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  • Date Widowed
    12/29/2018
  • Cause of death
    Pneumonia
  • Spouse's Age
    39


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  1. Widower40

    On line dating vents and laughs......

    For some reason, I am only able to relate or connect with women a little older than me online. I'm 40 and I am currently chatting well with a 42, 44 and 46 year old. All have children, 2 separated one windowed. I found many of the women less than 40 want children of their own and want someone that is 6 feet plus 😀. I'm only 5'8" lol
  2. Widower40

    Went on first coffee date

    We have been texting on and off for a weeks. Yesterday, she suggested we meet up for a drink. Hopefully I can schedule something in the next couple weeks. There were a couple other women I met online and planning on meeting up for a coffee...the hardest part is finding any time.
  3. Widower40

    Widowed on Dec 29, 2018

    Last week was hard. I was away from home for a few days and of course Mother's Day was really hard. I'm glad though this week is better.
  4. Widower40

    FWB

    Good perspective. We only became close after my wife's passing. Before that we would meet only a few times a year.
  5. Widower40

    FWB

    I agree. We both talked about it..but I think it is good to always talk through it.
  6. Widower40

    Widowed on Dec 29, 2018

    Yesterday was 4 months. I didn't feel as sad as I thought I would. I actually felt good for most of the day and cried a couple of times after I cleaned up my table and saw the receipt for the medication we bought just before she died. Definitely more optimistic than I was two months ago
  7. Widower40

    FWB

    So my wife's best friend has been helping me go through the grieving process. She always checks in to see how I am doing and we see each other every week or two. Over the past few weeks we have been getting more intimate. We haven't had sex yet, but may go there soon. I'm not looking for a relationship now, more just some fun. We both seem to be ok with it. Anyone else gone through this? I don't plan on getting into any serious relationship for a while.
  8. Widower40

    Trying to make sense of dating again...

    Right now not looking for a relationship but more something casual or FWB. I'm about 3.5 months out and miss the company and physical connection.
  9. Widower40

    Went on first coffee date

    I had my first date with someone new today. (I'm just over 3 months out). We met for coffee and had a good conversation. Still just getting out there and not ready for anything serious. We both texted after that we wanted to meet again. Taking it a step at a time with no expectations.
  10. Widower40

    It's been 10 days

    Sorry for your loss. Sounds like you have a supportive family. That made a huge difference for me. I lost my wife 3 months ago. First month was shock ,, second and third I felt it really hard. In the last couple weeks I've been feeling better and more optimistic about the future. The kids are doing a bit better as well. Take it moment by moment.
  11. Widower40

    How to handle triggers?

    Yes, after the 1 month mark it got worse for me. The worst was 2 months out. I feel better now and more optimistic. I cry about 3 times a day, at the worst it would be 15 or more...many times at work. Keep a positive outlook, it gets better.
  12. I find that some parts of the day I can't control how I cry. Other times I feel happy and optimistic for life. By nature I have always been a realistic optimist. At work I develop 3-5 year strategic plans, so looking forward is always something I will do. I sometimes force triggers... watching a video of her or looking at pictures of her or listen to certain songs. Those invariably make cry right now. Should I continue to force triggers or should I let grief come to me?
  13. Widower40

    Widowed on Dec 29, 2018

    Anyone else go back and forward between grieving and then thinking about how will I build my life again for the future? How can I make my kids happy? Will I be happy? Will I ever be in another happy marriage?
  14. Widower40

    Widowed on Dec 29, 2018

    Today it is exactly 8 weeks since it happened. I cried more today than any day prior.

Personal Information

  • Date Widowed
    12/29/2018
  • Cause of death
    Pneumonia
  • Spouse's Age
    39


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