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Catnip

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  • Date Widowed
    December 2006
  • Cause of death
    Suddenly, pulmonary embolisms

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  1. Did you say yes? Details please! Best wishes to you both! ~Catnip
  2. I'm so very sorry to hear of his passing. Altho I never met him, I feel as though I've known him for many years. He was was huge part of the old web site, and this one as well. God bless you, friend. ~Catnip
  3. I still wear both my engagement ring and wedding band on my left hand as always, right where he put them. It’s been 11 years for me. My wedding band is engraved with his initials to me. It's his gift to me. I guess it’s a tribute to our 26 year marriage. I feel safe with them on. At the funeral home, minutes before they closed the casket, the director asked me if I wanted his ring. I had never given it a thought. Before I could even respond, my three sons, ages 17, 20 and 22 all said “NO! You gave it to him and it’s his.” So I said, “Then I want to be buried with mine.” So he was buried with his wedding ring and I continue to wear mine. I don’t see the difference of moving them to my right hand. Some countries have the right hand as the traditional way to wear them. Rather, I have added a widow ring to my rings. It’s a black band that looks like an anniversary ring. I found it on line at www.expressionsofgrief.com.
  4. Hi Maureen, So good to hear from you. Hope you are enjoying higher ed. I'm in the third week of the semester here. It's so busy. It's been 11 years for me. I'm still at the same job and in the same house. But my dreams have changed. Last night I dreamed about my husband. We were both in the garage with one son. My husband kissed me, a nice long kiss, until my son interrupted us telling us to cut it out! So we all went back into the house where I thanked my husband for coming to me and kissing me, knowing that he's dead and going away again. So even in my dreams I know he's gone. It's finally sunk in. Keep in touch, ~Catnip
  5. Good for you! Good to hear from you. How's Florida these days as I am buried in snow once again here in Upstate NY? ~Catnip
  6. Good for you! Finally! Welcome to higher ed. Just remember, some days it's not too high. But you know this already. Let the fun begin! ~Catnip
  7. Maureen, I wish you peace. It is still so hard, isn't it? It's now been 11 years for me and I still feel the pain. It's because my husband is still dead. Didn't you say, for your first love, that expecting death is one thing but being gone is quite another thing to deal with. For Christmas I received a bracelet with a heart charm that reads "Half my heart is in heaven." How true that is, and will always be. Hugs to you, ~Catnip
  8. My husband loved, loved, loved his job. He lived and breathed computers. He worked all day at it and then would come home and be on our computer at night. I would have to talk to the back of his head if I wanted to talk to him! Ironically, the cemetery is right next to his office building!! The cemetery is this beautiful, lush acre upon acre of green rolling hills, and if you go to the top of a hill you can see thru the trees to his office building. I think he's comfortable there.
  9. Hi Mike, It's been 10 years for me, almost 11. Yes, those moments are fewer but boy they still happen and sometimes with a vengeance, so yes, I understand. I read here a lot, but don't post as much anymore. I'm almost embarrassed to admit that I'm still here. It's been so long and I am no longer a "young" widow. Not much has changed for me; the same job, same house, same kids. I've just become more independent, without hardly even noticing. I still miss him terribly, think of him all the time, but I guess I'm getting used to it (I keep telling myself). Nice to hear from you! ~Catnip
  10. Yes, it happens to me quite frequently. I have 3 sons. They all look like their Dad, especially my youngest. My youngest looks the most like him and really has the same personality. There is something about him when he talks and the expressions on his face remind me so much of my husband. And then he sits at my table for dinner with his one hand on his lap, just like my husband always did. My youngest is 28 years old now and has moved out of the house. I married my husband when he was 25, so he often brings me back in time. I enjoy it because it carries on my husband's legacy. Peace, ~Catnip
  11. Welcome home! ~Catnip
  12. What a busy time for you. Congratulations on finishing your degree! ~Catnip
  13. Now and Forever -Carole King Now and forever, you are a part of me And the memory cuts like a knife Didn't we find the ecstasy, didn't we share the daylight When you walked into my life Now and forever, I'll remember All the promises still unbroken And think about all the words between us That never needed to be spoken We had a moment, just one moment That will last beyond a dream, beyond a lifetime We are the lucky ones Some people never get to do all we got to do Now and forever, I will always think of you Didn't we come together, didn't we live together Didn't we cry together Didn't we play together, didn't we love together And together we lit up the world I miss the tears, I miss the laughter I miss the day we met and all that followed after Sometimes I wish I could always be with you The way we used to do Now and forever, I will always think of you Now and forever, I will always be with you
  14. Me again. So I'm back to work and talk here is about the snow storm. And don't ya know a conversation I had with a professor was that her husband was out of town and she had to make do by herself in the storm. Yeah, my husband is out of town, too. But my husband is not coming back. Ever. It still stung, even after 10 years.
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