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I'm so sorry, Tybec. To be sick on top of everything else triggers even more emotions during this time of year. But, you and your child WILL be just fine...even though it may not seem like it now. Sounds like you ex-guy is trying to string you along with so much contact, either that or he cluelessly thinks sending cards and the texts will allow him to not lose touch with you completely and may alleviate his feelings of guilt. If I were in your shoes and seriously ready to make a clean break, I would do what you're doing and continue to block him and delete any ways of contact. Tough to do, but you've been through worse. You can do this! Wishing you a new, happy beginning in 2020. Big ((((HUGS))))

I was sad to read that things were so difficult and became toxic for you and your wife, but am thrilled to hear that there is now renewed hope. Blending families can cause major issues that can break apart a normally strong relationship. I sounds like you and your wife are cautiously optimistic and that you will both put in the work that will make your marriage stronger in time, if it's meant to be. I'm very hopeful that everything works out for you.

Oh BillieAustin, I am so very sorry for your tremendous loss. Your post brings tears to my eyes as I remember those heartbreaking early days. It has been over 12 years since I lost my dear husband, and although I don't come on this site often, I felt I needed to respond to let you know you're not alone. Although my husband was terminally ill for many years, nothing could prepare me for dealing with his loss after he passed. Those early days and months were definitely very raw and when you've lost your husband suddenly, as you did, I imagine you're in a state of shock and disbelief. Please take each day one day at a time, stay hydrated, try to eat something...anything, but healthy foods will help, breathe deeply if you can, sleep when you can and hold on to those precious babies...…..they need their sweet mama. I just took shallow breaths for so long, that it hurt to breathe, until I forces myself to really breathe again. It will take quite a bit of time, but eventually things become more manageable. For me, the key was to surround myself with people that cared, even if they didn't completely understand. Also, I went to a grief support group, which help but would have been too difficult for me in the very early days. That and/or grief counseling can be very beneficial. Although I still can get teary eyed when I reminisce, my tears now are more happy and grateful tears for having had my wonderful husband in my life. Even though it's hard to imagine now, things will get better but it will take some time. Please remember to be kind to yourself. Sending you virtual hugs and support.

So glad enough time passed and what was such a magnetic pull has become indifference. Happy to hear he doesn't have that hold over you anymore!

Best of luck, CJF, if you try the speed dating route. I also prefer getting to know someone in person first and hope all goes well for you. Let us know how you're doing.

I know how hard all this is. I couldn't get past crying on the phone or in person each time I had to make those calls. I finally, after TWELVE years, changed the name from my late husband's to my own for my electric, water, and gas bills just last week. Can't believe I waited so long, but thought it was finally time. I had paid these bills coming to his name, but didn't even think that was strange. Ugh! My thoughts are with you!

Yay! Good for you!! So happy for you! You did it!

Those past tragic experiences can certainly trigger anxiety and flashbacks to times we would like to forget, but after all these years, I still remember them all too clearly. Thank goodness nothing serious was found, but hope you both just stay vigilant. Sending prayers for continued health and strength. So glad for both of you.

This just breaks my heart for these precious girls' mom and family. I am in tears and in shock that something so horrific can happen to the two sweet angels. Sending heartfelt prayers.

Hope you are doing well, Icoxwell, despite all the sad anniversaries of so many past dates and memories. After all these years, I can definitely relate. I'm so sorry for your cousin's loss, and hope she finds comfort from you and also this site. Sending heartfelt prayers to both of you.

Congratulations. So happy for you and your loved one, Gracelet! Wishing you both many, many happy years together!

I'm so very sorry, Virgo, for another devastating loss. Hugs and prayers in the days and months ahead!

Oh dear Bluebird, my heart aches for you! Back during the YWBB days, I was thrilled you and Wifeless found each other, shared your love story and later your beautiful wedding pictures with us. During the years, you both offered generous and empathetic advice to others in pain, as well as rejoicing with others during their happier times. I wish we could all collectively hold you in our arms to help comfort you. I am so very sorry, Bluebird.

I'm so sorry you are all having to deal with yet another change and can see how devastating this must feel for Araia. As long as he is reassured that your family will always be there for him and that, although your family may be physically moving to a new location, he will always have a place with you, in your heart and home, wherever you go. After all he has been through in his young life, it may take time for him to realize that he is loved and safe with you and your family wherever that may be.

Rob, so thrilled for you and your precious new wife. Wishing you both many, many glorious years of happiness and love together.

Yes, hoping all of our fellow wids and families have stayed safe and also that their homes/shelters have been spared. Heartfelt prayers sent for all those affected.

After all these years, I still "get it" The longing and missing are still there but get more manageable. Just keep doing what you're doing and make your sweet wife proud, as I'm sure she is!

Oh, I am so very sorry! My prayers for all involved and love and peace during this difficult time.

I'm so sorry to read this TooSoon. Sometimes life piles on more than we think we can handle, especially when we have to face big life changes alone. Although the news is devastating and a huge blow, I'm glad it was caught before it could jeopardize your daughter's health further. Sending heartfelt prayers for strength and peace for you and your sweet daughter.

Thin crust pizza with red sauce. Scrambled or over-easy eggs?

Thank you, BH2, for passing on the comfort in knowing that new widows/widowers have a place to land. I don't know what I would have done without the support of my fellow YWBB widows/ers. I can also attest that, although life still holds it's challenges after more than ten years, it has become manageable. I never believed it in the early days, but please have faith that slowly and surely, joy will find you.

Beautiful sentiment, Maureen....and so true.

Rant away all you want. For me, work related stress can trigger all kinds of emotions and intensify any other issues going on in my life. I hope your work dynamics settle down and relieve some of your anxiety. Just wanted to let you know that you are heard and I'm sending virtual hugs and positive thoughts your way.

So happy to hear the good news, Maureen. To be dealt that extra blow after two devastating losses, you sure deserve some peace of mind and good things to come your way.

Down duvet when it's cold and you need snuggly around you. We don't get that much that around here in Texas. but it still feels good on those super cold days. Favorite cold weather soups/stews? Tortilla, Gumbos, Chowders?