sudnlysngl Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 I need help in how to handle a person who every time something is said around them, no matter the subject or situation they make it about them! It is making me and others bat s**t crazy!!! So many people think she is soo sweet, but some of her comments to pat herself on the back, and or turn all conversations around to be about her is making some want to say something that could be taken in a hurtful way, and they and I want to shove her away. Not push, but SHOVE... How would you guys handle this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Portside Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 I find a throat punch usually works. 🤣 No, honestly, I have never discovered a way to get these type of people to shut up. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rooshy Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 I believe this might be a narcissistic trait. I had a former boss that behaved this way and no one could stand her. A good example is that she knew I was a young widow but she went through a divorce so she deserved so much more sympathy. I would just ignore this person. Most likely she doesn't understand why people want to shove her anyway. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julester3 Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 Totally narcissistic behavior. You can do nothing for people who are like this. They automatically do it and deny it when you face them with it. I tend to steer clear and be vague with them when I have to interact with them. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 The only thing you can do is be honest with them about how their actions make other people feel. They can deny their actions, but they can't really dismiss everyone's feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sudnlysngl Posted September 21, 2018 Author Share Posted September 21, 2018 Thanks everyone! 😁 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soloact Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 Your post reminded me of someone I know. I limit my exposure to her. I'm not inclined to think folks like this will ever be self aware. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sudnlysngl Posted September 30, 2018 Author Share Posted September 30, 2018 So I have been taking all of your advice. But this person is still "pushing" themselves into some conversations, and/or starting another one when not included. Like a 5 year old having to have the last word! This is NOT a person one can have a talk with, as many will defend them because of their boo hoo oh poor me attitude. I just know if it's making me crazy, it has to be making others crazy to when talking about something and this person ALWAYS makes about them! Again, thanks to those of you who gave some great advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mosaic Posted November 29, 2018 Share Posted November 29, 2018 Are you able to suddenly "need" to go pee when she does that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sudnlysngl Posted November 29, 2018 Author Share Posted November 29, 2018 18 hours ago, Mosaic said: Are you able to suddenly "need" to go pee when she does that? Not so much as it is someone in cyber world! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mosaic Posted December 3, 2018 Share Posted December 3, 2018 Ooooooh. Well you can still just ignore this person. Or give a tiny acknowledgement, and then change the subject. "Yeah, that sucks. Hey guys, you'll never guess what my cat just did!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captains wife Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 (edited) I think about something else while they are talking and then just nod and smile and throw in the obligatory comment now and then. I have a few people around me that its all about them....and sometimes I am ok to listen (rather than talk about myself) and other times I just need to tune out as I cant listen anymore. Given what I have seen and heard and dealt with post widow, nothing and I mean nothing surprises me anymore and I can see how self centered a lot of people are (and these same people are not self reflective so its always about them). On the (positive) flipside, I have also met a lot of people that are not like this - thank goodness. One more observation - I have so much on my plate and my tolerance for bad energy is limited so I tend to actively avoid people or at least really limit my interactions with people that drain my energy or have bad energy karma. I know I can come across as a bit rude sometimes by doing that but that's what I need so I do it : ) Edited December 17, 2018 by Captains wife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted December 17, 2018 Share Posted December 17, 2018 I have had very similar experience as well CW. My tolerance is low for other peoples self centered BS. Hugs 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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