Redhed

Thank you so much for your replies. I know I need to find a way to be happy on my own but I just can’t seem to get there. I have days where I’m starting to feel better and then I come crashing down and feel so upset that he doesn’t love me anymore or maybe he never did. I have some amazing friends even though I have lost a lot of friends through the break up, but I don’t have any single friends, do it is difficult to arrange things as they are busy.

Hi I am new here. Now this may seem strange as I lost my husband 11 years ago. Forums like this one were my lifeline back then and I thought I would try to get some advice from you guys, maybe there are some other long term Widda’s on here. A year after my husband died I became friends with another widower who had children of a similar age to me. Our friendship developed quickly into more and we all moved in together. Now lots of people thought this was like a fairytale but we both had lots of baggage and children that had been through a lot as you can imagine. Things were never easy but we always worked through things and we were best friends as well as a couple. At the beginning of the year things got really bad and we were arguing a lot and the children were not getting on (all in their teens now). I wanted to get couples counselling but he didn’t and in the end he asked me to move out. We still got on ok at first and actually got back together for about a month but he ended things again. It has been 7 months since I moved out and I am still missing him so much and really want to get back together but he just seems so detached. Obviously this has brought up a lot of other emotions from the past and I probably didn’t have much time do deal with those at the time. I feel like I am right back there again and scared of being on my own. Feel that life is so unfair first I lose my husband who was the love of my life then I lose my partner. Just not dealing with any of this very well. Xxx