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  • Date Widowed
  • Cause of death
    Esophageal Cancer

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  1. hachi

    FEB. 14 - Came and went

    Same old Valentines day for me, never cared alot about it. DH wasn't much in the Hallmark holiday department, so I never had great expectations of the day. My birthday is the day before so that made it a little worse. This year NG had knee surgery on the 12th so I was prepared for both days to be even more mediocre than ever, but NG suprised me by getting me a card and a gift ahead of time! Then we watched Lady and the Tramp! OK, sounds lame as I write it, but it was cute and fun and a nice way to spend my birthday.
  2. hachi

    Widowed Jan 16, 2019.

    powbesh, 7 lbs for a small person is alot. That being said, this will probably not continue. Loss of apetite is totally normal, but your body will not put up with it for long. It is early days for you, and you are drowning in wave after wave and struggling for a breath right now. The best thing to do is to not panic, and just try to save your strength so you can breath when you get the chance. Listen to your body, and try not to be so hard on yourself. Drink water. Not alcohol. When you have the energy to get clean, take a bath. If you can eat, eat. If you can't, and you feel weak, drink some supplemental type drinks. If your feelings change from apathy to active thoughts of hurting yourself, please seek help. Otherwise, these feelings are normal. It may be some time before you actually enjoy a meal. But you will. I promise.
  3. hachi

    Sobbed on new girl

    Gracelet! I was just thinking of you the other day, and wondering how you were doing. I missed hearing about your adventures. So happy for you, YES, this is a really big deal!
  4. hachi

    Sad Loss Of WifeLess

    Another Unique and Devastating Loss, indeed... My heart goes out to you Bluebird, and to all who loved this man.
  5. hachi

    Widowed Jan 16, 2019.

    Powbesh, going out of the house is very difficult. It does seem like going through the motions of a living person, but YOU ARE a living person. There is a huge difference between not caring whether you wake up or not in the morning, and actively taking steps NOT to wake up. I know for a very long time (or so it seemed then) that I could have happily died in my sleep and been okay with that. I am not sure that what you are talking about is the same thing, and I agree with tybec. Please get help with the medications. There are certainly things that can take the edge off, but you should be under the care of a professional for them. Peace, Marie
  6. Well, I am sorry to say that my week is not going the way I had planned it. I am flying out really early on Sunday to see my88 yr old dad. Was hoping to squeeze in this much needed bago, but I now have to go to TX for work from FL so I won't be home for a week and my refridgerator just $h1t the bed so my day tomorrow is a little complicated now.... sigh... 3rd world problems, I know. So sorry I wont be there in person to hug you all. I'll be there in spirit. XO Marie
  7. My screen name is Hachi, after the dog in Japan who waited at the train station for his owner for the rest of his life. My dog Nico still looks for my DH in the woods up north and gets confused when his brother come by. I think they must have similar scent. He only does it if he hasn't been around for a while. If I see him more often, he knows its not him. I personally don't think they forget.
  8. I am going to try to come, but I have a very early flight in the AM so may not be possible, I will let you know as we get closer. Thanks for doing this Maureen!
  9. Where do I begin? Thank you Loves2fish for opening your home to the widda invasion. Your NG is lovely and we felt most welcome. Thank you to MrDrew for letting me boss you around in the kitchen. Thank you Captain'swife for the "secret ingredient" and to Maureen for continuing to be one of the most genuinely kind people I have ever met. It was great to see you all and a special pleasure to get to spend time with each of you individually over different times in the weekend. Something you don't always get to do in a large afternoon or evening gathering. This was really special. Nice to meet some new faces, and missed some of the regulars... you know who you are!
  10. hachi

    Facing another loss

    Thinking of Nonesuch today with the Maine Bago coming up. Don't know if she checks in anymore, but maybe the post will notify her? Maybe not because she comes up as guest.
  11. All sounds great! Really looking foward to this. Hope to come up after work on friday. Like Maureen I am expecting traffic so probably not til 7 or so... I will find you where ever you are! LOL
  12. Might be a possibility for me to head up there for a little while on Friday night.
  13. hachi

    Calendar Of The Heart

    Yes, I know this feeling. Sigh... Sometimes I am thankful I can still feel this. It reminds me that it was real, that it happened to me. It wasn't a dream. He was here. And then he wasn't. I hope the days are gentle on you, and that the memories will bring the occasional smile that no one else will understand.
  14. In my opinion, DGI is not necessarily a slur. Most people who "don't get it" are not shut down in the way you say. Most of us don't exclaim "you just don't get it!" and stop talking. Even in the OP's post, when he didn't get it, she explained. And her post was entitled "rant". In the spirit of helping you with your reflection, I would gently advise you to consider the context before you "lose your shit" and accuse someone of taking the "the lazy way". Hope you got your snickers bar, you did sound a little cranky!
  15. I would be willing to do a Boston or Manchester airport run. I am 45 minutes from Boston and 30 from Manchester. Don't be shy, make your needs known. People are driving in from lots of areas, so we can make it all happen! There is also a convenient little airport in Worcester MA with direct Jet Blue flights from Orlando.

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