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RyanAmysMom

Will the remembering ever not hurt?

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Had the most wonderful date with my two teenage kids tonight - And toward the end of the evening, I was reminded of how much their dad would laugh at certain things they'd do....  And it hurt so deeply, so sharp...... 

 

Will it ever not hurt to remember?  When will I get those "sweet" memories?  I want to remember and smile...... I'm so tired of crying....

 

3 years 2 months 2 hours........

 

 

 

 

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Yes RAM, I remember feeling just as you are now.  I wondered if it would ever just not hurt remembering.  I can say yes, most of the time now I don't get that searing pain thinking back on our life together.  There are still things I remember that still kind of hurt but for the most part now I fondly remember with a softness in my heart.  

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I totally understand. I'm in my 10th year now. It hurts most when his son is hurting. Otherwise for the most part, I'm at peace.

 

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Five years and most memories bring a smile.  And then occasionally - a memory brings on tears, usually involving the kids and us as a family and how he should be here with us.    

 

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Yes, the time will come when a smile crosses your lips before a tear falls. There are still times that are challenging for me. The loss will always have the hurtful days vut most will be good ones. 

 

I miss our life together. That will never, ever go away. It's a learn to live with it thing for me.

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Its weird - sometimes I smile reflecting on remembering my late husband, my son's Dad....sometime I cry. (I'm over 6 years out). Yesterday my son and I were talking about Dad memories and it was very sad and I also continue to wonder what life would have been like if he was still with us.

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