.  Fuck you and Fuck off!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MR on April 05, 2017, 10:28:41 AM
Fu.. This roller coaster emotions which make me feel fine one day and back to 1st month another day.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on April 05, 2017, 07:48:21 PM
Fuck the fact that being a widow is a full time fucking job, on top of my full time job of being a mom, and my full time job of being a museum professional. Fuck the fact that there is still stuff that I haven't taken care of. Fuck thinking I have shit down, sort of, only to realize it's still a giant fucking mess.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KrypticKat on April 09, 2017, 01:41:06 AM
Fuck insurance companies. Seriously fuck em. Happy to take your money but when shit hits the fan: they bury you in paperwork to see if you break. Fuck em for having every protocol imaginable to drag their rich corporate ass on getting shit done for you.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Trying on April 09, 2017, 07:17:42 PM
Fuck anxiety and conflict and the people that create stress for no fucking reason!!!!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Needytoo on April 13, 2017, 08:06:49 PM
I just have the need to post this. To my sister-in-law the only local family my sons and I have. Thank you for all your lack of support in the early years and then your periodical checks on us.  We really loved your comments such as "are you ok".  The answer was no we weren't you stupid bitch.  Somehow I was able to heal from all of this. No other family member has stepped up and not one of them has come to our house in 4 years, I get it. 
Thank you for inviting us over to Easter and then recall the invite the next day all via e-mail.  Guess what I don't feel a thing. I am not sure if this is a good or bad thing, but I just have to say fuck you because it just feels right.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Missing AC on April 15, 2017, 09:48:30 PM
Fuck that I am lonely!
Fuck that my son misses his dad badly, is hurting and there is nothing I can do to fix the pain!
Fuck all the people who said they would be there for us! I am tired of being the one that makes all the effort!
Fuck being a solo parent!! I don't know how to do this.
Fuck this nightmare!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: ForeverHisx on April 16, 2017, 02:02:11 AM
Fuck that were on a forum for this reason .
Fuck that the company sent him on a job that wasnt his responsibility .
Fuck that i spoke to him 15 minutes before .
Fuck the journey to the hospital .
Fuck the doctors who couldnt save him and sat in that room telling me . We done our best fucking idiots clealy not .
Fuck everyone who got involved .
Fuck his family C***TS .
Fuck it that he was only 26 .
Fuck it that i was only 24 .
Fuck it that our son was only 14 months .
Fuck it that i have yet to explain to our nearly 2 year old what happened to his daddy.
Fuck it that i have to bring him up alone .
Fuck it i feel ive already failed him because i cant give him what he needs his daddy .
Fuck it how people are so quick to comment and say they understand NO NO YOU DONT ! or you wouldnt say the stupid comments you say .
Fuck it how people can be so insensitive .
Fuck it ive moved area as i cant handle being where i had my whole life planned out with him .
Fuck it how im now only 25 and that this is it thats my life over he is the only one for me never will there be another .
Fuck it how i go to bed alone every night .
Fuck it how i hate my own head .
Fuck it i get so stressed out with it all i have heavy nose bleeds .
Fuck it how no matter what you do it doesnt matter because its the same reality .
Fuck it this horrible feeling that only the ones who have gone through it get it .
Fuck it being told oh your doing so well . FUCK OFF FUCK YOU , try living on the inside of me !.
Fuck it how it happened so suddenly .
Fuck life its not life its just existing .
Fuck how id do anything to have you back id go to the end of earth , Fuck it how i cant find you !.
Fuck it how i miss you so much .
FUCK FUCK FUCK THIS !.

 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KrypticKat on April 17, 2017, 09:34:52 PM
Fuck the people who tell me their problems then turn around and say they can't deal with my sad issues because they need to focus on the positive.

And yes. Fuck those that tell me how well I'm doing. Or I did good at the holiday meal. What standard am I meeting exactly?

Do I get a fucking cookie?
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: momtokam on June 02, 2017, 06:13:38 AM
https://youtu.be/QvWjfjord18LeU1g

😁 Sometimes you just have to laugh! I
I really am good right now, but I had to share this!

Not PG!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: oneoftwo on June 02, 2017, 02:32:54 PM
I may have posted this before, but I've been thinking about it, and it really bugs me.
Someone said to me "Now you can do whatever you want!"

Yeah!!! Can't wait for endless bills, no one to talk to about the kids, crying before I even lifted my head from my pillow, wrenching my back trying to lift things meant to be lifted by 2 people, watching my father die, wondering if my kids' partners are a good match and not being able to express that to someone.
Yeah!!! having so much fun!!

And, 2 things by the way,
1. How fucked up is your 'perfect' marriage that you would even think that about mine?
2. I actually WAS doing what I wanted to do

FUCK YOU

 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KrypticKat on June 03, 2017, 06:58:16 AM
Fuck those people telling me I'm grieving wrong. If I wanna jog till my legs hurt and drink kale smoothies to feel physically good I will. If I wanna lay in bed and watch Netflix and eat chocolate to feel numb I will. Fuck you for thinking you know how I'm supposed to do this.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: BrokenHeart2 on June 03, 2017, 08:41:55 AM
Good for you KK! That's right too many think they know how we should grieve.  Fuck em!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on June 10, 2017, 11:12:14 AM
Fuck that I am lonely af and nothing I do seems to help.  :-\
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: jgib on June 10, 2017, 02:41:41 PM
Fuck the insurance company that has dragged this on for 3 and a half years with no end in sight....you suck, you really do.....
Very difficult to move forward dragging them along.  Did I mention that they suck?
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MrsDan on June 18, 2017, 05:09:19 PM
I still fuck fuck fucking HATE Father's day.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Jen on June 18, 2017, 07:16:12 PM
I still fuck fuck fucking HATE Father's day.

A-fucking-men. And fuck the hospital chaplain whose father's day devotional included a pithy reference to god as "father of the fatherless and protector of widows." Yeah, whatever. Falling down on the job, as far as I can tell.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: kjs1989 on June 20, 2017, 10:15:04 AM
Ef the home builder/general contractor/ bar and pizza joint owner  neighbor directly  to my west in his 7000 square ft. McMansion. When D died he called me and offered to help with stuff that needed fixed that D left undone.  Never happened. He did have a few pizzas sent over from his restaurant at the time D died, so there's that.

Anyway,  big ostentatious house with a neglected lawn. Weeds growing out of his shrubs out front, patchy looking lawn, plentiful dandelions,  whatever. He or his 19 year old sons  mow his lawn well after it has gone to seed but leaves it to me, the empty nest widow, to weed whack the mail boxes between our property along with the grass around the property line utility boxes. If I didn't do, it just wouldn't happen. Annoying, but no biggie.

But then this....we had a brutal wind storm Friday night. I got up to let the dog out at 5am and was completely disheartened to see huge branches, sticks of all sizes and just general debris all over the back yard from the line of willow trees behind our two houses. Instead of going back to bed,  I started the clean-up process . I worked for three hours mounding branches in three huge piles. I will pay a lawn crew to come haul the piles off for me as I did earlier this spring.


I noticed Neighbor also had a mess in his backyard. Mess left until yesterday, and then after being gone all day I noticed his lawn was cleaned up. But guess where he piled them? My piles! That meant he had to drag his crap all the way through my yard  to add to the piles near my house. I thought maybe he would leave me a message to tell me and offer to split the cost to have the stuff removed. Nope! He waved at me this morning from his deck and went back inside.

People SUCK.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: BrokenHeart2 on June 20, 2017, 12:33:08 PM
Ha, I'd ask him when is he going to call someone to come get the piles and let him pay.  I bet he will if you ask.  Try it, the worst he could say is no then you could let him know he can come collect his branches then.  Bet it won't come to that.
Good luck!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: kjs1989 on June 20, 2017, 01:06:23 PM
Yeah, I am sure if I approached him he would do the "right "thing. I am just  mostly venting about how bone-headed, inconsiderate, and assumptive some people can be unless  you call them out on it. Hello!! I  am on my own over here! If you can't help me out on occasion at least take care care of your own crap!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: BrokenHeart2 on June 20, 2017, 07:09:12 PM
Yes, I hear you.  There are just too many around like that. Vent away kjs1989!!! Evenually I have just gotten tired of calling people out.  So tired of it all.
Hugs!!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KrypticKat on July 09, 2017, 08:16:44 PM
Fuck my Mother in Law for being a giant lady child. I've been civil since the beginning and went to a family BBQ tonight. Upon seeing me arrive she promptly made her grown children go home with her even leaving her food behind without saying goodbye to the rest of the family. The family was appalled and I was so sad and embarrassed. I guess when she told me last time we met she hopes the best for me that was bullshit. I'm tired of being the only grown up in this grief filled shit storm!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Julester3 on July 09, 2017, 09:51:39 PM
Ugh MIL! I am sorry she acted so infantile. I totally understand. I have a similar MIL who just last week accused me of not allowing her to grieve and from keeping the girls from her. She's mad that I did not inform her personally the day his headstone plaque was installed. She also went as far as to say my husband would be appalled on how I am treating her. OMFG! She's so out of line. And the kicker? I have to forego my own birthday in order to go to a brunch to celebrate her 70th birthday. My birthday is on a Sunday and her birthday is on Tuesday. I'm a mean bitch to have to ignore my own birthday for hers. 🙄 Fuck my narcissistic self centered motherinlaw.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: meemzi on July 10, 2017, 12:29:43 AM
Fuck losing my love and my home along with him. Fuck the health care system. Especially fuck the mental health care system. Fuck the voices that terrorized him.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KrypticKat on July 11, 2017, 09:21:00 PM
Ugh I know @Julester3. That's just aweful. Not that you need to be the center of attention but some balance would be nice. It also drives me nuts that someone can walk through life like a living hurricane just damaging everything around them without remorse for how others might feel and us wids are put under a microscope to make sure we're mourning but not to much and not in a way that is inconvenient for others. Feel free to cry...just not in front of me. Ugh.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KatieMO on July 11, 2017, 11:00:35 PM
Fuck the grief fuck the anxiety and stress and depression fuck the constant fear of keeping a roof over my head fuck my supervisor for putting me into panic/anxiety attacks for the last month making me think I'm going to walk into work one day and be fired because my brain is STILL FREAKING RECOVERING FROM A FULL NERVOUS BREAKDOWN SUDDENLY HAVING TO TACKLE A JOB THAT REQUIRES RESPONSIBILITY FOR THINGS I NEVER EVEN HAVE BEEN REALLY TRAINED FOR AND DEALING WITH MY HOUSE BEING FORECLOSED ON BUT MANAGING TO SCRAMBLE AND SAVE IT LAST SECOND BUT MONEY IS NOW EVEN LESS NOW AND JUST fuck it fuck it FUCK IT.

*sigh*

Oh a fifty cent raise yeah that really is going to help things....

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on July 26, 2017, 08:44:46 PM
Fuck that I am having one of those days
and Fuck that he isn't here to make it better ...
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KrypticKat on July 27, 2017, 11:50:29 AM
'You playing that game where you remember what you were doing this time last year?' (That's been everyday for A year)

'Im surprised how much this week is affecting me since it's the anniversary. I guess it's just another day though.' (Fuck you mom. Fuck you for saying all of that to your daughter mourning the first year anniversary of her husband's death.)
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Mishka3086 on August 25, 2017, 02:02:47 AM
Fuck the "Justice system" for failing me once again by allowing the monster who killed my husband in cold blood to go free less than 2 years ago for another shooting offense... Fuck the fact that HE gets to choose how long we wait for court proceedings to happen. Fuck me for taking my husband for granted, and fuck this pain I have to live with forever 💔
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: MadPage on September 13, 2017, 10:35:13 PM
Fuck this is my first post on this new to me board
Fuck that I needed to find a place that would understand my need to share after seven years
Fuck that I still have a lonely hole in my heart
I am FUCKing glad that I have a place to rant, that excepts that.... yes...... I want to talk about Gail
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Wife of Tomasz on September 14, 2017, 11:44:28 AM
Fuck my father for saying that I need to try to meet new people so that I don't get "stuck" in my grief, And all this as the 2 year mark is a week away.
Fuck my whole family for minimizing my pain, and acting like his death is no big deal.
Fuck them for not loving him.
Fuck all the people around me that are having babies and don't understand why I am not there for them.
Fuck this life without the love of my life.
Just FUCK!
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: jgib on September 14, 2017, 05:34:37 PM
Fuck the insurance company...again...coming up 4 years now...

Fuck the thoughts that tell me he was the only one that could love me, accept me, and appreciate me for who I am....
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Wheelerswife on September 14, 2017, 06:14:44 PM
Fuck this is my first post on this new to me board
Fuck that I needed to find a place that would understand my need to share after seven years
Fuck that I still have a lonely hole in my heart
I am FUCKing glad that I have a place to rant, that excepts that.... yes...... I want to talk about Gail

Hey there MadPage.

Good to see your name again...sorry for the reason.

But I get it. Hugs to you,

Maureen
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: rifatheroffour on September 29, 2017, 05:32:02 PM
Fuck that everything I seem to do these is five steps forward and fucking four back. Just can't ever seem to catch a break. I'm so fucking tired of this life! Mostly this relates to work. My personal life is just fucking stuck...no surprise there, not like I'm doing anything about it anyway right now.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: hachi on October 02, 2017, 11:07:58 AM
Fuck that maybe hundreds of people in Vegas are senselessly in this fucking club. Fuck fuck fuck :'(
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on October 02, 2017, 08:29:45 PM
Fuck that I hosted my nieces wedding in our backyard ,this weekend, with out Don
Fuck that he should have been here
Fuck that I had to do a speech in his honor and he would have done it so much better
 
Fuck that in the process I sprained my ankle because I over did it 
I just wish Don was here...every day 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: JeanGenie on October 05, 2017, 05:49:04 AM
Fuck once again being disappointed and let down by family and supposed friends.
Fuck that I put so much thought and effort into these relationships and get nothing in return.
Fuck that I care more than them.
Fuck that I put so much value in these relationships.
Fuck that I let it affect me so much.
Fuck this life and the unending cycle of misery and sadness.
All I want is simple moments of happiness and to know someone gives a shit.
I guess that's asking for too much...
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: rifatheroffour on October 07, 2017, 04:19:22 PM
FUCK!!! That's all...carry on...
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Bereft on October 17, 2017, 11:35:06 PM
Friday would have been our 10th wedding anniversary.

Local relatives and supportive peeps are already questioning why I am not "over it" and I just want to pack a bag and bail.

Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: kjs1989 on October 19, 2017, 12:43:45 PM
Ef  the few people that still feel the need to "correct" my grief if  it doesn't  jibe with their vision for me. An inlaw was here visiting with other family over the weekend. Tomorrow is the five year date of losing D in that stupid mindless 100% preventable accident. While the two of us were alone in the kitchen having coffee Saturday morning, he brought up D, and eventually the conversation led to questions about how the kids and I and are coping at this point. I briefly expressed my thoughts the best  I could and my feelings at this point, being rawly honest with my mental state in terms of the gains I think have made as well as the setbacks in the brutal process of moving forward through this horrendous loss.

I guess I should have just said it was all fine and we were doing great, because when I expressed my feelings, I was met with , "Well, no....blah blah blah blah....moving on.....leaving the past in the past.....blah blah blah... what D would want....blah blah blah.... what is best for the kids....blah blah blah......and BLAH

Ok then, thank you for setting me straight with MY feelings.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: Adley on October 21, 2017, 12:51:08 AM
Kj, I can't STAND when they do that. It's like they're trying to give logical financial advice. And it's so disarming because of the place it puts us; there's not chance to tell them how wrong they are. I'm sorry.
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: donswife on October 24, 2017, 06:55:05 AM
Fuck you Facebook ...really
I got through Don's birthday then ten days later the date of his death
Then BOOM, Facebook reminds me three years ago today was his funeral
Sigh ...I just wish this was easier for all of us 
Title: Re: Once again, ladies and gentlemen... the F*** YOU thread
Post by: KrypticKat on October 26, 2017, 09:35:04 PM
Fuck the bureaucratic dipshitz that I've had to deal with. Screw the insurance company that only now finalized my husband's Insurance over a year later because of the documents they were missing. Fuck the coroner for haulting all of the documents because they kept going through employees like tap water. On top of that they wanted to take it to a  review board so they could review possible safety measures to put in place in the future do other's don't meet my husband's fate. Important to do but Fuck them for refusing to release the documents that the insurance company would need that would not be impacted by the review process because bureaucracy dictates it to be so. Telling me it was going to take another year and I had to cry in the middle of a waiting room begging through a glass window just to get them to come to their senses that they were delaying my ability to start closing doors and moving forward with my life. Fuck your red tape and beurocracy at the expense of my humanity and suffering!