Beyond Frustrated

[TLD110166]

I lost my husband of 2 months on January 23rd. I'm no longer trying to deal with a million and one things at once, and it hit me in the face a couple of days ago that my husband is gone, and I'm alone.

 

I just don't know what to do anymore. I've thought about trying to find a job, to give me something to do, and to bring in a bit of extra income. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to find anything. I'm disabled, can only work part time, and in a job I can do sitting down. I'm night blind, so I can only take a job where I'd be going to and from during daylight hours. Due to living out in the middle of the country, there's really nothing within 30 miles other than retail, cleaning, and hotels.

 

I have an appointment in early June, to file for the social security death and survivor's benefits, but will probably be denied, even though the claims are being filed under their accidental death rules, since we weren't married for a year when he passed away. I've appealed the ruling from the VA that I don't qualify for any benefits as a surviving spouse, since we weren't married a year. The Teamsters was notified a few days after Jim passed away, but I have yet to hear anything on my claim for his pension. That was filed 3 months ago. I've called several times, but have never been able to talk to the person actually working on the claim.

 

At this point, I'm beyond frustrated.......

[MR]

Hi,
Sorry to hear about your husband. Please take one day at a time. It is difficult journey but hopefully will get little better for  you. Sending hugs your way.

Manoj

[TLD110166]

Thank you. It's been a rough few months.

[beth_krkswidow]

SO so sorry that you landed here in this hell called widowhood. So sorry for your loss. And sorry to hear of your frustrating triybles, Sending hugsyour way

[TLD110166]

Thank you. I finally was able to talk to the person handling the teamsters pension claim. I have to fax them his birth certificate, my birth certificate, our marriage certificate, and his death certificate. The rules in Chicago only allow someone to order a copy of their own birth certificate, or their child's, or parents. Spouses aren't allowed to. Fortunately, I have a copy of his birth certificate in the safety deposit box at the bank.