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    Heart attack

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  1. This poem is stunning. Just wanted to share it. It is used in the Reform Jewish liturgy, as an optional reading, before Kaddish ”Every once in a while, a poem or song is so well constructed, so clearly conveys the authors meaning and is so precisely expressive that it becomes something of an anthem. The poem below, Epitaph, was written by Merrit Malloy and as one of those poems, has become a staple of funeral and memorial services…for good reason.” Epitaph - By Merrit Malloy When I die Give what’s left of me away To children And old men that wait to die. And if you need to cry, Cry for your brother Walking the street beside you. And when you need me, Put your arms Around anyone And give them What you need to give to me. I want to leave you something, Something better Than words Or sounds. Look for me In the people I’ve known Or loved, And if you cannot give me away, At least let me live on in your eyes And not your mind. You can love me most By letting Hands touch hands, By letting bodies touch bodies, And by letting go Of children That need to be free. Love doesn’t die, People do. So, when all that’s left of me Is love, Give me away.
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    Thanks WoT.....I felt better when I learned all was not lost. Shit he was probably swept out days later ha ha.... he’ll continue to travel with me as long as I’m able.
  3. Bubu27 as I was following the ambulance I was full of anxiety......at 12:48 I became peaceful and calm. I was about 10 minutes behind the ambulance because they told me I was not allowed to drive I had to wait for a ride... I didn’t. That is when he died. I had similar experiences with my grandparents. Days after he died I went on a tour of the house to familiarize myself with the house....you know water shut off, electrical box....furnace. Things he delt with. He was always worried about our oil tank. Wanted to replace it. My first tour I swear there was nothing on it, my second tour, magnets meant to stop a leak. The first several months I would literally wake up happy. Would roll over to talk to him.....then remember he wasn’t there. (We didn’t share a bed the last 3 years due to his illness) I know he spent those early morning hours with me. He just always seems to show me signs when I need them most. I’ve even felt hugs through the years.
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    Today would be 8 years for our second wedding. Notre Dame yesterday really knocked me down. I was blessed to be able to experience it this past January. Words cannot describe the beauty and the feeling of awe when you stood inside the massive building and the history that surrounded you. I scattered some of his ashes inside. His ashes people. My point.....he’s been thru fire.....yet yesterday, I was so worried about him. Ridiculous I know.
  5. You’re not crazy.... I have had many experiences. They’re here, even when we don’t “feel” it. I have no doubts.
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    Newly Widowed Again

    I hate that you’re here again, but you’re right, you CAN do hard things. ((((Hugs)))) Happy to meet you for a glass of wine or dinner anytime you want.
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    Michael797 Radio Hell

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    Michael797 Radio Hell

    The funeral is scheduled for Saturday March 9th. 6pm. Klee Funeral home. Address is 1 E Lancaster Ave Shillington PA 19607
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    Last name change

    I battled Big Guy about changing my name....suggested he change his. That didn’t go over too well ha ha. In the end it was important to him so I did. I still haven’t changed it everywhere, but I’m glad I did. It’s unlikely I will ever change it again, because it’s a pain in the ass.
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    I'm an orphan

    I’m so sorry for you loss.
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    My house keeping habits have always been cluttered. I eventually throw things out, but it takes a long time. When Big Guy died I was terrified that this was gonna happen to me.
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    Michael797 Radio Hell

    We have lost a member of our tribe last night. Sadly I was advised this morning that he passed away from stage 4 lung cancer. Michael’s dry, dark, and sarcastic wit will truly be missed. His fiancé may be joining the board, will not advise name as she may want to stay anonymous.
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    Sobbed on new girl

    Congratulations! I will assume Mildred is pleased too! 😀 (dear lord I hope that’s the dogs name ha ha)
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    New loss, old pain

    Hugs to you. Coming up on 8 years, and yes new events can still be hard without them.
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    Triggers in public

    The grocery store was a land mine for me in the early days. I’d reach for something I bought for him, and yes the tears would start flowing. Somewhere around the 6mo point, I realized that I didn’t have a meltdown, and it had actually been several trips since one had occurred. It was a chest pounding moment, and I realized I just might be ok.

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