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  1. So what town are we specifically talking about so I can look into costs to get there?
  2. Well dang, just saw this. Hope you had a good time. Maybe next time!
  3. Good luck with that Sugarbell! No real advice because I've never dealt with that but I hope it all works out. I'm guessing that knowing her isn't a good thing. Just let him deal with her, you stay out of it. Again, good luck!
  4. I most certainly can relate. I am a widowed mom to 4 boys who were 5, 7, 15 & 18 when their father died 7 years ago. I have not remarried. I've dated off and on a fellow widower but as much as I wanted it to somehow, some way work, it didn't. Long story short, my boys have gone 7 years without a father figure in their lives. Making matters worse, my oldest son, a 25 year old with a good heart has been in and out of trouble because he tends to make foolish choices. My now 22 year old on the other hand has done very well and should graduate from college next year. So oldest son has not been there for his younger brothers but 22 year old son, when he isn't at college, has. Neither though has really done the things with their younger brothers that their father did with them. It hurts how much my two younger sons, now 12 & 14, have missed not having their dad or a father figure in their life. But somehow we are making it, day by day. They do need their dad. I wish there were someone in their lives to give them the experiences that Rick would have, but there isn't. I don't guess I'm sounding very up beat am I? The previous poster is right though, jumping into a relationship in order to provide a father figure can really not work out well. I've know other widows who have done very well getting their sons involved in scouts and sports. I haven't for a variety of reasons I won't take the time to go into. It just didn't work out for us. I have found all the people who said they would be there to step in and be that male figure usually aren't. However, there are a lot of women out there raising sons just fine on their own and you can too. You have more strength and abilities than you know. Right now you are in shock but eventually you will find your way. Have faith in yourself. You will do just fine.
  5. There is a fairly large group of us in the NY, NJ, PA, MD area that get together from time to time. We will be sure to post here the next time we get together. We often get together for a Sunday Brunch in NJ, near NY. I'll put out some feelers and see if we can get something together.
  6. I want it all too. Seven years and I don't see it happening anytime soon. Someone else and I tried and it didn't work out. I've learned from it though that I don't want FWB and I don't want part time so I'm willing to wait for the real thing. I guess it will happen if it's supposed to and if not, I'm fine with that too. I'm not willing to settle. My heart has a lot of love to give and waiting for someone willing to give as much as I am is worth the wait. It will be awesome when it happens. Tybec, it sounds like he is on the same wave length, since he talks about a future. I would let it go a bit longer but maybe just talk with him about what kind of future he sees, just in the normal course of talking. If he is looking for a future with you, I wouldn't rush it. Both of you need to be on the same page with neither trying to push the other into something faster than they are ready. Good luck Tybec!
  7. I didn't read all the replies but when your oldest graduates high school or turns 18, whichever comes later, his will stop and the other two will increase. There is a family maximum. This is from the SS website about how it is calculated. Within a family, a child can receive up to half of the parent’s full retirement or disability benefit. If a child receives survivors benefits, they can get up to 75 percent of the deceased parent’s basic Social Security benefit. There is a limit, however, to the amount of money that we can pay to a family. The family maximum payment is determined as part of every Social Security benefit computation. It can be from 150 to 180 percent of the parent’s full benefit amount. If the total amount payable to all family members exceeds this limit, we reduce each person’s benefit proportionately (except the parent’s) until the total equals the maximum allowable amount.
  8. I'm sorry for the loss of your relationship Mikeeh. Loss is always hard. Go ahead, cry and mourn this loss and just like any other, you will find your way back from it. ((((hugs))))
  9. I've never had them audit me. I hope I never do. I wonder if income plays a role in who gets audited?
  10. Bluebell thank you for your response. It brought tears.
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