Thanks for all your replies.
Yeah, in olden days if I was at a disco or in a club and weirdo came up would just say ‘ in your dreams mate!’. Somehow online, when sat in own living room on iPad, feels like weirdo at your door. Disconcerting. Just wasn’t prepared for them all to come knocking.
Already changed profile, like you suggested.
I have read all other Wids experiences of online and thought that the issues I’d be facing would be just weird-widow-world ones; ‘am I ready’, ‘can I realistically imagine gazing at another mans face let alone touching another man’, ‘am I past it’, ‘what would it be like’, ‘will I want to run off home’, ‘what will we talk about’, ‘will he laugh at my jokes’ etc etc. Was not expecting to have to wade through the fringes of society before even got to any gut twisting crises of widow confidence if someone OK actually contacted me.
Nice frosty sunny morning here. Just back from walking dog over fields. New day. Dust myself off. Lower my expectations for ‘normals’ to contact me immediately. Be patient. Someone thought I was OK once, someone else will too. Its just when read all of your experiences seems to much more straighforward, than my bunch of freaks.