This loss really got me

[Eddienhp]

I have a disabled son who has community support workers who help him. One of his workers passed away suddenly. She was with us since 2015. Needless to say we are devastated. The loss is magnified by my children's grief. They were so young when my husband passed. They don't remember it. So, in their minds, this is their first death they have experienced.  

 

I have been affected in very strong ways. I can't think clearly, barely getting things done. I feel like I am going to get sick. I am heartbroken. This lady passed from circumstances that shouldn't have happened. It doesn't seem right. She was a tremendous force in the disabled community so a terrible loss for us and a tragic loss for her family.

 

This lady was like family to us. I see my kids grieve; both in such different ways. One shut down and the other talks about it. I feel like I have to hide from one child so the other child can speak. I have now assumed this lady's working hours with my son. I can't bear to replace her with another worker. I doubt my son would be ready anyway. I'm not ready.

 

This loss really knocked me to my knees. My husband's death was so different. He had cancer and battled close to two years.

 

This one got me.

Eileen

 

 

[Bunny]

I’m so sorry. That all sounds just so overwhelming and devastating. And unfair. I know you will find your way eventually, but you know it’s okay to be lost for a while...

[Wheelerswife]

Compounded losses. I’m so sorry, Eileen. 

 

Hugs,

 

Maureen