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Thank you so much. I hope you have been doing well. 🤗

Hello everyone! It has been almost 4 years since I started this thread. It is unreal how the time has gone by... It started as a simple frustration, let out as a vent. It evolved with the addition of funny and crazy dating stories. It also became a valuable source of information on online dating and warning signs to be careful of. It also gave me a wonderful new friendship through commiseration. I know when I started online dating, I had NO clue what it was like, and I was quite naive about scammers, ghosters, and liars. After my crazy scenarios (I have actually made notes for a potential book), I wanted to teach others through my experiences. So where has online dating taken me lately? I became pickier over the years. I didn't talk or meet with just anyone, so I had very few meets and greets. I took it less seriously and kept it more on the back burner instead of having it consume my whole life. I took complete breaks from it from time to time as well. (I even dated a widower for a few months last year, but he wasn't healed enough to be in a relationship, even though he was further out than I was). In early February I was rarely online, and only really browsing here and there on Bumble and Tinder. I had long deleted everything else. One day I thought to just see what that day might offer up on Bumble. Only one week earlier, a certain gentleman had watched The Book Club and learned about Bumble for the first time. He decided to see what that was all about. We matched. Being in the mode of thinking nothing would probably come of it, I made the most minimal contact (women have to initiate after a match on Bumble), and just said "Hello XXXX". He replied with a fabulous message about a pic in my profile. He also asked about my online dating experiences, and I told him about my book! 🤣 He replied that he would love to read it when it was done and he thought the last line should read..."And then I met XXXX, but that is a story for another book..." It's been a little over three months, and it has been the easiest relationship I have ever had, maybe even easier than with my husband. Who knows what will happen going forward, but we are simply enjoying each other right now. The silly coincidence? He is a pilot, and I am a widow. If you have seen The Book Club, you will see why this is quite amusing! 😁

I'm so very sorry to hear this. I have not been on this site in quite some time. I remember your love story and beautiful wedding photo. Sending you hugs and strength...

Thank you @SunshineFL! ❤ That first post seems like ancient history, and yet at the same time, still rings true today. The information in this thread is what I wish I knew in the early days of dating. I hope it helps those new to the post wid dating scene. If it only offers some smiles on the otherwise sad moments on our paths, then that is great thing as well! I haven't been here in a while. I haven't felt I've had too much to share. I have not actively on line dated in quite some time. I've taken a new, more laid back approach to dating. I've recently met and enjoying time with a local widower. I'm not over thinking and I'm enjoying being spoiled! Who knows what will happen. I'm Ok not knowing right now. 😁 I hope everyone is well! ❤

You betcha Trying!

For me, handholding comes quickly, if I feel a connection with someone. I am a touchy feely person though. And rules? No clue! I go with what feels right in each give situation.

"I met my best friend in this group. A woman who is my umbrella when it rains over me, who shares her heart with no strings." Me as well! 💜🤗

Christopher, you did nothing wrong and nothing out of context for this thread. I'm sorry.

I haven't been on these boards for a while. Taking a break for a bit. I guess maybe it was a good thing. I have to say, I'm really disappointed at this last exchange. Jen said nothing inappropriate for this thread, in any way, shape, or form. If you feel the need to pass judgement, try and resist and scroll on by. I would hope no one will ever be this judgemental on anything you may post.

Lots! I got to see fireworks off the CN Tower and off of City Hall. Fun night!

Happy Canada Day BH2! I hope you had a super weekend! We had lots of fun here! 😊

I'm not actively on line dating right now. Last night I was at a birthday party and I met a nice lady who is on line dating. She told me the most bizarre story. She was chatting with someone last week and set up a meet and greet. She was stood up. This week another man, stood her up but this time, he texted her as she was in her car about to leave the meeting place. He saId, "Looking for me? I did it to you again, and I bet I will fool you again!" It was a different profile, picture, and name. What a scum! His game is intentionally standing up women for the thrill and multiple times? What is this world coming to? She had not spoken to him, either time on the phone though. Lesson learned for her.

https://youtu.be/QvWjfjord18LeU1g 😁 Sometimes you just have to laugh! I I really am good right now, but I had to share this! Not PG!

I'm very sorry you had to find that Love2fish. I can imagine how hard that was. Very painful to relive that again. Just be grateful there were not hundreds/thousands of strangers reading it on social media.

I'm not sure I will ever laugh about it. There is not much humour when someone posts things about you, without your knowledge or permision. Some very private, some disregarding past feelings. Granted, I'm sure he thought I would never see them....but....surprise!