Thank you to whoever revived this site! I'm not on FB so I've lost touch, but everyone's updates bring me right back.
I'm 13 years out, coming up on 14. I have a son working on his PhD and another is a sophomore in college. They are amazing. I feel they miss their dad even more now, or at least in a more meaningful way. They could really use his guidance, his wisdom, his experience.... We are at peace with losing DH, but it will never be okay.
I started a business a couple years ago which takes a great deal of time and effort. My kids were so young when DH got sick, they never knew me as ambitious. I think I actually made them proud.
My BF of 6 years just moved in. It's good. Different, but good.
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