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  • Date Widowed
    05/25/2016
  • Name of Spouse
    Kirk
  • Date Widowed
    5/25/2016
  • Cause of death
    Bradycardia then he coded.
  • Spouse's Age
    63


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  1. You expect to outlive your parents. You don't expect to outlive your spouse, your life partner. EVERYTHING changes with the death of a spouse who is your soulmate. NOTHING is ever the same again With the death of a parent, no matter how close you wete, changes some things but definitelynot everything. I was not in the least bit surprised by the vastly different reactions you express Hugs to you
  2. beth_krkswidow

    Cancer and my husband’s pajamas

    Sending hugs. SO sorry. Glad you have his pjs for comfort.
  3. beth_krkswidow

    When to Tell

    Well, since I met the guy I'm dating at my Widow/er Grief Group... there was no need to tell i was widowed. He'd heard my story countless times. And oddly, I can't say when I decided to start dating because it just happened. I had turned down many dates. I was NOT interested in dating. There were several people in my grief group who helped me with work on my property. My hubby had done everything so I was pretty helpless. After one time when this guy was helping me, we were watching a movie. He put his arm around me and kissed me.. and we are still dating. That was over a year out. And I still tell him that if he'd ASKED me out, I'd have said no.
  4. beth_krkswidow

    Tell us about your non-human babies

    Cae, I often wonder the same thing. My 2 dogs mourned for 2 weeks. One wouldn't eat. And the other one ate but just laid around all the time, not like his normal boisterous impish self. At 2.5 years I wonder if they wonder why he never came home. I took them to the cemetery last week and kept telling them this is where Daddy is. They did not understand. I just wonder what they think. I had always said if I died I wanted them yo see my dead body so they wouldn't think I abandoned them. But he died at the hospital so it was not available .
  5. Hugs. Just hugs You sound like me. My husband did EVERYTHING. All the shopping , laundry, bills,etc. I worked but at home he spoiled me rotten. But you are ahead of where I was at 3 months. For the first year I actively wanted to be dead. We do survive Kicking and screaming sometimes. So p sorry for the abuse you were subjected to at your most vulnerable point Hugs to you
  6. At two and a half years, I still wear mine where he put them. I slso wear his around my neck. I am dating someone and he does not mind at all. In fact, for a surgery, they had to remove them (I couldn't get them off. Fortunately they were able to get them off without cutting them. I cried when they got them off and the guy I'm dating hugged me while I cried then held them for me during my surgery. I plan ,maybe someday having a ring made of his snd mine. But I'm not ready yet to take them off. He is still my husbsnd
  7. beth_krkswidow

    Nobody gets it

    Shayla, I am at 2.5 years, am doing so very much better. If anyone had told me where I'd be now I wouldn't have believed them. However, his jeans still hang in the bathroom that he was going to wear the next day, his pictures are still everywhere, etc. They usually make me smile not cry these days.. but when I do cry, it's good not bad. You keep his pillow forever if ylou want. NO one has the authority to dictate that except you Four months is the rawest of grief time. No one understands that. They think 4 months is a long time. It's a nanosecond. H u gs
  8. beth_krkswidow

    Nobody gets it

    Amen to all the above comments. As Dr. Alan Wolfelt, a grief expert [if you ever get the chance to hear him speak, DO IT] says, Some of what people say is harmful but mostly what theybsay is "True... BUT NOT HELPFUL!" He's no longer in pain...true..,NOT HELPFUL You have the rest of your lufe,,,True..,NOT HELPFUL etc.etc They are clueless DGI's and I wanted to punch them in the throat
  9. beth_krkswidow

    New Relationships....Post a Pic

    Congratulations, Rob - Wonderful!
  10. beth_krkswidow

    Update and photo

    Amen! Congratulations and warm hugs
  11. beth_krkswidow

    Back to ground zero

    So sorry, TooSoon, that you are having to deal with this where you are having to deal with it. Sending hugs your way
  12. So sorry you had to join our ranks. You will be in this fog for quite some time. It's called widow brain and it's real. Look it up. You'll realize it's normal --as normal as is possible in this hell. One day at a time, one hour at a time, sometimes one nanosecond at a time. Gentle hugs
  13. beth_krkswidow

    Committed But Not Married (Long)

    SamNE, My thoughts. This sucks since you do indeed wish to marry. As to your questions..... your life your choice! Call each other by whatever name you want. And yes, your friends and family would be thrilled and honored to attend whatever ceremony or occasion you choose. If they do not even wish to attend, they do not belong among your nearest and dearest. Being able to attend is different from wishing to attend of course. Best of wishes to you

Personal Information

  • Date Widowed
    05/25/2016
  • Name of Spouse
    Kirk
  • Date Widowed
    5/25/2016
  • Cause of death
    Bradycardia then he coded.
  • Spouse's Age
    63


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