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Just a woman trying to raise her 2 daughters and help them retain the good memories of their father. 

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  • Date Widowed
    04/04/2016
  • Name of Spouse
    Josh
  • Date Widowed
    April 7, 2016
  • Cause of death
    Heart attack
  • Spouse's Age
    40


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  1. Yeah I’m sentimental too. I’d probably take a photo and make an artful framed diorama commemorating it. It’s easier to carry a framed photo of it than actually keeping it.
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    12yearsBirthday/Suicide/Sports

    Hugs! You have a full load and the exhaustion creates that opportunity for that void to hijack you.
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    I got my son to 16!

    It’s not too bad. My daughter just turned 16 and she often asks me if we can practice. Here, we need 50 hours of practice and you have to have your permit for at least 9 months before you can get your license. I had her drive me to scrapbook stores farther away for practice. My recommendation is to be sure both of you are well rested and having a good day. It helps patience for you and nerves for your teen. Good luck!
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    MIL goes off

    Some mothers cannot let go. I can’t even talk to MIL without getting attacked in that special, nice passive aggressive way on my shortcomings. I no longer talk to her or call her. If something needs to be said, it will be an email. IMO, the more these types of moms have time to think on it, the more they come up with a theory of what ifs and what could have been and need to justify the failure of the situation (losing their son). Hope this doesn’t continue for you.
  5. Hugs Alma. Thank you for sharing your story.
  6. Grief ebbs and flows. I am at 3.5 years out and that is what I have learned mainly. I let the crying come because to bottle it up just makes it harder to bounce back. Hugs! Beautiful quilt!
  7. That is a beautiful tattoo. Thank you for sharing. I got one too but not as big to remind me of my husband. It helped me stay focused in the now and realize that his passing was indeed real and not imagined.
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    Ok now what

    My kids were the ones to push me to meet someone. They didn’t like the idea of me being alone. They were 13 & 17 when I started dating so our conversations centered on the guys I met and what issues I had with them. With NG, we waited 10 months before we all had dinner together with his kids. Now,we have occasional dinners and gatherings as our schedule allows. We’ve been together over a year and a half. I’m honest and I answer any questions the kids have. This relationship is for me, not for my kids. They had a father and they aren’t looking to replace him. They just want to see me happy. You might want to see if someone with younger kids can chime in with their POV. But considering the age of your kids and how they might react, I wouldn’t mention it unless they were questioning your absence and if you were getting serious. No need to hurt anyone’s feelings or sensitivity or get anyone’s hope up.
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    Labor Day 2019

    Hugs Maureen! It’s a bittersweet memory time for you. Today, I’m trying to keep a happy face. My youngest is turning 16 tomorrow and I’m having a gathering for her at our house. I know milestones tend to affect her so I’m trying to play to the positives and use distractive methods. Her birthday is always close to Labor Day as well as our wedding anniversary. I’ll probably go to the cemetery the morning of the day with some coffee and sit with him a bit. Labor Day is just not a day off, it seems...
  10. I’ve done all of these things after becoming a widow. I went to a wedding alone. I went to a few different wakes, funerals, and services to family friends. I had my hysterectomy as well though I had my sister to help me. I would say you could get through these things just fine but the moment you get a moment to breathe, those emotions can sabotage you and just hit you. I tended to be okay at these things because I could empathize or relate but later memories would trigger and it would just hit me and the sadness comes. I would work with the emotions to release them and feel better afterwards. Hugs for you today. These feelings don’t make you weak. They make you stronger.
  11. Hugs Alma! One minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time. We are here for you when you are ready.
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    widowed 3rd may 2019

    It varies for everyone. I honestly needed to be busy. I gave myself 3 weeks to go back to work. I had many a day where I had to shut the door and cry and that lasted nearly an entire year but being busy helped me gain some normalcy.
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    Graduations..... These kids keep growing up!

    Do you guys have a community college or tech school nearby to see if it’s something she’ll try for the time being?

About Julester3

Just a woman trying to raise her 2 daughters and help them retain the good memories of their father. 

Personal Information

  • Date Widowed
    04/04/2016
  • Name of Spouse
    Josh
  • Date Widowed
    April 7, 2016
  • Cause of death
    Heart attack
  • Spouse's Age
    40


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