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  • Date Widowed
    12/29/2009
  • Name of Spouse
    Kathy
  • Date Widowed
    12-30-2009
  • Cause of death
    Stroke
  • Spouse's Age
    40
  • Website


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  1. Lewis

    widda.org website

    Thanks for asking Christine. If you want to send via PayPal, you can send to my account at admin@widda.org. Let me know if you still have problems.
  2. Lewis

    widda.org website

    Hello Everyone, Widda.org has been online for several years now and I am amazed at how many people have been helped through this website! It has been a couple of years since I have mentioned about donating to Widda.org to help keep the site free. At that time many people donated enough to give the website a nice upgrade and to help pay the hosting fees that lasted until now. If you desire to help pay the fees to keep the site free, now would be a good time to donate. I currently pay the bill monthly, but can get a better pricing if I pay in longer time frames. Any amount you donate is appreciated and will go toward the Widda.org website hosting and maintenance fees. Thank you for your support! If you choose to donate, you can donate here: DONATE Thank you for your help!! Lewis
  3. Lewis

    Is there a members list?

    You can see the Members List by going to Activity > Search at the top menu, then select the 'Member Search' tab. If you leave the search field empty you will get a list of all users. Otherwise enter a Search Term and click the 'Search Members' button located below the search fields.
  4. Lewis

    What to do? Need career advice.

    I vote to go back to school and get a job you like. Good luck!
  5. Lewis

    Triggers in public

    Drafter, I remember so many times while driving, having to pull over because I could not see through the tears. I was glad to be alone at those moments so I could just let it out. I still have thoughts of her that run through my mind daily. I am doubtful that will ever go away... BrokenHeart2, the YWBB was definitely a lifesaver. Getting connected to widdabagos and meeting my widda friends was the medicine that I needed. I miss them even now ❤️
  6. Lewis

    Triggers in public

    Thinking back to those early days, I remember getting smacked by triggers while out in public. It was embarrassing to burst into tears in front of people and it happened more often than I care to remember. Living in a small town with a population of 1500 people, going to the grocery store was always scary. The question was not, “Would I see someone I knew?” But rather, “Who was I going to see this time?” My first encounter was about a week after Kathy died. I had made my purchase and was exiting the store when a familiar couple caught me at the door. All it took was for one of them to ask me how I was doing and the massive avalanche of tears began the uncontrollable tumble down my face. They did not know what to do and just scrambled along leaving me there with the tears flowing. I felt bad for them, me and the strangers that witnessed my meltdown. That was just the beginning of many awkward moments to come. Looking back, there were many people who had openly offered me help. It was almost always in the form of “just call if there is anything I can do” that seemed sincere but very noncommittal. The offers seemed generic at the time and I had no idea what help I needed. And as for shopping, I was physically able to go, but emotionally I was dead and buried with my late wife. In this case, I needed emotional help in the form of grocery shopping. Regardless the offers, I definitely did not have the mental energy to call anyone for help. All I could think was that we needed supplies and wondered how fast could I get in and out of the store before I had another embarrassing meltdown. I am happy to say that I survived the grocery store. I may have filled a few mop buckets with tears during those early visits, but I survived. Each visit made the next easier and before long the grocery store was not so scary. I hope that as you navigate through those early days, you find ways to ease the pain of public triggers. Do not forget those offers to help you. They can become quite helpful in your healing.
  7. Lewis

    Does anyone speak Mandarin?

    Not me. Sometimes I wonder if I even know English, doh! 😂
  8. Lewis

    Widowbago Forum

    I have opened the bago forum to public view. Thanks for all your input!
  9. Lewis

    The new website is up and running!

    There is an edit option. You should see the EDIT link under your post. You have 30 minutes to edit it.
  10. Lewis

    The new website is up and running!

    I was able to extend the time to edit your posts to 30 minutes. Hope that helps!
  11. Lewis

    The new website is up and running!

    I'll check the settings.
  12. Lewis

    The new website is up and running!

    I agree Jeudi. This platform is much more advanced than the previous setup. I am impressed more as I see more of its options.
  13. Lewis

    New Widda website design coming

    Thanks for the reply Laura! I have been crazy busy and did not get a chance to check on this.

Personal Information

  • Date Widowed
    12/29/2009
  • Name of Spouse
    Kathy
  • Date Widowed
    12-30-2009
  • Cause of death
    Stroke
  • Spouse's Age
    40
  • Website


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1,463 profile views
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