DrBanner

"So, how long have you been divorced?"

What if you try something like this:

 

 

"I'm interested in getting to know you better. What setting would you feel most comfortable with? If I'm rushing things, please let me know. I don't want you to feel uncomfortable in any way."

 

I have almost no experience with the online dating thing either - so I am probably not the best person to ask. I am only going by what I'd like to hear if I were on the receiving end...

 

Good luck!

Donna

That's good. Comfortable is the key. 

A lot of women (and men) are wary of online dating so sometimes if a "let's meet" comes too early, it may cause some hesitation. I would offer to speak on the phone first and you can offer up your number and ask if there is a convenient time to talk. If conversation going well, then mention coffee or date. And I think sometimes people are online for companionship so just like the banter with limited interest in doing too many dates. All the best,

Thanks everyone. The second choice, volunteering my number, is what I usually do. And that's losing in a landslide in the vote. And no, not using The Hulk avatar. 

Everyone's different of course. In my experience women seem to prefer both meeting and stopping contact suddenly over talking on the phone. I'm just flustered.

I've found when I've been afraid to move forward the best thing to do is head down & charge ahead. Things usually turn out fine & you end up pleasantly surprised.

Multiple Myeloma. I had never heard of it before. A cancer in the bone marrow. She died of a massive stroke about 4 months after she was diagnosed.

I think I may be shooting myself in the foot online. As many creepy guys as there are online I don't want to accidentally sound like one of them. I've recently been messaging with a few women, then when we get to the "hey let's meet" part sudden silence. Any suggestions on what not to say or what to definitely say?

"When it comes to making a big change in your life you have to want it more than you fear it." - Unknown