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hikermom Sending virtual hugs ~ I get it.

I agree with serpico on this one - not paying means you don't get access to the contents, and it also might be a mark against your credit report - if the lease has your name on it. There are other ways to deal with this, and possibly make some money when you sell all of the stuff. I am amazed at what some people pay good money for - "one man's junk is another man's treasure." An option I considered was bringing in an auctioneer to sell the contents of my storage unit - letting them do their thing and getting it over with quickly. Whoever buys the contents has a couple of days to clear it, and you're then free of the lease. Not all storage facilities allow you to hold your own auction, mine would allow it. For me it was a huge time suck to sort through the storage unit - hand it over to the professionals, IMO.

Beautiful Maureen ~ (((hugs)))

twin_mom Timely post for me, as I just went thru the purge of one of my four storage units. There's so much emotion tied to stuff after death, isn't there? What I did - found an available garage, hired a truck & 2 guys, sent all of that shit to said garage and with the help of a "consolidator", sold all of it at a garage sale. The consolidator went through every little thing - she valued, priced, marketed, put some stuff on ebay and sold the rest at a two-day garage sale. Her commission was 30%, today I got a decent check from this sale and other than clearing the unit with the movers, I didn't lift a finger. Well worth her commission in my opinion. In my area, there are locations where you can take your "estate sale" Have everything sent there, and family can have access if you want, to go through everything. Then sell the rest. You might be surprised at what is found. Good luck ~

Sorry to hear of your friend's death, sugarbell. Sadly it's common for people to believe that a simple act can resolve a bigger problem. Naive thinking, indeed.

I'm having fun reading these - After moving to a new community 2 years ago, I signed up for a French class at a local high school to get out of the house and meet others. After the first class, a fellow student walks me to my car and tells me "you look like you'd be good at salsa, want to go dancing sometime?" Ummmm ..... no??? :

This is so good to hear, I hope that this works out for all of you.

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this, and can't imagine the worry and stress that this is bringing you right now. It's difficult if not impossible to help somebody if they don't want to help themselves. Your son is capable, I hope that his desire for responsibility and independence starts to kick in. As hard as it is to practice tough love, this seems to be the right approach. Big big hugs to you and your son ~

I just can't imagine, such a tragic loss. Hugs and prayers to you and your family.

Took DD's last photo of first day of school this morning. :'( She happily begins her senior year of high school. In two weeks DS and I head off to his college, where he starts his sophomore year. It's a bittersweet time for sure, feeling emotional as these milestone moments go by without DH here.

Rob Disappointing to say the least, in losing a good sitter. This is strange though, even if she didn't have her cell she could find a way to contact you. Maybe your girls can give you an idea on what's going on? Good luck ~

Mimi Good to see you here, and hear of your recent nuptials - congrats! And sorry to learn of the breakup of your son's marriage.

I've been caught off guard by well meaning people with their texts or phone calls - it was embarrassing that I completely forgot DH's birthday the second year. I appreciate that some remember my DH and the special days, but it still hurts so much. There's nothing good about this journey. As Trying says - Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

SVS I too think that having a friend drive you on the road first is a good idea. I would also make sure that the friend knows what you've been through, and that the drive needs to be handled in a sensitive way. Maybe go for lunch on the way, try to make it as positive an experience as you can. You can do this. Big hugs ~

A great book, I'm a voracious reader and always have a stack of books going. If the movie is made, I'll see it after reading the book. Mexican or Chinese food?

Ugh, just ugh. In my experience so far, older folks seem to think that getting a man is a widow's main focus. I've had awkward moments in social situations where I'm standing with a couple and the wife is possessively clutching her husband. Yeah, as if ..... :o

So sorry to hear this, hoping for a good prognosis for your Mom. Big big hugs to you ~

Sounds like you are in the right place for where you and your kids are right now. No doubt it will be an adjustment, hopefully the transition will be a smooth one and you'll look back in a few months realizing that it's getting easier. I can relate as I also feel like I'm in a place right now where I need to be, not necessarily where I want to be. Once my kids are out and on their own, no telling where I'll end up. Big kudos to you for making the move, and it's great that you're in and getting settled!

SVS Great topic, most of yours are mine too! To add to that - 1. Our daughter is now driving and has her own car. 2. We live in Florida full-time. 3. I'm closer with your family than ever before. 4. Our dear dog Lucy died and we now have a big floppy rescue dog named Tequila. 5. It's taken two years and lots of organization to finally sort through 4 storage units. 6. Our son is minoring in music at college. 7. We're doing okay

Oh my, so sorry to hear of this. I hope that he gets the help needed and that you find some peace in the days ahead

Wow, what a pain to deal with this guy - not only is he insensitive to your time and space, but also to any sense of decorum. Hopefully he's on his way by now. Hugs ~

So sorry for the loss of your mother, DT. I hope for peaceful moments for you in the days and weeks ahead

Love Pixar films, so glad to hear that this is a good one and added bonus to know that nobody dies! The kids and I plan to see it at the theatre this week, looking forward to it!

Maureen Big hugs to you on your anniversary

So sorry for your loss, Mrs. Dan