Virgo Posted July 31, 2015 Share Posted July 31, 2015 I feel the same way Jen! Phil and I were a 5-10 times a week couple. We rarely went more than 3 days without. Going from that to nothing is awful. I've had two FWB offers, but so far I've refrained. I'm not sure if I'm just not ready, or if I'm holding out for something more. Phil was my one and only. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted August 2, 2015 Share Posted August 2, 2015 I feel the same way Jen! Phil and I were a 5-10 times a week couple. We rarely went more than 3 days without. Going from that to nothing is awful. I'm so sorry. (((Hugs))) At the risk of inflicting serious TMI on y'all... I've never felt, um, satisfied with my sex life, even when I had one. My drive was always higher than either of my husbands'-- xh used it as a weapon to leverage power in what turned out to be a really twisted relationship (he would withhold until he got his way about whatever, and pathetic fool that I was, I put up with it for way too long). Jim's spirit was willing but he had physical limitations-- I mostly just learned to live with being frustrated. Of course, I only thought I was frustrated then... :-\ I'm at a loss here-- for real. I am genuinely concerned that I will never have sex again, and that is a serious issue. Like-- possibly requiring therapy to cope with it. Maybe I'm blowing it way out of proportion, but right now it feels like the end of the f***ing world, if you'll pardon the halfhearted pun. Just had to vent. Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted August 3, 2015 Share Posted August 3, 2015 I know it's frustrating and difficult not to wonder when it will happen for us, but it will. Even if it's not a lasting relationship. Mr.Right Now instead of Mr.Right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gracelet Posted August 3, 2015 Share Posted August 3, 2015 I had sex last night with a girl after the 3rd date (yes, I'm a bit of a player). Is she Future Wife? Don't think so. It continues to amaze me that other people would want me despite my full disclosure of my widowhood, but people do! The time will come for you all if you want it. In the mean time, don't let yourselves go - Mr Right, or Mr Right Now will find his way into your life. I have to say that going to the gym has given me way more confidence that I ever used to have in bed. And I make sure I shave my legs. I do it for ME, not anyone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twistedmensa Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 Just in conversation someone I know mentioned they have not had sex since 2006. 9 years!!! She's divorced, not widowed. I just can't get that number out of my mind. 9 years!!! This struck a chord with me. It has been 9 years for me as well. My husband was on so many meds for PTSD that it simply wasn't physically possible and he was ashamed to the point of not wanting ANY form of sex. Thankfully, our bond was strong enough to survive this, but he has been gone nearly a year and a half now and I am nothing if not horny. Sadly (or not), I'm not really wired for a one nighter and I certainly don't feel ready for a relationship so I'm trapped in this hideous limbo of desperately wanting/needing intimacy, but not really being in a position to deal with the emotions that come along with it. I hate this shit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted August 25, 2015 Share Posted August 25, 2015 I'm not ruling out a one night stand, but I don't think I'm wired for it either. Some days, like today, I could be easily tempted. I have two friends that have already expressed their willingness to fullfill that need for me. I hate this shit too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted August 27, 2015 Share Posted August 27, 2015 Make that three for hating this shit. I wish I could turn my damned brain off. Or else I wish... no, better not, that's pretty X-rated, even for this thread. Lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted September 29, 2015 Share Posted September 29, 2015 Must be having a hormone spike... right now, I desperately want someone to jump me. :-\ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtokam Posted October 3, 2015 Share Posted October 3, 2015 Must be having a hormone spike... right now, I desperately want someone to jump me. :-\ Yup! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted October 3, 2015 Share Posted October 3, 2015 Things are getting desperate. I was at the grocery store this afternoon, and I was seized by the insane desire to climb up on a table in the produce department and yell, "SOMEONE PLEASE JUST SHAG ME ALREADY!!!!!!!!!" Ugh. Ugh... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted October 4, 2015 Share Posted October 4, 2015 Haha wow Jen lol. I've been looking at guys opening the door for me and whatnot thinking ' oh yeah' lol! Table in the produce, oh girl hugs to you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 Skin-on-skin contact while I listen to a heartbeat. That's all. It doesn't have to go any further (though I doubt I'd say no). Somebody, please, just cuddle me. Please??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted October 19, 2015 Share Posted October 19, 2015 Can a person go insane from sex deprivation? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 If I'm anything to go by, then, yes. Out of the mouths of babes: I'm an inveterate ice chewer. I love ice, crave ice, crunch ice all day long. I've done it for years-- I had tapered off considerably, then ramped up again over the past few months. Yesterday, my ten-year-old son looked up from his tablet and told my mother, "I figured out why Mum chews ice. It's a sign of being sexually frustrated." :o :o :o There has GOT to be a solution... right? Please?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 The solution would be to have sex. Not that simple though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 Lol, yeah... easier said than done, unfortunately. Crawling back into bed to cry now... I'm so sick of this shit. I need to go visit the "fuck you" thread. :-\ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lcoxwell Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 Given that my Kenneth could not have sex for a very long time, before he died, it has now been so long since I had real, actual sex, that I cannot even remember when the last time was. What I need is one really good, mind-numbing, knee-quivering, toe-curling orgasm. For that matter, it's been so long that even one good, old-fashioned, roll in the hay without said orgasm would be good, too. Heck, I would simply just like to "get nekkid" with a man (as my Kenneth would have said). My mother would be appalled that I just said that, if she knew. On the other hand, if Kenneth were able to read it, he would get one really good laugh out of this. ;D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jlp Posted October 27, 2015 Share Posted October 27, 2015 So, are there really such things as "gigolos"? Only in Vegas, I'm sure. Hmmm. Maybe a Bago for us ladies? Or maybe I should just up my antidepressant... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meema Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 There actually are gigolos in Vegas. I researched it. Online, not in person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luvmy2babies Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 If I'm anything to go by, then, yes. Out of the mouths of babes: I'm an inveterate ice chewer. I love ice, crave ice, crunch ice all day long. I've done it for years-- I had tapered off considerably, then ramped up again over the past few months. Yesterday, my ten-year-old son looked up from his tablet and told my mother, "I figured out why Mum chews ice. It's a sign of being sexually frustrated." :o :o :o There has GOT to be a solution... right? Please?? YIKES! I've always been told I do that because I'm anemic. I've read that too actually and when I'm good about taking my extra iron (not always) the craving (for ice) does lessen. Not to say that the other isn't true for me at times. I want to be loved from the inside out in every way at this point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TalksToAngels Posted November 5, 2015 Share Posted November 5, 2015 I peel beer bottle labels. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobFTC Posted November 5, 2015 Share Posted November 5, 2015 I think if all the other things get im the way, all the sex in the world won't replace the feeling of partnership... Perhaps not, but I am hoping to put this theory through clinical trials just to be sure :-) Take care, Rob T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TalksToAngels Posted November 5, 2015 Share Posted November 5, 2015 Rob you should try Hookup. com ; ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 I want to be loved from the inside out in every way at this point. Yes, please. Please? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted November 24, 2015 Share Posted November 24, 2015 I'm thinking I'll just grab a random guy at the grocery store today. Lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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