Abby78

Now a days I can actually fall asleep easier at night. The only problem is I get up feeling horrible in the middle of the night. Sometimes I feel paralyzed with dread. Same thing happens when I wake up every morning. Anyone have ideas on how to calm down or work through these really bad times?

It was a support group. Didn't go well. 4 other people that lost family members years ago. They seemed to all still be very miserable. It keep kind of depressed me more.

It's been 7 weeks since my husband passed away. He was 41 and it was a sudden heart attack too. The loneliness is hard and thinking about being lonely in the future is even harder. I have faith that these strong feelings of grief and loneliness will get easier with time. I can't imagine it feeling like this forever. Today I'm going to group grief counciling. Maybe you can give that a try. I'm thinking that talking with people that are going through the same thing will help calm the strong feeling of loneliness I have. My sisters and inlaws try to help but I still can't get rid of this empty lonely feeling. Wish I could've found a young widows group to meet near me but so far no luck. I hope you find some peace soon.

So it's been getting harder sometimes but easier sometimes too if that makes sense. Last night I just felt really good for a couple of hours. I had no idea why but I knew it wouldn't last. I was up last night at 3 am panicked sick and sad. I need something to help me get through this intense grief. I can barely function. My daughters are becoming very aware that their mom is severely depressed and I hate it. So this morning I searched bereavement groups near me and I found a couple. Hopefully I'll be at one at 7 pm today. I'm nervous about who will be there, what we will talk about, if it'll even be easy communicate with people I just met, and a lot of other stuff. Just wondering if anyone one else tried a group counciling like this. How was it?

Thank you so much for this feedback. It really does help. I'm so sorry that all of you had to endure such a big loss too. so glad I found this forum.

Thank you for all your reassurance. I just needed to know with time it will get better. If I ever got down in the past I would shrug it off and know that I would feel better any moment. Ever since my dh passed away I feel like I can't get away from the grief and sadness for even one second. Sometimes when I try to be cheery in front of the girls my voice will crack because I can't take it. I fear that my grief and sadness will even get worse as impossible as that seems. I'm thankful that I can come on here and have an idea I've what I'm in for. Thank you

Hi my name is Abby. My dh passed away suddenly and unexpectedly on May 31st. He was 41. He had a heart attack ( no prior health issues). On May 27th we just got the key to our new home. The day he died we were picking out paint colors for the new house. I lost my mom when I was 8 and my dad 6 years ago when I was 33. I thought I was an expert at grief and being strong. I loved my parents dearly but the pain I feel after my husbands death is unimaginable. I feel empty, sick, anxious, alone, and so much worse 24/7. I have an 11 and 12 year old daughters. They are okay now but I suspect its because we have not stayed home on our own yet and faced our real new life. They are constantly surrounded by family and given extra attention. Now I'm trying to move in the new house and I feel sick, guilty, lonely, and so sad. I can barely stand up but somehow I manage to get things done. We had a family business that I have to continue running on my own. So far I'm doing horrible at that. Can't stand being there for more than an hour. I'm scared of the future and I'm scared of failing my daughters. I've always worried about my daughters being unhappy. Please be honest and let me know if it does get better. And not in the future I if I start dating. I don't ever plan to. I want to find some new happiness with just me and my girls and the family that surrounds us. Is it possible?