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  2. Abitlost

    There are worse things than death

    Beyond tragic. I'm thinking of Kate.
  3. sudnlysngl

    There are worse things than death

    Broken hearted for this mother. Prayers aren't enough at this time, but all I can give, and I will give them hoping it will hold her and the rest of her family together during this horrific tragedy.😥😥
  4. @Bubu27 I have had something happen that has to be damon. The day after he passed my family was talking about text messages on our phone from him. I had none because I've been with him 24/7 taking care of him and I guess I deleted the texts ( I never keep texts). Anyways, while looking at my phone it randomly restarted. Suddenly old text messages appeared on my phone from damon. I know it sounds crazy, but this really happened. I have no doubt it was him. Melissa
  5. Melissa brown

    There are worse things than death

    Unimaginable and so sad. I am so sorry.
  6. Melissa brown

    Probate court

    I am sure this topic has been discussed, although I didn't find anything. But what was your experience with probate court?My husband didnt have a will. So it has to go through probate. I went there today and am overwhelmed with what they told me. Apparently my 18 year old owns a part of our house. It's just crazy. Is there any tips or suggestions? Of course the one person I can talk to is no longer here. Thank you to this forum for all the support. Melissa
  7. Melissa brown

    No will

    @laurie27 I actually did see a lawyer but did not hire him to do the paperwork. I have considered it though.
  8. cathyr

    There are worse things than death

    This just breaks my heart for these precious girls' mom and family. I am in tears and in shock that something so horrific can happen to the two sweet angels. Sending heartfelt prayers.
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  10. laurie27

    No will

    Have you thought of going to an attorney to get him/her to take care of the paperwork? That's what I did, and I am sure it was done correctly because of that.
  11. Hi, all and thanks for the check-in reminder I was thinking to myself a couple days ago that things are quiet here and I haven't contributed 😂 tybec, you bring up a great point about purpose and I echo what trying2 said -- from a faith perspective, we all have purpose. It comes from within us, it is who we are, apart from others. It is put in us from the beginning of our creation and we will continue to feel empty if we look elsewhere for it. I do not mean to suggest that is what you are doing, but I think it is a good thing to keep in mind, that others are like the meringue on our pie -- they don't make us, just like the meringue doesn't make the lemon meringue pie ... they add to how awesome we already are (says the woman who is a sucker for a good lemon pie or lemon bar, sans meringue!). BF passed his licensing exam and is moving forward with business plans, which is great to see. I was very sad he didn't come to service with me yesterday; his church experiences, as I think I've shared, have been negative so he is pretty gun-shy about going. The people around him who attended church have never it seems shared what a believer should look like, about the importance of giving, and all that. I've started giving in his name as well as of yesterday. He said he would come with me at some point. I don't press, I just ask. I pray about it. I believe he would get a lot out of the messages and the fellowship. One thing I've noticed is that he is still very much someone who speaks in terms of 'yours' and 'mine'; I am hoping to get at is whether it's simply semantics. I suspect it is but will likely ask. As an only child, I don't understand what life is like with siblings, where people take your stuff He had siblings and things seemed to be very much 'yours' and 'mine' in his family. However, he did refer to 'home' a few days back when he was talking about 'my house'. Overthinking? yeah, I'm great at that!
  12. November

    MAINTAINING FRIENDSHIPS

    When my husband died my kids were 12, 8 and 4 and at first all my friends were understanding and helpful but as time went by everything went back to normal....their normal. I had to realize and understand that I was the changed one. Once I really understood that I was able to move on and even found new friends.
  13. November

    The "L" Word

    I told my NG first about 4 months into our relationship. I have always been a strong believer of saying what you feel and telling someone how special they are to you with no set amount of time. I did though sort of felt like I was betraying my LH because I was feeling guilty about how happy my days were beginning to be. But I also know that my LH would want me to be happy and I believe in my heart that he is happy for me too. We (NG and I) have been together for about 1 year and a half now and I tell him everyday how much I love him.
  14. Toosoon2.0

    There are worse things than death

    There but for the grace of god go I. Words absolutely fail. Unimaginable, incomprehensible. Portside, if Andy and I can do anything, please just let us know.
  15. Eddienhp

    There are worse things than death

    😢😢😢
  16. Wife of Tomasz

    There are worse things than death

    so much pain... no words
  17. It has been quiet here. I'm still bumbling along with work, family and NG. My mother and I celebrated Easter with church service in the morning, and NG joined us for brunch later. Spring has been a little bit of a strange transition, my son started work in a city far away and although I'm happy for him it was sad to see him go. My daughter will be home from college soon for summer break, she's fretting about choosing a major and nothing is resonating with her about making a decision on this. I think that all of us have a God given purpose. Something that makes us unique, something that we're good at and that we're happy doing. What is this for you, tybec? My method lately of dealing with a purpose is to fill my days with work and volunteering. It fills me up to give to others, and I sometimes give until it hurts. I'm also project driven, make lists and check things off. If I still need more motivation, the list gets longer and more complicated and I get more obsessive about checking things off. This works some of the time to make me feel better, but I don't think that any of this is really healthy. The days are filled with busy work to stay distracted and occupied. Lately I've had some pajama days - haven't had one for awhile and it surprised me that 5+ years out and lately I had a few days when not much got done other than taking care of the dog's basic needs. I don't know whether it's the transition of spring, kids becoming more independent, aging parents, maybe a combination of all of this. NG and I are doing well, I'm happy being with him but he doesn't give me purpose. I don't know, maybe purpose comes from within us. This too will pass, as you say, tybec. It always does.
  18. Everything is going well here with NG. It’s all a matter of making the time for one another since we have our own homes and our own kids to raise. I’m working on creating more instances for his kids to come over to my house with him and have fun and positive experiences. I know we’ve started to make loose plans where we’d like to travel and do things together but it’s matter of logistics, mostly related to his own logistics with his kids and his equal custody. The relationship is progressing at a comfortable rate.
  19. trying2breathe

    There are worse things than death

    What a horrific loss, so very sorry to hear this.
  20. donswife

    There are worse things than death

    How horrible. Not sure what else to say I hope she has people around her to help if they can
  21. laurie27

    There are worse things than death

    What a terrible tragedy. I cannot even imagine.
  22. Quiet for a while. Made it through another holiday. It was okay. The changes from my LH's death and family gatherings are still hard to swallow. Making new ones, slowly. Summer break is 5 weeks away. Hard to believe how fast time flies. As they say, the days are long, the years are short. NG and I continue to have things to work through. Nothing that is a deal breaker, but so much to think about. Over two months since court. I think the judge is waiting for summer break when NG gets his children 50/50 anyway. My guess, which is all it is. Can't pretend to understand it. I get all twisted up at times. I feel no purpose or motivation for goals. Where do I see myself? What do I want in life? Just one day at a time, which is unsettling to me. I want to have things to look forward to, plans but since an untimely death of LH, I lost that. Anyone else? I do focus on getting my kid raised, but that is more about the idea of then he will be okay if something happens to me. Not real positive. I don't know. It will pass, this feeling. Always does.
  23. Julester3

    There are worse things than death

    This tragedy is terrible. My thoughts go to the family.
  24. Wheelerswife

    There are worse things than death

    I don’t even know what to say.
  25. Mizpah

    There are worse things than death

    This is horrific. To say I'm sorry to hear this seems so small and stupid in the face of something so nightmarish and unbearable, as to be almost offensive. Devastated for her.
  26. Love2fish

    There are worse things than death

    Thank you for posting this Mike, It hit me like a slap on the face. My problems are petty when held against such a horrible tragedy.
  27. Leadfeather

    There are worse things than death

    I have no words.
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