Melissa brown

Hi, I am Melissa. I too am here often but rarely post. I lost my husband 13 months ago. He died from rectal cancer at the age of 41. We have 3 children 19, 17, and 14. This board has helped me tremendously. I am grateful for you all. Life is so strange now. And I pray for everyone's safety. I am a nurse and can tell you that this virus is no joke. Please be safe.

Hi. You are not alone. You are not alone. You are not alone. I tell this to myself every night when I cry myself to sleep. I am so sorry you are here but I am glad you joined us. My husband was 41. He died 10 months ago. We have three children. I and all of us understand your pain and grief. This forum has helped me alot. Please please feel free to reach out to any of us. Julester3 said is right. Day by day. Even hour by hour. Grief comes in waves. Hugs to you and your children.

One step at a time. I agree the smallest things seem so big when you do not have that person here to share it with. I feel your pain, and it sucks.

I am so sorry that you are here. Keep coming back. Im almost 10 months out and this forum has really helped me. Hugs.

Laurie27, that sounds like a great idea that you are having a gathering with your friends. You could easily avoid the holiday, I am impressed that you are making plans. It's my first holiday too and I personally just want it over with.

I like this My three things are 1. I worked my 12 hr shift at the hospital 2. I successfully cooked a meal that my kids ate. And ... 3. I only cried once. Come on guys...who is next???

Alma, thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry this happened. I lost my husband on March 21. He was also 41. He also had cancer. Not quite 6 months without him. We were married for 18 years. And we have 3 children. It's been tough. If you ever want to talk, let me know. Also, I love the tattoo.

Laurie, good job. Same color as my car. Proud of you.

People do not understand, but I have encountered good people with stories that are just as heartbreaking as ours. I am grateful for those stories because it makes me feel not so alone.

Hi Lauren, thanks for sharing your story. I am sorry you are in this position and to what happened to your husband. It sounds like you are doing a great job. It also sounds like you have a great relationship with your in laws. It sounds like a tough decision, but I say to ask them. Maybe allow more time with them and your daughter to be together. Not sure how far you live from them. But they sound like they love you and your daughter very much. Good luck. Not sure I helped much but I believe I would ask. Take care, Melissa

Peg, honestly I cry and spend alot of time at the cemetery on hard days. I also talk to people who are close to me. And I pick up the kids and we go do something. Sometimes it helps and sometimes it doesn't .. I also come here alot to look around and I usually find something that makes me feel better. Grieving sucks. I never ever thought it would hurt this much. Stay strong.

Hi peg, My husband passed from rectal cancer in march. He was 41. It's been four months and I feel worse now than I did in the beginning. I think I was in so much shock that I didnt feel the pain I do now. So i think you are normal in feeling this way. I am glad you found this forum. It has really helped me. I dont post alot but I come just about everyday to read. It comforts me knowing I'm not alone. Although, I wish none of us had to be here. Hugs. Melissa

I am sorry..for both your loss and your leg. Unfortunately I know nothing about the military benefits but hope you find some answers. Only advice I have is to take it one day at a time. Its only been 3 months for me so I'm still trying to navigate my new life.

Oh I feel like a mess. Not brave. I really hate this. For all of us..

What a great idea..congrats on all these accomplishments. I am 3 months out and the biggest thing I've done since losing my husband would be buying a new car by myself. My husband always handled these kinds of things, but this time it was just me and I even managed them to go down on the price.