Lewis

It has been 13 years for me. YWBB was a life saver at times for me which is why I keep Widda.org alive. Be sure to check out the old YWBB posts in the Clubs Directory. I hope things go well for you as you remember those rough days years ago.

Hi soloact! Be sure to check out the Old YWBB Website in the Clubs section. It is just viewable but all the old posts are there. -Lewis

Hi CJF, glad you found the site! Unfortunately there is not a lot going on here. With Facebook and other ways to communicate, the site does not have the traffic it once had. Not to mention that the site was down for about a year which really messed things up. Anyhow, I am glad you found the site and its valuable history of posts. Be sure to check out the former YWBB posts where you can view all the posts from the old site!

You can find the old YWBB under the Clubs link above to view these and all other posts on the old site.

Thanks for reposting that!

I wonder if it is on the old ywbb? I'll have to search the archives.

These are great! Thanks!

Hi Everyone, I will be leading a group of non-grieving people in a discussion about what we as grievers would like for them to know about grieving. I thought it would be good to open the topic in case you had thoughts that I could add to my discussion. These are people who care and want to help, but to not know what to do, say, or how to act around us. Do you have any thoughts to add to my discussion?

Congratulations!!!

It is true! Click the Clubs link in the menu above and join the club to gain access to view the YWBB posts.

Having a broken heart from the loss of my wife, I found that God used many people to help comfort my five young children and me. Family, friends and my local church came to our rescue many times as we were in a desperate mode of survival. There were even random strangers that offered kind words at times when we desperately needed encouragement. As I have many memories of love and encouragement that I received in my time of grief, I also remember times when I would get unwanted philosophies or vein attempts at easing the mood. I am convinced that each odd conversation was meant to comfort, but in reality made my emotional state worse. Some think that you have to say something to help the grieving, while others offer availability to do anything if the grieving just calls them. Neither of these responses is bad, they just do not necessarily help the grieving. A quickly spoken cliché may be like a dagger in the heart; and an option to call will likely pass as an empty offer that will never happen. Realizing that our culture does not know what to do with those in grief, I hope this forum offers comfort into the grieving mind from others in our same grief. Lewis

Thanks for asking Christine. If you want to send via PayPal, you can send to my account at admin@widda.org. Let me know if you still have problems.

Hello Everyone, Widda.org has been online for several years now and I am amazed at how many people have been helped through this website! It has been a couple of years since I have mentioned about donating to Widda.org to help keep the site free. At that time many people donated enough to give the website a nice upgrade and to help pay the hosting fees that lasted until now. If you desire to help pay the fees to keep the site free, now would be a good time to donate. I currently pay the bill monthly, but can get a better pricing if I pay in longer time frames. Any amount you donate is appreciated and will go toward the Widda.org website hosting and maintenance fees. Thank you for your support! If you choose to donate, you can donate here: DONATE Thank you for your help!! Lewis

So sorry (((hugs)))

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I vote to go back to school and get a job you like. Good luck!

Drafter, I remember so many times while driving, having to pull over because I could not see through the tears. I was glad to be alone at those moments so I could just let it out. I still have thoughts of her that run through my mind daily. I am doubtful that will ever go away... BrokenHeart2, the YWBB was definitely a lifesaver. Getting connected to widdabagos and meeting my widda friends was the medicine that I needed. I miss them even now ❤️

Thinking back to those early days, I remember getting smacked by triggers while out in public. It was embarrassing to burst into tears in front of people and it happened more often than I care to remember. Living in a small town with a population of 1500 people, going to the grocery store was always scary. The question was not, “Would I see someone I knew?” But rather, “Who was I going to see this time?” My first encounter was about a week after Kathy died. I had made my purchase and was exiting the store when a familiar couple caught me at the door. All it took was for one of them to ask me how I was doing and the massive avalanche of tears began the uncontrollable tumble down my face. They did not know what to do and just scrambled along leaving me there with the tears flowing. I felt bad for them, me and the strangers that witnessed my meltdown. That was just the beginning of many awkward moments to come. Looking back, there were many people who had openly offered me help. It was almost always in the form of “just call if there is anything I can do” that seemed sincere but very noncommittal. The offers seemed generic at the time and I had no idea what help I needed. And as for shopping, I was physically able to go, but emotionally I was dead and buried with my late wife. In this case, I needed emotional help in the form of grocery shopping. Regardless the offers, I definitely did not have the mental energy to call anyone for help. All I could think was that we needed supplies and wondered how fast could I get in and out of the store before I had another embarrassing meltdown. I am happy to say that I survived the grocery store. I may have filled a few mop buckets with tears during those early visits, but I survived. Each visit made the next easier and before long the grocery store was not so scary. I hope that as you navigate through those early days, you find ways to ease the pain of public triggers. Do not forget those offers to help you. They can become quite helpful in your healing.

Not me. Sometimes I wonder if I even know English, doh! 😂

I have opened the bago forum to public view. Thanks for all your input!

There is an edit option. You should see the EDIT link under your post. You have 30 minutes to edit it.

I was able to extend the time to edit your posts to 30 minutes. Hope that helps!

I'll check the settings.

I agree Jeudi. This platform is much more advanced than the previous setup. I am impressed more as I see more of its options.