arneal Posted April 30, 2016 Share Posted April 30, 2016 I tell my puppy I love her 20 plus times a day. I talk to her like she's a human and she is the best listener! I also sleep at the end of my king bed sideways just to spoon her. She gets belly rubs every morning(my therapy) and is just as spoiled as my husband was. I really don't know what I would do without her constant silly and neediness! I have two monsters (my four-legged babies ... the girl is 60 lb and the boy is 70 lb) and a California King bed. My girl sleeps for part of the night on what was my husband's side of the bed and the boy turns in about 35 circles and falls down as close to me as possible. He often leaves me about two inches of bed Anyway, it makes the whole thing less painful having them to care for ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted April 30, 2016 Share Posted April 30, 2016 Okay, one more: because of my husband's health, the doctor had said he needed to sleep with the head of the bed up higher. This was back in the healthier days and so he boosted it with bricks and boards (McGuyver, anyone?). The day or so after he died, I pulled all that stuff out and flattened the bed. I'm able to sleep peacefully, even though I it took me about a month to even sit on his side of the bed ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeanGenie Posted April 30, 2016 Share Posted April 30, 2016 Here's my widow confession for today.... First some background... When I work in the yard, I tend to wear my husband's old sweats/athletic pants and shirts. Two reasons for this: 1) I don't have any 'work' clothes of my own (didn't have to do this "before") and 2) they're big and comfy and it's okay if they get ruined. Anyhow today, while working outside, I realized I needed to run to the hardware store. So here I am, in a pair of his old, baggy gray sweatpants, a large gray henley shirt, and a ragged fleece zippered jacket, with my hair pulled back in a ponytail and no makeup and off I go to the hardware store. I would have NEVER left the house like this "before"! But now I don't care. Of course, I laughed to think that maybe I would run into Mr. Right while at the hardware store. Yeah, real attractive! At least I could only get better looking! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LiveToRide Posted April 30, 2016 Share Posted April 30, 2016 I thought I would try to clean out his underwear drawer. After taking everything out, I meticulously folded it all and put it back. But then I decided to wear his boxers to bed with one of his t-shirts. I now have about 15 pajama "sets" for the summer I had all of my husbands boxer briefs put away until I read this post. Now they are all back in his dresser, and damn they are comfy! ;D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted May 1, 2016 Share Posted May 1, 2016 I have my husband's pj's. And his robe. The set of pajamas they have shorts are snug in the thighs for me but since I am going to the gym, I figure I will fit them one day ;D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kater Posted May 2, 2016 Share Posted May 2, 2016 I thought I would try to clean out his underwear drawer. After taking everything out, I meticulously folded it all and put it back. But then I decided to wear his boxers to bed with one of his t-shirts. I now have about 15 pajama "sets" for the summer I had all of my husbands boxer briefs put away until I read this post. Now they are all back in his dresser, and damn they are comfy! ;D I like the idea that I am sort of sharing "crotch space" with him. And I can't even believe I said that, but it IS the confessions thread! I suppose lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted May 2, 2016 Share Posted May 2, 2016 I love these confessions. Especially " sharing crotch space"! I'm having skin hunger like you wouldn't believe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted May 8, 2016 Share Posted May 8, 2016 I'm having skin hunger like you wouldn't believe. Me too. I'm climbing out of my skin. A gentleman happened to put his hand on my back while reaching for the half and half at Starbucks the other day, and I wanted to shriek, "TAKE ME NOW!!!!" I cry all the time... I'm so starved for intimacy (physical and emotional), I'm starting to think I won't survive this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted May 11, 2016 Share Posted May 11, 2016 So sorry, Jen. You will make it through. One day, one second, one breath at a time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Taurus Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 So sorry, Jen. You will make it through. One day, one second, one breath at a time. Jen doesn't want to make it through - she wants to make out 8) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted May 26, 2016 Share Posted May 26, 2016 My confession... I turned down sex again today. I know, probably not what a lot of you want to hear. It's a step forward for me though. I think I'm ready for a little more than just physical gratification. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted May 27, 2016 Share Posted May 27, 2016 Jen, you have to go at your own pace ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrskro Posted May 27, 2016 Share Posted May 27, 2016 Virgo; Nothing wrong with that. Good for you for knowing you want more! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruth Posted July 9, 2016 Share Posted July 9, 2016 I sometimes think I created this whole thing-- from finding Jim to marrying him and then on through to losing him-- as some St Elsewhere or Dallas-style extended dream sequence in order to deal with the colossal disaster that was my first marriage. It was never real, so I don't belong here--or anywhere else, as far as I can tell, except maybe some freak show someplace. Guilty! I can't get myself to shower most of the time, so I do bucket-washes instead... Eating is a mess and I'm glad if I eat a real meal every other day. I've stopped caring about taking the clean and dry laundry off the clothesline and putting it in the wardrobe. That's it for today Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted July 9, 2016 Share Posted July 9, 2016 I struggle because my first marriage, which I was also widowed from, was horrid. No other way to describe it. I feel terrible, speaking ill of the dead, but if I knew then what I know now I wouldn't have gotten involved with him. That means I wouldn't have my one and only son now, who is on the autism spectrum with other emotional and developmental issues. I struggle with thoughts that I did my son a disservice. But then, like in Jen's quote, the second marriage was like a dream, making up for the first. And then he died as well. What's strange is the emotion associated with telling someone I've been widowed twice. There are times when I am nervous about saying it, afraid that (since I am trying to date now) that a person I'm interested in will recoil in horror. Other times, I tell it to back people off who I feel are pressuring me to get too close, too fast. How to find balance. And peace ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsDan Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 I FUCKING HATE MY JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 Oh, MrsDan -- so sorry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted October 6, 2016 Share Posted October 6, 2016 Solo sexy time has reduced me to tears after orgasm. I hate my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 6, 2016 Share Posted October 6, 2016 Missing! Are you dating or considering it? Not that doing so is the answer to all pain, but just wondering. {{{{Hugs}}}} Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted October 6, 2016 Share Posted October 6, 2016 I dated previously, but I haven't found the right person to spend any considerable time with. Most men have made me feel super uncomfortable post widowhood. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 6, 2016 Share Posted October 6, 2016 So sorry, Missing. Do you think that is the case because the men are uncomfortable about widowhood or that you may not be ready to be with someone else? Not prying and please don't feel that you have to answer. I know it might just be that your Ch2 hasn't come on your scene yet, which is fine, too. However, sometimes waiting is so difficult ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted October 6, 2016 Share Posted October 6, 2016 I've felt comfortable with two guys post widowhood. One was a bf for 10 months, and that didn't work out. And the other was a guy I recently dumped. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 7, 2016 Share Posted October 7, 2016 Could just be one of those seasons, Missing. right after my husband died, I went through a period where I didn't want to be with anyone ever again. Then, I got somewhat paranoid and wanted somebody to live with. I mean, I even considered a live-in housekeeper (like I can afford that!). I had a conversation with my stepdaughter, who is 30, about coming to live here as she gets herself situated again. My husband did not want me to be alone if something happened to him and as I thought more about how he had said that to me and to our pastor at the time, I wanted to look for a mate of some sort :-\ After one weird online experience, I met current NG and feel very comfortable with him. I am hoping this will be my Ch3. In this process, I think we all go through patches of 'okay', 'horrid', 'good', and so on ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
November Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 I met a guy online and went on a date with him. He stunk so bad and his breath was offensive! He smelled so bad...Yuck! I excused myself to go to the bathroom and literally had to force myself not to leave. Came back and ended the date! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
November Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 My confession for today is: Tomorrow is my birthday and some of my friends and I are going out. I'm crossing my fingers that I meet someone and get lucky! That's what I want for my birthday...sex! ;D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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