sapperswife

Hello all, It has been a long time since I've been here but figured that this maybe is the best place to get some advice. My Sapper has been gone 3.5 years and I've done a fairly good job carrying on without him. Now in just a few weeks, my baby graduates from high school and I transition from a parent of children to a parent of adults. Another change in Idenity. My oldest was recently diagnosed with depression and is on meds. But has no job and no ambition to find one. The baby doesn't have a job either and no forward motion to get one or enroll in school. And all I want to do is sell our family home and try living on the Va pension I have. I feel a moral responsibility to ensure my kids are stable but I can't\wont do it for them and they won't\can't do it for themselves. I feel trapped and frustrated. Anyone know a magic trick to lights fire under a pair of "quasi-adults" ?

HI, I am so glad I found you all. I was on the old site before It closed and I just found you again. Life is moving right along, weather I want it to or not. I started a new job. and all in all life is tolerable. Some days I even get so wrapped up in day to day that I don't think about my LH. But other days, I can't seem to think of any thing else. .I need a sounding board, and no one in my life is willing to be that anymore. I found a real estate listing for some property in the mountains here in Montana. in is right next door to some property that my LH's family owned and sold before he died.He spent the happiest times of his life there. he was able to share that place with us and we loved it there. my first instinct is "I want that:" It is just a empty 3 acre spot with nothing on it but wild grasses and weeds. It would take a lot of money and work to even put a small cabin on it.. I still want it. it just might be the only place that i can Feel my LH because I cant find him here. Even If I cant find him it is such a peaceful, beautiful place. It is so quiet and it is just a different kind of life there. We used to dream of a quiet retirement there. having a garden, entertaining grandkids, creating memories in the unspoiled wonder of the mountains. I still want that. I am just not sure if I can do it by myself. maybe i will just wait until spring and see where I am then.