StillWidowed Posted September 19, 2017 Share Posted September 19, 2017 The emotionally unavailable ex pulled his usual stunt and texted me after months and months of no contact. It's been a long and painful road getting over him. In the past, he would contact me, and we would repeat the cycle, resulting in me being further hurt and disappointed. But this time was different. After he texted me, I waited 4 days before responding with the following: "It's taken a long time for my heart to catch up to my head, but I'm finally making progress. Please do not contact me anymore". I've never in all the years he's played the ever seductive withholding dance, told him to jog on. After I did, I called my mother and cried on the phone to her. I know I did the right thing, and had finally come to the place where I'd rather be alone than spend another minute on a man that did nothing but jerk me around. But still, it felt so final. For any of you out there that are going thru something similar, hang in there. Trying to navigate thru the waters of the dating world after loss seems to make it all the more difficult. Especially when you give your heart and have it broken, again. Hold onto hope, even when some days feel hopeless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jgib Posted September 19, 2017 Share Posted September 19, 2017 congratulations Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted September 19, 2017 Share Posted September 19, 2017 Way to go SW!! Way to care for yourself!! Hugs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted September 19, 2017 Share Posted September 19, 2017 That took guts and a heavy dose of self respect, way to go! As hard as it is, don't doubt that you did the right thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted September 20, 2017 Share Posted September 20, 2017 Good for you!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MR Posted September 20, 2017 Share Posted September 20, 2017 Great. Keep it going. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kjs1989 Posted September 20, 2017 Share Posted September 20, 2017 You are taking care of YOU! Better things are ahead. After what we have been through, it is just a blip on the radar of life. Believe that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faye Posted September 22, 2017 Share Posted September 22, 2017 "I'd rather be alone than spend another minute on a man that did nothing but jerk me around." A lifetime ago, I had just moved back to the city that would be my home for years. I was hanging around some of my old friends. I told my Mom that if I kept hanging around them, I would probably end up back with Old Boyfriend, who was a jerk. She asked if that was what I wanted, and I told her no. She suggested I not hang around those people. I took her advice. It still hurt, though,for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captains wife Posted September 22, 2017 Share Posted September 22, 2017 Seriously - good for you. This is the best thing you can do for yourself. I was in a somewhat similar situation and finally I told him good bye for good. I miss him a bit, sure, (the good side) but it was the best thing I ever did - I got him out of my space, heart and mind. I feel free now of his toxic situation (he was also a huge drinker). It feels so good to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 5, 2017 Share Posted October 5, 2017 You go, girl. Now that you have done it, it will be easier to spot the jerks in future and tell them to get to steppin right away. {{{hugs}}} Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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