Julia Posted October 1, 2018 Share Posted October 1, 2018 It's not getting easier. It's really setting in now. I talk to Chris every night, hoping he can somehow hear me. It physically aches. I don't know what to do without him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 Hi, Julia, It isn't going to get easier for awhile. But talk to him...channel his memory to yourself. If it comforts you to imagine the conversation you might have with him...then talk all you want. Just 10 days or so ago, I pulled up a chair at the cemetery where I buried my first husband 9 years ago and I talked as if he could hear me. 9 years...a couple of lifetimes, really...and I just wanted to talk to him. I think he listened, because I left feeling less sad and less burdened. Does it matter if this makes sense to anyone else? Nope. It helped me...and that is what matters. Hugs, Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julia Posted October 2, 2018 Author Share Posted October 2, 2018 Thanks, Maureen. I can't tell if he's listening or not but I like to think he is. It usually makes me feel better but sometimes it makes me cry my eyes out. Kinda a craps shoot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trying2breathe Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 In those early days I talked to him a lot, also wrote to him and journaled and it helped. Five years out, I believe he still hears me and I always feel better after talking to him. So sorry for your loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julester3 Posted October 2, 2018 Share Posted October 2, 2018 I also journaled to my LH. A lot in my first year. I typed it out in an ongoing word document. It's nearly a book. It really helped me work out my feelings and problems and made me feel better. I'm 2 1/2 years out and write once in awhile now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captains wife Posted October 3, 2018 Share Posted October 3, 2018 I'm so sorry - I remember how tough and heart wrenching the first months were. Please take good care of yourself. I used to "will" myself to see him standing in front of me and think about what I'd say (even a few years out). Talking to him sounds very therapeutic. I'm almost 7 years out now but things have felt better for me over time - I still miss him but the pain of it isn't even close to the early days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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